Been told I can't have anymore children

Becky123 · May 25th, 2011, 09:16 AM

I have a lot of health issues and my pregnancy made them a lot worse, I have been very ill since september.
My consultant has advised that I don't have anymore children. I am gutted. I want Owen to have a little brother or sister. My OH thinks its for the best as he has seen how ill I have been.
But I would go through that for a baby.

I've been hanging on to Owens clothes for the next baby. But have been sorting them today in tears to sell.

I am devestated

bumpy_j · May 25th, 2011, 09:19 AM

i'm so sorry, i don't know what to say

PepsiChic · May 25th, 2011, 09:19 AM

*hugs* im so sorry you've been told that, maybe you could wait a couple of years and see how you feel then? maybe the consultant will change his mind if your health has improved any over a few years.

i know you probably dont want to hear it , but there are lots and lots of little children and babies waiting to be adopted in loving families. you could still have a brother or sister or both for Owen!

Breezy · May 25th, 2011, 09:24 AM

Aw hun I am sorry to hear that.

My mother was told she couldn't have any at all and she went on to have 3 of us!

Cloberella · May 25th, 2011, 09:25 AM

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Originally Posted by PepsiChic

i know you probably dont want to hear it , but there are lots and lots of little children and babies waiting to be adopted in loving families. you could still have a brother or sister or both for Owen!

I was just going to say that in a few years, you might want to start thinking about that, once your ready to.

teal · May 25th, 2011, 09:26 AM

Sending you hugs

xx

hayley x · May 25th, 2011, 09:28 AM

x

blondey · May 25th, 2011, 09:29 AM

Aw hun, I can't imagine what you must be feeling

That's horrible news, but your LO will love you just as much whether he has a brother or sister or not. Remember the news is still fresh and raw at the moment, but later down the line you might feel a bit better about it.

What you have to think about is that I'm sure your LO would much rather have his mummy fit and healthy, or even there, than a brother or sister and have a very poorly mummy or even worse.

xxxxxx

babyerin · May 25th, 2011, 09:37 AM

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I can only echo what others have said..hold on to hope hun, and if you can't carry one in your tummy, it sounds likle you've got a lot of room in your heart to give to a child without a mum and dad.

charlotte-xo · May 25th, 2011, 09:37 AM

May 25th, 2011, 09:16 AM	#1
Becky123 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2010 Location: UK Posts: 1,884	Been told I can't have anymore children I have a lot of health issues and my pregnancy made them a lot worse, I have been very ill since september. My consultant has advised that I don't have anymore children. I am gutted. I want Owen to have a little brother or sister. My OH thinks its for the best as he has seen how ill I have been. But I would go through that for a baby. I've been hanging on to Owens clothes for the next baby. But have been sorting them today in tears to sell. I am devestated

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bumpy_j Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Northamptonshire Posts: 3,723	i'm so sorry, i don't know what to say

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PepsiChic Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Missouri USA Posts: 5,179	hugs im so sorry you've been told that, maybe you could wait a couple of years and see how you feel then? maybe the consultant will change his mind if your health has improved any over a few years. i know you probably dont want to hear it , but there are lots and lots of little children and babies waiting to be adopted in loving families. you could still have a brother or sister or both for Owen!

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Breezy Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: The Desert Posts: 1,846	Aw hun I am sorry to hear that. My mother was told she couldn't have any at all and she went on to have 3 of us!

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teal Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 12,868	Sending you hugs xx

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blondey Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2010 Location: Essex, UK Posts: 2,463	Aw hun, I can't imagine what you must be feeling That's horrible news, but your LO will love you just as much whether he has a brother or sister or not. Remember the news is still fresh and raw at the moment, but later down the line you might feel a bit better about it. What you have to think about is that I'm sure your LO would much rather have his mummy fit and healthy, or even there, than a brother or sister and have a very poorly mummy or even worse. xxxxxx

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babyerin Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Posts: 1,865	Big I can only echo what others have said..hold on to hope hun, and if you can't carry one in your tummy, it sounds likle you've got a lot of room in your heart to give to a child without a mum and dad.

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