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Old Aug 2nd, 2011, 17:47 PM   1
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Don't want to be a SAHM...feel awful about it


I always said I want to be at home with LO his first year, but he's now 8 months old and I'm super restless. Before I married my husband, I worked 2 jobs and was taking classes at our community college. I've always been that independent.

Now, I just submitted my application to finish school over the next 3 months, and I feel awful for doing it. I'm doing it all from home, but it made me feel bad about wanting to go back to work when I'm finished.

I felt so strongly that I should be at home with him, now I'm counting down til I finish school and start working again.

Idk. maybe I'm being silly



 
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Old Aug 2nd, 2011, 17:54 PM   2
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I went back 3 weeks ago. I'm really happy, I don't want to be a SAHM. Doesn't make me any less of a mum or love my DS less. Plus I teach so get 3 months off a year with him anyway.

Please don't feel bad xx



 
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Old Aug 2nd, 2011, 18:13 PM   3
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Don't feel bad, I wanted to be a sahm but it's not for everyone, 3 weeks in and I'm a little restless, I've never not worked so it's strange for me but I quit my job so I guess im staying off lol! I've caught myself looking at the jobs page in the paper and have to remind myself that I wanted it this way.



 
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Old Aug 2nd, 2011, 18:18 PM   4
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One year was definitely too long for me to stay home...I'm pretty happy back at work, and Eloise loves going to daycare. She waves goodbye with a smile on her face!



 
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Old Aug 2nd, 2011, 18:23 PM   5
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Please don't feel bad. I work 3 days per week (moving to 4 in September) and I LOVE the mixture of home and work life. My career is very important to me and I didn't want to lose that. I adore the time I have with LO but I love my job too. I figure happy mummy = happy LO!



 
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Old Aug 2nd, 2011, 18:23 PM   6
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Don't feel bad. I go back in a few weeks and I can't wait! DS will be 6 months. I will miss him so much my heart aches thinking about it but staying home is not for me. I miss being with adults and I love my job.

If I could afford to go part time I would because I work 12 HR day and night shifts but I am lucky that my husband is self employed so he will work around me and I don't have to leave baby with anyone else.



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Old Aug 2nd, 2011, 18:41 PM   7
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We are all different, if we all wanted to do the same thing how boring would that be!

I can't stand the thought of being away from my LO but that's just me, I'm a real homebody anyway and not the type that enjoys working. Doesn't make me a better or worse mother, we all should do what feels right for ourselves.



 
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Old Aug 2nd, 2011, 18:46 PM   8
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Don't get me wrong, I have so much respect for SAHM's. My own step mother was one. Personally, I think I'm way too restless and independent (I like being out and about, having a job, and being around adults) to be able to do this forever. I just feel like I should WANT to stay home with him iykwim. I do love spending lots of time with my LO, and I LOVE the fact he doesn't go to anyone else usually and he love his momma, but I need that little slice of.....freedom? or what word would I choose?

But the minute I submitted my app, I felt so guilty lol



 
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Old Aug 2nd, 2011, 19:21 PM   9
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You're not alone, hun! I don't want to be a SAHM, either.



 
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Old Aug 2nd, 2011, 19:34 PM   10
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I love my independence too and find that when I working, I feel LESS independent. I hate being somewhere where I am told what to do all day.

Right now I do whatever I like all day, I can go out whenever I feel like it, I don't feel like I am just working for some other person so they can profit.

Just do what you feel best doing! Your LO will be happy to have a happy mum.



 
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