Co-sleeping, pros/cons?

wasey · Aug 25th, 2011, 01:34 AM

The amount health visitors, books, professionals etc stress how bad co-sleeping is, i've seen tonnes of people on here saying how good it is. I'm just wondering how you actually go about co-sleeping? Not rolling onto LO, making sure they can breathe, not too hot etc? What're the pros & cons?

LO goes out like a light when she sleeps on her nanna

mumandco · Aug 25th, 2011, 01:47 AM

I co slept with both my sons and still do with ds2, for us there are so many pros! We both get a much better sleep,get to have cuddles all night as I bf ds2 it is much easier he wakes up I don't need to get up I just position him and he latches on!
The biggest con for us and this is only with ds2 never had this problem with ds1 is that I have to cuddle him all night he won't let oh cuddle him and he won't just lie beside me,I have constantly got bad shoulders from lying awkward and stiff fingers from where he has been lying on my arm and the circulation is not great!
I had no problems getting ds1 to sleep in his cot after we fixnished cosleeping,and I think in the next few months il be finishing cosleeping with ds2 mainly because of the aches and pains

wasey · Aug 25th, 2011, 02:00 AM

I'd LOVE to co-sleep, how do you go about positioning? Or making sure they're not smothered with blankets etc?

0_o · Aug 25th, 2011, 02:04 AM

Pros. I just love the cuddles. I don't have to get up and stay awake feeding.

Cons. She has gone from sleeping 4-5hrs, then 3hrly feeds during the night, to wanting a boob in her mouth all night! I have back pain like you wouldn't believe.

She wears only a vest. I don't cover myself or her. She lays facing me on her side mostly, and i lay on my side with my legs up against her feet so she can't move down... But she has recently realised she can push off and move up the bed lol. I have my lower arm up above her head. Really, you won't XX budge once baby is in the bed, I dont move a muscle. It's just instinct. It can be done safely and be better for boh mum and baby than sleeping seperately.

Lauki · Aug 25th, 2011, 02:25 AM

The moments I did cosleep the whole night was the same as 0_o. Legs under her feet and lower arm above her head. It really is instinct not to move, as I'm normally a big wriggler, but with Sophie next to me I don't move an inch.

I coslept because Sophie was waking up 3 times a night and would be impossible to settle back again without rocking her for 1 or 1.5 hours. I was just too exhausted to not cosleep. Now she's gone to only waking once a night and easier to settle, so she sleeps in her basket against my bed. The cosleeping really got me through the first weeks and it still gets me through nights where she's being impossible. Even now when I'm so tired at 6am and really can't face getting up yet, I pop her next to me in the bed and snooze for another hour while she's on the boob. Cosleeping has been a lifesaver for me and it has been really easy to put her back in her own bed again.

mumandco · Aug 25th, 2011, 02:31 AM

I put my arm around lo and pull him close into me I then put a little blanket of his own over him and then I only leave enough of the duvet to jus cover me!

Lauki · Aug 25th, 2011, 02:42 AM

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Originally Posted by mumandco

I put my arm around lo and pull him close into me I then put a little blanket of his own over him and then I only leave enough of the duvet to jus cover me!

I do the same =).

wasey · Aug 25th, 2011, 03:05 AM

I usually wriggle about a lot in my sleep, go to sleep curled up & wake up spread out but when I've napped with LO in her boppy and me leaning against it I've woken up exactly the same and find I wake up better when she cries. How do you go about partners? Like, would you put LO in the middle at the top or...? I suppose you say bye bye to your pillows right?

kerrie24 · Aug 25th, 2011, 03:20 AM

I just used to turn my pillow vertical instead of horizontal and keep it right away from baby,When they are tiny they would sleep in the side beside me but as they get big enough to move around they would go in the middle.

Pros-get more sleep!
-and cuddles
cons-hubby/oh can sometimes resent having baby between you.
-I personally find it hard to stop co-sleeping when baby is older

But ive done it with all 3 of mine,and feel totally comfortable with it.

