Your experience of The disappearing chair please....
Has anyone used this method:
The disappearing chair
This technique is good for toddlers from 16 months – at around this age they can more easily understand the message that this method is trying to get across. It can also be used for younger children who can’t fall asleep alone, or babies from eight months. ‘If you can’t bear to hear your baby cry, choose this approach,’ says Jackie.
• ‘Put your child to bed awake,’ says Jackie, ‘then sit on a chair beside his cot or bed until he falls asleep.’
• There should be no eye contact and no talking. Read a book if you like but give no attention. ‘You’re telling him “I’m here, you’re safe, but it’s time for sleep”.’
• Each night, move your chair further away – towards the foot of the bed, towards the door, outside the door. With a baby, stroke him through the cot bars on the first night, stop stroking the second night, then move away gradually.
• ‘Done consistently,’ says Jackie, ‘This works as quickly as controlled crying.’
If so how much did your LO cry at first and want to be picked up? And for how long?
When my son was tiny I used to have him in a moses basket next to the bed, when I was working on setting a bed time I used to do a variation of this sitting on the bed.
When he cried I would stroke his tummy, talk or sing to him so he knew I was there but not pick him up (as long as he wasn't hungry or needing a nappy change). I think it took a week or two where he knew it was bedtime and wouldn't be upset if I put him in to his moses basket. Since then he has always had a set bedtime and has never been a problem to settle.
I always have had a bedtime routine though (bath, story plus baby massage when he was little) so he knew what was coming and if he cries after I have left the room he always knows I will come straight back so he can feel safe.
That is my variant on the routine because William was too young for the proper one. I love Super Nanny tips.
I do this now but had no idea it was a real 'method'! I have a stool at the end of her cot, I put her down in her cot and sit down in the dark. She then sits up, then stands up so I lie her back down. She does go to sleep pretty quickly. She NEVER cries and if she did I would pick her up straight away. I do not let my baby cry for any time.
Thanks ladies, we're so unsure to try this or use the baby whisperers idea of picking up / putting down.
She cries whichever one we do so I really don't know what to do to be honest. I have never let my baby cry either but she's starting nursery soon and I feel she needs to be able to fall asleep for naps without being nursed or pushed in her pram. I think we should train her rather then let them do it.
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