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Old Feb 1st, 2011, 02:41 AM   1
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Over the counter DNA test...


Has been on the news this morning that there is now a DNA test kit available over the counter. From what I gather you still have to send it off but it does make DNA testing much more available. They also said that as many as 1 in 25 fathers are bringing up babies that aren't theirs unawares.
Me and OH were talking about it and he was saying that for a lot of dads it will bring peace of mind because as a male you never know for certain 100% that a baby is yours because you didn't carry or give birth to it. (There is no doubt about my LO as he is the double of his dad.) But a lot of people out there do have an element of doubt and now they will be able to pop to boots and for a much cheaper fee be able to find out for sure.
I think that it is gonna wreck a LOT of happy familys and that the company providing it must have known what a money spinner it will be, especially when they throw in the "1 in 25" line! Even if paternity goes the way expected your left feeling untrusted by your partner for asking to have one. Goodness knows what will happen if a test comes back showing that the man that has been bringing up a child isn't the real father..?? I see many of them walking out, leaving what was a previously happy family unit in pieces.

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Old Feb 1st, 2011, 02:45 AM   2
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I think it's great to make it so available but I can't believe that there are that many scummy women out there who'd let a man raise a baby that they know or doubt is theirs!



 
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Old Feb 1st, 2011, 02:47 AM   3
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It'll put Jezza out of business

No on a more serious note I agree with you, it has potential to destroy families. What if a dad has doubts and does a test behind the mums back or something or vice versa??

I think I would be offended if DH wanted one for any of ours.



 
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Old Feb 1st, 2011, 02:54 AM   4
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I fully support this. I think men have an unfair ride in some cases. I mean, it's easy for a woman to say "This baby is yours" and for the most part it's true, but if a man is in that much doubt and wishes to be sure, although it might seem shocking and knock the wind out of your sails, it's better to let him do the test to find out for his peace of mind so he doesn't spend however many years wondering about it. It's not fair on anyone to live that kind of life.



 
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Old Feb 1st, 2011, 03:05 AM   5
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I fully support this. I think men have an unfair ride in some cases. I mean, it's easy for a woman to say "This baby is yours" and for the most part it's true, but if a man is in that much doubt and wishes to be sure, although it might seem shocking and knock the wind out of your sails, it's better to let him do the test to find out for his peace of mind so he doesn't spend however many years wondering about it. It's not fair on anyone to live that kind of life.
I agree that for those who have always had an element of doubt it's a good thing but I worry that the very existance and undoubted advertising of these new ones will place doubt where there previously wasn't any. Bringing all sorts of issues that weren't there, even if it shows the dad to be the dad, the woman is then left feeling mistrusted etc..



 
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Old Feb 1st, 2011, 03:12 AM   6
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I think it is a good thing! The statistic has gone up, it used to be 1 in 30!!!! I remember because that is roughly one child in each class at school! And I used to teach biology and genetics, it terrified me that one of them might work out that their dad was not their dad from eye colour!!!!



 
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Old Feb 1st, 2011, 03:19 AM   7
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OMG at 1 in 25! I find that quite shocking... I don't think I could ever live with myself if I was in a situation where my OH was not the father of my baby and he didn't know it.

Think this may open a big can of worms however positive it is that the tests are now more widely available. Like mentioned previously, it'll ruin trust in a lot of relationships & LOL at putting Jezza out of business!!



 
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Old Feb 1st, 2011, 03:43 AM   8
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This is a good thing! Its really horrible to lie to some one about paternity I would never be able to live with myself



 
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Old Feb 1st, 2011, 03:45 AM   9
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I wonder what Mr Kyle will make of this



 
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Old Feb 1st, 2011, 03:52 AM   10
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It's a good thing. If my OH asked me for a DNA test I would be more than happy to get one done. We were only together a month before i fell pregnant, but even if it had been longer i still wouldn't mind.

When i was pregnant i kept dreaming my baby got swapped in hospital and it really got to me. I was fully prepared to have one done if he was out of my site just after he was born! Essentially, they hand over their sperm and just have to trust that it made a baby



 
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