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Old Sep 3rd, 2011, 04:27 AM   1
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"Are you a first-time mum?" RANT!


I am so sick of my opinions being dismissed because I only have one child.

'You don't want your 7 month old to watch TV? Oh, that's just because you're a first-time mum. You'd relax more if it was your second!'

'You're nervous about putting your daughter in creche? That's just because you're a first-time mum!'

And the same question every time I say something I want to do with LO in the future, like have her dummy gone by the age of 2 or not put her in a FF car seat yet... the little pause and then the 'Are you a first-time mum?' As if it frickin matters.

Drives me batty. Yes, I know there's things I'll relax about whenever I have another child, but that doesn't make me a nervous, neurotic mess either. I'm actually reasonably relaxed with her.



 
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Old Sep 3rd, 2011, 05:03 AM   2
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My response would be "true, I haven't had time to let my standards slip yet".



 
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Old Sep 3rd, 2011, 05:07 AM   3
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I totally agree! I find doctors the worst. The number of times they have dismissed me when LO is clearly ill just because I am a "first time mum" and therefore must, I dunno, want to make up symptoms and have my son ill?????

I am sure I will have a lot less questions next time and won't stress about some silly things I did this time...but it doesn't make me totally clueless right now.



 
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Old Sep 3rd, 2011, 05:23 AM   4
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I am so sick of my opinions being dismissed because I only have one child.

'You don't want your 7 month old to watch TV? Oh, that's just because you're a first-time mum. You'd relax more if it was your second!'

'You're nervous about putting your daughter in creche? That's just because you're a first-time mum!'

And the same question every time I say something I want to do with LO in the future, like have her dummy gone by the age of 2 or not put her in a FF car seat yet... the little pause and then the 'Are you a first-time mum?' As if it frickin matters.

Drives me batty. Yes, I know there's things I'll relax about whenever I have another child, but that doesn't make me a nervous, neurotic mess either. I'm actually reasonably relaxed with her.
I'm NOT a first time mom and I'm definitely not more relaxed in terms of my standards of raising kids. You love your second LO just as much and want only the best for them!



 
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Old Sep 3rd, 2011, 12:14 PM   5
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I'm just a nervous, neurotic mess and I don't mind admitting it (this is my 4th). For example, I yell at DH for leaving her on the sofa. Yes, I know she doesn't roll over yet, but what if today is the day for her first time? Or what if she falls asleep with her face buried in the cushion on the back of the couch? This is just one example of many, but I just can't help it...



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Old Sep 3rd, 2011, 15:18 PM   6
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1st, 2nd, 3rd etc it doesnt matter im still the same as I was when I was a first time mum, maybe not as nervous but thats it x



 
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Old Sep 3rd, 2011, 15:38 PM   7
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What I hate is 'just you wait' when I say I'm going to do something they don't agree with as if I don't have a clue yet.



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Old Sep 3rd, 2011, 15:45 PM   8
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My response would be "true, I haven't had time to let my standards slip yet".
Totally using that, next time! I get it too. The one that really annoys me, is when I'm talking about cloth nappies and how easy the are, and people ask "Do you work, though". Yes, I do - I have a toddler!



 
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Old Sep 3rd, 2011, 16:09 PM   9
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I get this too - and completely throw them when I reply "no, I have a 14 year old" cos apparently I don't look old enough lol. Actually next summer I'll have 2 teenagers!



 
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Old Sep 3rd, 2011, 16:12 PM   10
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Oh god this is soooo patronising! I was talking to Ruby in a waiting room when she was a newborn and a lady said 'awwwww I can tell she's your first'. Go away, I'm not going to ignore my second!!



 
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