Your experience of The disappearing chair please....

snailien · Apr 17th, 2011, 02:50 AM

Has anyone used this method:

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The disappearing chair
This technique is good for toddlers from 16 months – at around this age they can more easily understand the message that this method is trying to get across. It can also be used for younger children who can’t fall asleep alone, or babies from eight months. ‘If you can’t bear to hear your baby cry, choose this approach,’ says Jackie.
• ‘Put your child to bed awake,’ says Jackie, ‘then sit on a chair beside his cot or bed until he falls asleep.’
• There should be no eye contact and no talking. Read a book if you like but give no attention. ‘You’re telling him “I’m here, you’re safe, but it’s time for sleep”.’
• Each night, move your chair further away – towards the foot of the bed, towards the door, outside the door. With a baby, stroke him through the cot bars on the first night, stop stroking the second night, then move away gradually.
• ‘Done consistently,’ says Jackie, ‘This works as quickly as controlled crying.’

If so how much did your LO cry at first and want to be picked up? And for how long?

How long did it take to get them to self settle?

Pixxie · Apr 17th, 2011, 03:15 AM

I've not done it but I've heard it's a good technique xx

NickyT75 · Apr 17th, 2011, 03:18 AM

ive never heard of this method but it sounds very similar to CC to me

every baby is different so you'll just have to give it a try & see how you get on I guess? good luck! I hope it works for you

xx

kawaiigirl · Apr 17th, 2011, 03:24 AM

I think I maybe saw this on supernanny. This is the kind of thing I've seen her make the parents do. It always seemed to work though x

Lena · Apr 17th, 2011, 03:29 AM

Never heard of it, but sounds quite good. What if the baby is crying though? Do you just sit there and ignore it? That would be soooo difficult for me.

Mrs Dubs · Apr 17th, 2011, 04:33 AM

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Originally Posted by kawaiigirl

I think I maybe saw this on supernanny. This is the kind of thing I've seen her make the parents do. It always seemed to work though x

Yeah supernanny does it and it seams to work on the show :-)

Lilicat · Apr 17th, 2011, 05:00 AM

When my son was tiny I used to have him in a moses basket next to the bed, when I was working on setting a bed time I used to do a variation of this sitting on the bed.

When he cried I would stroke his tummy, talk or sing to him so he knew I was there but not pick him up (as long as he wasn't hungry or needing a nappy change). I think it took a week or two where he knew it was bedtime and wouldn't be upset if I put him in to his moses basket. Since then he has always had a set bedtime and has never been a problem to settle.

I always have had a bedtime routine though (bath, story plus baby massage when he was little) so he knew what was coming and if he cries after I have left the room he always knows I will come straight back so he can feel safe.

That is my variant on the routine because William was too young for the proper one. I love Super Nanny tips.

welshsarah · Apr 17th, 2011, 05:07 AM

fab and reasures ur little one that your there too! so they dont get too scared distressed.x

Kimmer · Apr 17th, 2011, 05:55 AM

I do this now but had no idea it was a real 'method'! I have a stool at the end of her cot, I put her down in her cot and sit down in the dark. She then sits up, then stands up so I lie her back down. She does go to sleep pretty quickly. She NEVER cries and if she did I would pick her up straight away. I do not let my baby cry for any time.

snailien · Apr 17th, 2011, 14:07 PM

Thanks ladies, we're so unsure to try this or use the baby whisperers idea of picking up / putting down.

She cries whichever one we do so I really don't know what to do to be honest. I have never let my baby cry either but she's starting nursery soon and I feel she needs to be able to fall asleep for naps without being nursed or pushed in her pram. I think we should train her rather then let them do it.

Apr 17th, 2011, 03:15 AM	#2
Pixxie Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Salford, UK Posts: 7,239	I've not done it but I've heard it's a good technique xx

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Apr 17th, 2011, 03:18 AM	#3
NickyT75 Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Cumbria Posts: 17,846	ive never heard of this method but it sounds very similar to CC to me every baby is different so you'll just have to give it a try & see how you get on I guess? good luck! I hope it works for you xx

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Apr 17th, 2011, 03:24 AM	#4
kawaiigirl Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: UK Posts: 1,243	I think I maybe saw this on supernanny. This is the kind of thing I've seen her make the parents do. It always seemed to work though x

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Apr 17th, 2011, 03:29 AM	#5
Lena Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 2,098	Never heard of it, but sounds quite good. What if the baby is crying though? Do you just sit there and ignore it? That would be soooo difficult for me.

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Apr 17th, 2011, 05:00 AM	#7
Lilicat Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Hampshire Posts: 1,619	When my son was tiny I used to have him in a moses basket next to the bed, when I was working on setting a bed time I used to do a variation of this sitting on the bed. When he cried I would stroke his tummy, talk or sing to him so he knew I was there but not pick him up (as long as he wasn't hungry or needing a nappy change). I think it took a week or two where he knew it was bedtime and wouldn't be upset if I put him in to his moses basket. Since then he has always had a set bedtime and has never been a problem to settle. I always have had a bedtime routine though (bath, story plus baby massage when he was little) so he knew what was coming and if he cries after I have left the room he always knows I will come straight back so he can feel safe. That is my variant on the routine because William was too young for the proper one. I love Super Nanny tips.

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Apr 17th, 2011, 05:07 AM	#8
welshsarah Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Wales Posts: 434	fab and reasures ur little one that your there too! so they dont get too scared distressed.x

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Apr 17th, 2011, 05:55 AM	#9
Kimmer Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: UK Posts: 2,993	I do this now but had no idea it was a real 'method'! I have a stool at the end of her cot, I put her down in her cot and sit down in the dark. She then sits up, then stands up so I lie her back down. She does go to sleep pretty quickly. She NEVER cries and if she did I would pick her up straight away. I do not let my baby cry for any time.

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Apr 17th, 2011, 14:07 PM	#10
snailien Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Bristol, England Posts: 1,031	Thanks ladies, we're so unsure to try this or use the baby whisperers idea of picking up / putting down. She cries whichever one we do so I really don't know what to do to be honest. I have never let my baby cry either but she's starting nursery soon and I feel she needs to be able to fall asleep for naps without being nursed or pushed in her pram. I think we should train her rather then let them do it.

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