Lauki · Aug 25th, 2011, 03:20 AM

My partner lays behind me so I'm in between him and Soph. My pillow is moved towards the middle of the bed so I'm only on the corner and my arm is below it to make sure LO doesn't get near it. We take up lots of room, but safety over comfort of my husband

, he can starfish when we get up at 6am

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wasey Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: South East of England. Posts: 264	Co-sleeping, pros/cons? The amount health visitors, books, professionals etc stress how bad co-sleeping is, i've seen tonnes of people on here saying how good it is. I'm just wondering how you actually go about co-sleeping? Not rolling onto LO, making sure they can breathe, not too hot etc? What're the pros & cons? LO goes out like a light when she sleeps on her nanna

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mumandco Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: wales Posts: 5,748	I co slept with both my sons and still do with ds2, for us there are so many pros! We both get a much better sleep,get to have cuddles all night as I bf ds2 it is much easier he wakes up I don't need to get up I just position him and he latches on! The biggest con for us and this is only with ds2 never had this problem with ds1 is that I have to cuddle him all night he won't let oh cuddle him and he won't just lie beside me,I have constantly got bad shoulders from lying awkward and stiff fingers from where he has been lying on my arm and the circulation is not great! I had no problems getting ds1 to sleep in his cot after we fixnished cosleeping,and I think in the next few months il be finishing cosleeping with ds2 mainly because of the aches and pains

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wasey Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: South East of England. Posts: 264	I'd LOVE to co-sleep, how do you go about positioning? Or making sure they're not smothered with blankets etc?

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0_o Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: UK, Fareham Posts: 1,275	Pros. I just love the cuddles. I don't have to get up and stay awake feeding. Cons. She has gone from sleeping 4-5hrs, then 3hrly feeds during the night, to wanting a boob in her mouth all night! I have back pain like you wouldn't believe. She wears only a vest. I don't cover myself or her. She lays facing me on her side mostly, and i lay on my side with my legs up against her feet so she can't move down... But she has recently realised she can push off and move up the bed lol. I have my lower arm up above her head. Really, you won't XX budge once baby is in the bed, I dont move a muscle. It's just instinct. It can be done safely and be better for boh mum and baby than sleeping seperately.

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Aug 25th, 2011, 02:25 AM	#5
Lauki Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: Rugby, UK Posts: 4,737	The moments I did cosleep the whole night was the same as 0_o. Legs under her feet and lower arm above her head. It really is instinct not to move, as I'm normally a big wriggler, but with Sophie next to me I don't move an inch. I coslept because Sophie was waking up 3 times a night and would be impossible to settle back again without rocking her for 1 or 1.5 hours. I was just too exhausted to not cosleep. Now she's gone to only waking once a night and easier to settle, so she sleeps in her basket against my bed. The cosleeping really got me through the first weeks and it still gets me through nights where she's being impossible. Even now when I'm so tired at 6am and really can't face getting up yet, I pop her next to me in the bed and snooze for another hour while she's on the boob. Cosleeping has been a lifesaver for me and it has been really easy to put her back in her own bed again.

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Aug 25th, 2011, 02:31 AM	#6
mumandco Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: wales Posts: 5,748	I put my arm around lo and pull him close into me I then put a little blanket of his own over him and then I only leave enough of the duvet to jus cover me!

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Aug 25th, 2011, 03:05 AM	#8
wasey Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: South East of England. Posts: 264	I usually wriggle about a lot in my sleep, go to sleep curled up & wake up spread out but when I've napped with LO in her boppy and me leaning against it I've woken up exactly the same and find I wake up better when she cries. How do you go about partners? Like, would you put LO in the middle at the top or...? I suppose you say bye bye to your pillows right?

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Aug 25th, 2011, 03:20 AM	#9
kerrie24 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: uk Posts: 6,006	I just used to turn my pillow vertical instead of horizontal and keep it right away from baby,When they are tiny they would sleep in the side beside me but as they get big enough to move around they would go in the middle. Pros-get more sleep! -and cuddles cons-hubby/oh can sometimes resent having baby between you. -I personally find it hard to stop co-sleeping when baby is older But ive done it with all 3 of mine,and feel totally comfortable with it.

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