Anyone else bit dissapointed with lack of support from their family?
I feel terrible typing this but i feel so dissapointed my family dont help out as much as i thought they would. I know shes my baby and my responsibility but no one has offered to look after her even for a short while. I went to my sisters today and my whole family where there and the only person who held her for.more than a few mins was my dads wife. I felt so lonely.
Anyone else had similar experience?
Yes! My MIL wants to help but physically isn't up to it, but my family haven't offered at all. Don't get me wrong, my parents love their grandson, but whenever they visit they rarely hold him, have never taken him out for a walk or drive in the car without me to give me a break.
My sister's been staying with us recently, and she's been a great help cooking etc, but whenever it comes to looking after LO she normally says "yeah, I'll take him for a few mins, I'll just nip out for a fag first"
my dd who is 10 has only stayed out about 10 times with family and that was bout 4years ago and my lo who is 6 months very rarely sees anyone no ones has her or offers etc ive been doing everything mysef for 6 months i might be tired sometimes but i wouldnt have it any other way and they wonder why she crys at them when they do visit
I don't have my parents anymore but if they were still around they would be a god send!
My MIL however - who claims she loves babies has seen our 11 month olf 3 times.
She can't drive and lives about 30 miles away.
She relies on my hubby to taxi her around.
We have had a few rough weeks with Abbie like when she and I had chicken pox at the same time, when she had a really bad cold last week and we didn't sleep for the best part of 3 days.
Not once has MIL ever said I'll come give you a break.
In fact the last time she did see Abbie, she just burst into tears. She doesn't like loud noises and MIL has a habit of shouting - even though she thinks she isn't! I just chuckled to myself thinkg "great"!!
Hubby and I have more or less decided "sod her" She know where we are, she has a free bus pass if she wants to visit she can sort it herself!
We both felt better once that decision was made!
Ohhh yes, My mum and dad live 30 mins away and have only come round to ours a few times to come and see us and rarely phone as well. When Isabelle was 2-3 weeks old my mum, dad, brother, cousin and grandad all came at once to come and see her. They stayed a few hours (my grandad and cousin live about 2 hrs away) and not once during that time didi any of my family offer to make cups of tea for everyone. My OH was outside with a work mate building our garage so I was busy running around looking after eveyone. When I did manage to sit down all I got was, ohhh you look tired. grrrrrr.
My OH's parents have only seen our dd as we've taken her to see them. They live 5 mins away from us. This has caused some arguments from OH amongst his family as he's had a go at all his family about this. My OH's youngest brother has got two young children and his parents were always visiting them. Fair enough, things have changed, they're both working more hours now, but none of his family have made the effort to come and see her.
My OH, wasn't entitled to having paternity leave, so I've done everything by myself and still am doing everything. I can't really be bothered with our families to be honest. However, I know that if my grandad lived a lot closer, he'd come and visit us a lot.
Vice versa for me, the MIL is desperate to parade LO around still but I refuse. My mums looked after LO for all of 10 mins while i had my scan.
I cant handle the idea of anyone looking after LO but her Dad.
Till this day my parents have never offered to look after my son, they mentioned when he was older he may some for dinner but never have helped. Not even when I had to go to the docs of dentist I had to bring him with me. I dont expect them to but be nice if they offered as my gran looked after me when I was a child and my parents worked. They also never get him a thing ever,. he gets things off other halfs family and goes up there but its so different with my parents who live closer just take feck all to do. My son dosnt even know who my mum is other than someone he is scared of as she caused so many rows till I had to stop her coming in for his sake. its disappointing! and embarrassing.
Partly, when i take him round to either mums or sisters, none of them offer to hold him, even if he is calm, if i need the loo or something i have to put him in his pram, or if i say 'can you just hold him whilst i get a drink/go to the loo' they tut.
Charmin! I hardly ever visit them either so you would think they would 'want' to spend time with us/him, especially as they was begging me from 30 weeks to hurry him along, not that i did of course x
Both my parents and my OH's parents are dead, our lo's aunts and uncles don't bother with them even sil who made such a big deal of being our daughter's god mother doesn't even bother to send her a card, OH's brother hasn't even bothered to come see our son, we've offered to bring the lo's to see them but they're always out, my brothers are too busy with other things to be interested in our lo's. It really annoyed me, I know our lo's dont need anything but it would be nice it they showed an interest.
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