did anyone else feel like this while pregnant?

Mantha · Oct 1st, 2010, 15:48 PM

i feel really really protective of my little man. I dont like the idea of everyone passing my baby around and kissing him on the head and things like that.
An i feel like im not going to want anyone to have him for a few hours. Lol it sounds silly but its really starting to worry me. I know family will want to be involved with things n sit n have a cuddle n maybe feed him. But i just feel like im not goin to want them to.
I dnt wnt to be over protective, but i just feel like i am guna be. Maybe its just because ibe had ppl saying my baby n thinking there guna b at mine everyday when he arrives i dont know.

Did anyone else feel like this? An if so what wa u like when ppl were holding your LO or had them for a few hours??

Xx

fluffpuffin · Oct 1st, 2010, 15:51 PM

I felt like this once she arrived. I didn't think I would but for the first 2 - 3 weeks or so I didn't particularly like anyone else holding her for any length of time, it has eased up now though. I had to tell myself that people won't take her away, they just want to cuddle her for a few minutes.

KimB1980 · Oct 1st, 2010, 16:12 PM

I did feel the same. Now I'm happy to share her with the people I love when visiting although she hasnt been babysat yet (1st time will be in November when she will be nearly 4months and the new Harry Potter film is out).
But from the day she was born my fiancé and I have always known whats best for her - like how she prefers to be held so sometimes when other people do hold her I do find myself (even my mum & sister) to adjust her.

**AtomicPink** · Oct 1st, 2010, 16:13 PM

I'm really terrible.

When she was little I would crack up if someone held her wrong, or kissed her, or anything. As she got older I felt a bit better though. I know that at the end of the day I get the best of her

I refuse point blank to let anyone feed my LO but me and OH still.

I wont let anyone look after her but i need to let my guard down for the 2nd LO on its way, I'm going to need a lil support and my mum is offering!

3 girlies · Oct 1st, 2010, 16:18 PM

i hate it, why do people always stroke babies hair so it goes all greasy looking????

i cant stand it, i had a friend ask to do skin to skin cuddling with sydnee, i was horrified!!!!

i think its natural to be protective x

shamrockerjo · Oct 1st, 2010, 16:26 PM

I've never left Maya with anyone and I really don't want to either, and I've never let anyone else feed her either, just me and hubby. Even though I never breastfed Maya (I did express exclusively for the first two months though) I still think feeding is a bonding experience between parent and baby. I don't think that's me being overprotective though. The only person I don't like holding Maya is my MIL but I don't have a problem with anyone else cuddling her.

SKATERBUN · Oct 1st, 2010, 16:32 PM

Im ok about it actually, In fact when someone else holds her I kind of feel a bit detatched, I dont feel as protective as I think I should, I suppose I only let people I trust implicitly hold her. I'm glad of the rest TBH, she is a little handful!

mrsthomas623 · Oct 1st, 2010, 16:48 PM

I felt like that and still at 4 months I do not like other people to hold him. I let people hold him and cuddle him.. but I hate it. Dont know why, just cannot stand it.

mrsthomas623 · Oct 1st, 2010, 16:50 PM

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Originally Posted by 3 girlies

i hate it, why do people always stroke babies hair so it goes all greasy looking????

i cant stand it, i had a friend ask to do skin to skin cuddling with sydnee, i was horrified!!!!

i think its natural to be protective x

WTH!! Thats so weird, thats for bonding between parents and baby.. I would have def. told them no.

RainbowDrop_x · Oct 1st, 2010, 16:50 PM

I felt like that when I was pregnant and in the first few weeks I wouldn't let anyone else feed her. I didn't mind people having cuddles though.

After a while though you'll be glad for the offer of someone else feeding (if you're FFing).

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Mantha Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2010 Location: Huddersfield Posts: 219	did anyone else feel like this while pregnant? i feel really really protective of my little man. I dont like the idea of everyone passing my baby around and kissing him on the head and things like that. An i feel like im not going to want anyone to have him for a few hours. Lol it sounds silly but its really starting to worry me. I know family will want to be involved with things n sit n have a cuddle n maybe feed him. But i just feel like im not goin to want them to. I dnt wnt to be over protective, but i just feel like i am guna be. Maybe its just because ibe had ppl saying my baby n thinking there guna b at mine everyday when he arrives i dont know. Did anyone else feel like this? An if so what wa u like when ppl were holding your LO or had them for a few hours?? Xx

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fluffpuffin Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: a German in the UK Posts: 12,728	I felt like this once she arrived. I didn't think I would but for the first 2 - 3 weeks or so I didn't particularly like anyone else holding her for any length of time, it has eased up now though. I had to tell myself that people won't take her away, they just want to cuddle her for a few minutes.

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KimB1980 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Bedford Posts: 449	I did feel the same. Now I'm happy to share her with the people I love when visiting although she hasnt been babysat yet (1st time will be in November when she will be nearly 4months and the new Harry Potter film is out). But from the day she was born my fiancé and I have always known whats best for her - like how she prefers to be held so sometimes when other people do hold her I do find myself (even my mum & sister) to adjust her.

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AtomicPink Mum (Mom) BabyandBump Team Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 27,374	I'm really terrible. When she was little I would crack up if someone held her wrong, or kissed her, or anything. As she got older I felt a bit better though. I know that at the end of the day I get the best of her I refuse point blank to let anyone feed my LO but me and OH still. I wont let anyone look after her but i need to let my guard down for the 2nd LO on its way, I'm going to need a lil support and my mum is offering!

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3 girlies Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: essex, uk Posts: 5,380	i hate it, why do people always stroke babies hair so it goes all greasy looking???? i cant stand it, i had a friend ask to do skin to skin cuddling with sydnee, i was horrified!!!! i think its natural to be protective x

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shamrockerjo Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: UK Posts: 861	I've never left Maya with anyone and I really don't want to either, and I've never let anyone else feed her either, just me and hubby. Even though I never breastfed Maya (I did express exclusively for the first two months though) I still think feeding is a bonding experience between parent and baby. I don't think that's me being overprotective though. The only person I don't like holding Maya is my MIL but I don't have a problem with anyone else cuddling her.

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SKATERBUN Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2009 Posts: 3,744	Im ok about it actually, In fact when someone else holds her I kind of feel a bit detatched, I dont feel as protective as I think I should, I suppose I only let people I trust implicitly hold her. I'm glad of the rest TBH, she is a little handful!

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mrsthomas623 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Ohio, US Posts: 4,163	I felt like that and still at 4 months I do not like other people to hold him. I let people hold him and cuddle him.. but I hate it. Dont know why, just cannot stand it.

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RainbowDrop_x Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Northampton Posts: 10,713	I felt like that when I was pregnant and in the first few weeks I wouldn't let anyone else feed her. I didn't mind people having cuddles though. After a while though you'll be glad for the offer of someone else feeding (if you're FFing).

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