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Old Jun 16th, 2011, 11:38 AM   1
MrsH1980
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My 4 month old cannot self-soothe AT ALL - pls help!


Ok, not sure whether this is normal but it seems to be getting a bit beyond a joke....Myka is 4 months and cannot self-soothe / self-settle at all

She has to be rocked to sleep for both bedtime and nap time...the fact that I haven't broken this habit is probably the major part, I just don't know how?

Is she too young for controlled crying method? She absolutely screams the house down if I put her down awake...what would I need to do to try and turn this around? Shhh pat? Pupd? I really have no clue how t do any of this effectively

Also, she doesn't nap in her cot at the mo, should she be when we are at home? She had her jabs this week and had a horrible reaction so Ive told myself to give her the week but next week I mean business - it'll be beneficial for her in the long run right?

Ahhhhh, please help me



 
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Old Jun 16th, 2011, 11:43 AM   2
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not sure how you feel about them but have you tried a dummy? tbh though i think from what ive read on here there are lots of people that have LOs older that dont self soothe
as for napping in her cot, we got LO to go in hers around 4 months, she really did sleep so much better there once she went off



 
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Old Jun 16th, 2011, 11:45 AM   3
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Have you tried swaddling or dummy? These both worked for my LO when i was teaching him to nap in his cot. We also made sure it was really dark and put White noise on which calmed him down. I would lean over the cot and stroke his head and face until he fell asleep. I still do that now although at night time he usually settles himself without to much stroking.

IMO 4 months is a little young for CIO or cc but each to their own. My LO is very persistent and spirited and would not respond to either of those methods. He can scream for hours!



 
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Old Jun 16th, 2011, 11:48 AM   4
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Dont feel like you can't rock/soothe her yourself people say oh you'll make bad habits etc but if its what she needs and you're happy to do it untill she doesn't need it then its fine. Only if its getting too much for you or you feel you need a break then you could consider other methods..what im trying to say in a rambling way is that if you're happy to do what you're doing then don't change because you/others think you 'should' x



 
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Old Jun 16th, 2011, 12:00 PM   5
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Thanks ladies; in all honesty half the time I don't mind rocking her but you have to watch her cues like a hawk because if she's overtired she needs to be rocked for hours
I think I am going to stick to our nighttime routine for now but I'm going to try getting her down in her cot for her day naps to give my arms a break!

She already has a dummy and she loves being swaddled although she still has to be put down asleep. I just hear so many mums say they put their LOs down awake, pop the light show on and that's that!!

On the plus side, no bingo wings for me lol



 
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Old Jun 16th, 2011, 12:04 PM   6
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Thanks ladies; in all honesty half the time I don't mind rocking her but you have to watch her cues like a hawk because if she's overtired she needs to be rocked for hours
I think I am going to stick to our nighttime routine for now but I'm going to try getting her down in her cot for her day naps to give my arms a break!

She already has a dummy and she loves being swaddled although she still has to be put down asleep. I just hear so many mums say they put their LOs down awake, pop the light show on and that's that!!

On the plus side, no bingo wings for me lol
I think the babies that you can put down and they just fall asleep are few and far between! My LO has a light show but it only serves to stimulate him. We use it as a wake up tool instead, when it goes on he knows it won't be too long until we pick him up, buys us enough time for a very quick shower!



 
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Old Jun 16th, 2011, 12:07 PM   7
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I'd just carry on rocking her - believe me I've heard of waaaay older ones than that who still need rocking. Babies don't usually self soothe, despite what all the 'experts' who will remain nameless would have you believe.



 
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Old Jun 16th, 2011, 12:11 PM   8
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My LO can only self settle at night where I can put him in bed awake and he will fall asleep with no fuss whatsoever.

Howeveeerrrrr......

He can be a right PITA with naps. He whinges for all of them and prefers to be rocked or pushed in the pushchair. No idea how I can make him as happy for sleep as he does at night. I've not tried putting upstairs for naps yet though......


Hmmmm might try that one! Lol



 
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Old Jun 16th, 2011, 12:19 PM   9
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my 8 month old does not self settle. has to be rocked/milk/pram/car ect. tried a few methods but it never really worked for long. i can't do controlled crying or crying it out so i'm stuck with it for now.



 
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Old Jun 16th, 2011, 12:20 PM   10
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If you're going to be technical, my 2 year old can't self settle. She has a dummy for sleeps still.



 
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