I always thought that when I had a baby I would try my best to make sure he/she was independent and slept ok on their own if need be and didnt become dependant on me, but I see myself slacking now he is here, I get so tired I cant sleep well coz little man is BF and has me up between 1-2 hours each night then I sit for as many of you may know upto 40mins or more Sometimes he goes back in the cot and starts to grizzle I know I should ignore him but I get him out and feed again, or he will get the hiccups and I know that this will lead to him getting in a state as he hates them to I get him up and latch him on, In the day time I feel shattered and I feed him and he falls asleep in my arms, I then think I will settle him in his cot and rest myself, he sleeps better in his bouncer in the day but I prefur the cot as it has a angelcare movement mat....So I settle him, he does a few reflex things with his arms and wakes up, then cries, im so tired I think stuff it and feed him when he settles I put him in my double bed by my side my arm under the pillow and his head on it and we both crash out
I feel bad because one..It may not be safe to fall asleep in my bed like this?
and two I will get him into bad habits
He is 4 weeks now, do you think he will learn all this and know how to play me? oooooops
I did all the bad habits in a desperate attempt (feed to sleep, bounce, swaddle etc) and he outgrew them when he was ready. Sounds like he really needs a swaddle, he has a strong startle reflex. I spent 3 months with a non-sleeping baby to try and prevent 'habits' when really I should have done it all!
Don't worry about manipulation until they are at least toddlers It's a lot easier to say no to a whining older baby than it is to a newborn who is still struggling to adjust to life outside the womb At least it's easier for me!
Don't worry too much about co-sleeping! The HV and midwife said to me that it's virtually impossible to roll over and suffocate your LO without realising (unless under the influence of something etc) - we co-slept with Stephen for the first week, then he went in hsi own bed and we co-slept if he woke up/in the mornings! We still co-sleep in the mornings/nap time He's only a baby for a while -so enjoy the cuddles whilst you can!
Thank you all for your replies. I use sleep bags in the cot as I don't like to use blankets. Im sure I saw that Argos sold a swaddle blanket tho can't find it now. Does anyone know who sells them cheaply? I don't wanna use normal blankets worries me. Thanks x x
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