I don't think your over reacting, different people have different bounderies of what is and isn't acceptable when it comes to their child. Based on the fact she doesn't see him all that often and hasn't really expressed much interest in spending time with your LO (being too cool and all that) then I would be raging and extremely uncomfortable with the situation.
My sister is 12 and i trust her with Summer. But she is mature, street wise and our area everyone mainly knows everyone. She sees Summer everyday. I'd trust her to take her to the school park (5 mins away) and to the shops (two mins away) but no further. Just my own boundaries Hope you have a talk with your OH about how its made you feel. no mummy should be made to feel like that xx
as someone mentioned if you lived with the girl and she was around your lo everyday she would see how lo is and be aware of the behaviours she needs to look out for (choking/climbing/running away) and i would be more comfortable, hence why SOME 12 year olds MAY be responsible enough..however i think NO 12 year old is old enough to go out with a small child. there are far too many dangers especially for a walking child!
I feel sick to my stomach just reading your posts.... seriously, I wouldn't allow it and I would be completely and utterly pissed off! Mark wouldn't let it happen though either lol.. he is worse than I am when it comes to K going anywhere!
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