Am i being out of order and over protective? - Page 3

cowboys angel · Oct 2nd, 2011, 10:13 AM

I was babysitting at 12 years, so I would say it depends on the person. If she's usually immature, I'd definitely be upset. If she is usually more mature and responsible, I'd probably be okay with it.

CLH_X3 · Oct 2nd, 2011, 10:22 AM

I'd be going mental !! 12 is way way way to young!
I can't even believe your oh would think it's ok!

To make it worse is the fact that ur oh isn't picking up the phone!

Loui1001 · Oct 2nd, 2011, 10:36 AM

can you phone anyone else hun (like your MIL) to check up on her? It's horrible sitting worrying. even get the 12year olds number and contact her yourself?

Natasha2605 · Oct 2nd, 2011, 13:10 PM

Did you sort it?

I don't think your over reacting, different people have different bounderies of what is and isn't acceptable when it comes to their child. Based on the fact she doesn't see him all that often and hasn't really expressed much interest in spending time with your LO (being too cool and all that) then I would be raging and extremely uncomfortable with the situation.

My sister is 12 and i trust her with Summer. But she is mature, street wise and our area everyone mainly knows everyone. She sees Summer everyday. I'd trust her to take her to the school park (5 mins away) and to the shops (two mins away) but no further. Just my own boundaries

Hope you have a talk with your OH about how its made you feel. no mummy should be made to feel like that

xx

Mindy_mini · Oct 2nd, 2011, 13:12 PM

I think he was totally irresponsible letting a 12year old child take your LO out.

Waiting2bMommy · Oct 2nd, 2011, 13:17 PM

Awe hun

I would be mad too! 12 is far too young to take your LO out alone.

Babushka99 · Oct 2nd, 2011, 13:20 PM

I can't remember what its like being a 12 year old and how responsible you are but I think not even 2 is too young to go out with a 12 year old alone!

MikaylasMummy · Oct 2nd, 2011, 17:39 PM

as someone mentioned if you lived with the girl and she was around your lo everyday she would see how lo is and be aware of the behaviours she needs to look out for (choking/climbing/running away) and i would be more comfortable, hence why SOME 12 year olds MAY be responsible enough..however i think NO 12 year old is old enough to go out with a small child. there are far too many dangers especially for a walking child!

justlove · Oct 2nd, 2011, 17:52 PM

Being as I know west london area and given her age I would of gone off my nut, its not that she maybe irresponsible its other people in that area.

Eve · Oct 2nd, 2011, 18:41 PM

I feel sick to my stomach just reading your posts.... seriously, I wouldn't allow it and I would be completely and utterly pissed off! Mark wouldn't let it happen though either lol.. he is worse than I am when it comes to K going anywhere!

Oct 2nd, 2011, 10:13 AM	#21
cowboys angel Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Michigan Posts: 4,534	I was babysitting at 12 years, so I would say it depends on the person. If she's usually immature, I'd definitely be upset. If she is usually more mature and responsible, I'd probably be okay with it.

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CLH_X3 Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2010 Posts: 5,261	I'd be going mental !! 12 is way way way to young! I can't even believe your oh would think it's ok! To make it worse is the fact that ur oh isn't picking up the phone!

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Oct 2nd, 2011, 10:36 AM	#23
Loui1001 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: UK Posts: 2,775	can you phone anyone else hun (like your MIL) to check up on her? It's horrible sitting worrying. even get the 12year olds number and contact her yourself?

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Oct 2nd, 2011, 13:10 PM	#24
Natasha2605 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Edinburgh, UK Posts: 7,990	Did you sort it? I don't think your over reacting, different people have different bounderies of what is and isn't acceptable when it comes to their child. Based on the fact she doesn't see him all that often and hasn't really expressed much interest in spending time with your LO (being too cool and all that) then I would be raging and extremely uncomfortable with the situation. My sister is 12 and i trust her with Summer. But she is mature, street wise and our area everyone mainly knows everyone. She sees Summer everyday. I'd trust her to take her to the school park (5 mins away) and to the shops (two mins away) but no further. Just my own boundaries Hope you have a talk with your OH about how its made you feel. no mummy should be made to feel like that xx

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Oct 2nd, 2011, 13:12 PM	#25
Mindy_mini Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2010 Posts: 2,080	I think he was totally irresponsible letting a 12year old child take your LO out.

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Waiting2bMommy Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Southern California Posts: 9,560	Awe hun I would be mad too! 12 is far too young to take your LO out alone.

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Babushka99 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: London Posts: 2,333	I can't remember what its like being a 12 year old and how responsible you are but I think not even 2 is too young to go out with a 12 year old alone!

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Oct 2nd, 2011, 17:39 PM	#28
MikaylasMummy Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Central Coast, Australia Posts: 2,008	as someone mentioned if you lived with the girl and she was around your lo everyday she would see how lo is and be aware of the behaviours she needs to look out for (choking/climbing/running away) and i would be more comfortable, hence why SOME 12 year olds MAY be responsible enough..however i think NO 12 year old is old enough to go out with a small child. there are far too many dangers especially for a walking child!

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Oct 2nd, 2011, 17:52 PM	#29
justlove Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Londoner living in Northants Posts: 306	Being as I know west london area and given her age I would of gone off my nut, its not that she maybe irresponsible its other people in that area.

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Oct 2nd, 2011, 18:41 PM	#30
Eve Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Canada! Posts: 8,310	I feel sick to my stomach just reading your posts.... seriously, I wouldn't allow it and I would be completely and utterly pissed off! Mark wouldn't let it happen though either lol.. he is worse than I am when it comes to K going anywhere!

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