Me and OH argue quite a lot about how to raise LO and how we should tackle problems.
I like attatchment parenting, and he believes in strict dicipline (he thinks its ok to spank) and CIO. Oh and i still bf, which he says is starting to get 'weird' & i should stop cold turkey & practically force him on a bottle.
I refuse to let Jacob CIO, which has led to OH saying he wont live with us til I have his sleeping sorted >

i dont see how we're ever going to agree on anything... Hes very stubborn, and because he wont live with us (yet) i feel im the one who gets to make the decisions.. Is anyone else in this situation?

My DH is very routine driven (he gas Aspergers) so I can completely sympathise hun! I also BF and he finds demand feeding so hard to deal with as there is no routine, however I have found that compromising on some thing helps ie a set bed time, a plan to the day, set meal times for our toddler etc. These things give him a sense of security and therefore give me more leeway when it comes to BF'ing, not CIO. Personally, I couldn't use CIO as a method for sleeping, it breaks my heart but I do believe in consistency so I will set a bedtime, and stick to it, with our DD1, it took almost a month of cuddles, PUPD and reassurance until she settled for her bedtime with no issues, now she is great. We started implementing it at about 5-6 months old.

Would your OH be agreeable to those methods instead? Is there any compromising at all? However I do agree that if he doesn't live with you then he doesn't have any choice with how you deal with your LO for bedtime and overnight. At the end of the day he is not there to support you with any method!

Maybe you can sit down with a plan of what you are happy to do and things that are totally out of the question and see what he says.
Either way I hope you work something out. It's never easy!