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Old Aug 4th, 2011, 01:10 AM   1
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Jo Frost stay in bed technique


I was watching jo frost last night, and although my 8 month old daughter may be told young for the stay in bed techq, I got another tip. On the program, a 2 year old boy's mother was told to put her lo to bed, wait 2 mins, and double the waiting time each time going to settle him. Eg, 2 mins, 4 mins, 8 mins etc. Then do it for 5 days. Now trying this technique with my lo, and she does seem very distressed. Does anyone think she is too young? And has this technique worked for any of u?



 
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Old Aug 4th, 2011, 01:12 AM   2
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Personally i'm not a fan of that method, I tried it with my son around the same age, and he hated it and then he got scared if we even went near the crib. I prefer the chair gradual method. It takes a bit longer than CIO but it doesn't cause such anxiety from my experience.



 
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Personally i'm not a fan of that method, I tried it with my son around the same age, and he hated it and then he got scared if we even went near the crib. I prefer the chair gradual method. It takes a bit longer than CIO but it doesn't cause such anxiety from my experience.
What are the steps to the chair method and how does it differ? X



 
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I love Jo Frost! We use her time out method. Personally I think 8 months is a little young



 
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I think the chair method was put a chair in the room and face AWAY from the baby. They know your there. THen sloooooooooowly push the chair farther back until your gone.



 
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I love Jo Frost! We use her time out method. Personally I think 8 months is a little young
The time out method, is that the one I'm trying to do? There's too many! X



 
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I love Jo Frost! We use her time out method. Personally I think 8 months is a little young
The time out method, is that the one I'm trying to do? There's too many! X
Time out method is placing a child on a naughty step or similar as a means of discipline.



 
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Oh of coarse. I thought you were refering to another sleep method! Thanks x



 
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Old Aug 4th, 2011, 16:25 PM   9
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I think that method could work but maybe more for a pre-schooler than a baby. I liked the advice about potty training since I have no idea! I was keen to start as young as possible didn't realize 18 months is the earliest.



 
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Old Aug 5th, 2011, 08:42 AM   10
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First stage: establish a bedtime routine, at a set hour, go straight from that routine into the bedroom, no in between play ( at least in the beginning).
We do bath, meds, book, prayers, lights out
Put a chair next to the bed/crib, come up with a short phrase to say like "goodnight time for sleep" and say it. Sit next to the bed until the child falls asleep. If he cries, try and comfort him as best you can by not picking him up, if he is hysterical pick him up, as soon as he stops crying put him back down.
Repeat this for every waking, it might be a lot the first night.
The aim is to show the child , you will not take him out of his bedroom and that you are right there. Chart the wakings on a piece of paper ( you can do it in the morning if you can remember: time, who went in to the child, and how long til he fell asleep again. Don't switch out with another person during the same waking, it makes them stay up longer because they think a new person might take them out, but if you just can't manage and might crack then switch out. Don't talk to the child even if he starts conversation, just use your phrase. When you have done this for a two to three nights, and the child is falling asleep with you next to the bed in a relatively short space of time, and is having few if any middle of the night wakings move on to stage two.
Stage two: move the chair into the doorway, so the child can see you only if he sits up and turns to look. Do the same as stage one and for any waking sit back in the door way. Do this stage until the child falls asleep again in a relatively short space of time with you at the doorway.

Stage three: move the chair outside the door way so the child can't see you, if he gets up he will see you are still there, but he cannot see you from in his bed. Proceed like stages one and two.

Final stage: leave the room, come back only if you child comes out to look for you and put him back in bed and say your phrase, or for crib sleepers if they call you.

This method we did with DS1, he had never slept on his own ever, he was 2 at the time, and it worked in just under 7 days. It was not easy, he did cry a little but nowhere near as much as I thought he would. The only crying is out of frustrating that you won't take them out of bed and not fear as you are right there. It is a gradual approach , and I have no doubt really CIO will probably work faster but its not for me.



 
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