When will you stop BFing and/or co-sleeping?

Fascination · Dec 5th, 2011, 14:51 PM

Do you have a vague idea of when you'll stop doing these things?

If anyone asks how long I'm planning to BF, I always say until at least 6 months and the same with co-sleeping. I don't have any idea beyond that. Ideally, I'd like to wait until Amber decides she's ready. On the other hand, I'm not sure how comfortable I'd be BFing a 4 year old! (I don't think there's anything wrong with that btw, not looking to start a debate, please!)

The co-sleeping thing is another issue; I don't mind sharing our bed until she's ready to leave but I don't think my OH would be happy if it went on for too long!

I'd feel incredibly guilty if I made her stop BFing or leave our bedroom before she'd like to, so I'm torn over what I'll do in the future.

Are you going to allow your LO's to decide when they're ready or will you decide for them?

Just curious what other mum's have planned

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pandacub · Dec 5th, 2011, 14:59 PM

I still breastfeed and am working on getting Jacob to sleep all night in his cot now.

I'm going to stop breastfeeding in the next few months I think. He uses it as a sleep association, which I'll be trying to change soon (after the co-sleep transition)

I will miss it a lot though

Squirmsmum · Dec 5th, 2011, 15:03 PM

I say at least 6 months but probably longer, she doesn't take a bottle so until she can and wants to use a cup. At the moment I nurse to sleep too do when she weans off that

Lilli · Dec 5th, 2011, 15:04 PM

Hello,
I never thought i'd last this long BF-ing, initially i thought if i made it to christmas it would be a miracle, now i'm nearly there i think i'll continue until he is 6 months... providing he doesn't decide he needs real food sooner?!

Same as Squirmsmum, Adrian wont take a bottle so i'll have to get him to use a cup... I bought a Doidy cup, just dont know what to put in it at the moment

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TigerLady · Dec 5th, 2011, 15:06 PM

Both my kids are still BF (they are 28 and 15 months). DS has been in his own bed in his own room since he was STTN at 10 months old. DD is 15 months old and still co-sleeping. TBH, DH is getting a little over it. I'll probably start working a bit harder on her to STTN and move to her own bed soon. But if she resists, I won't force it. As for how long I will BF -- hopefully self weaning. Though I might change my mind as they get older. I'll let them go to at least 2.5 years old, though, as that is the youngest "natural" age for a human baby to self wean.

kaths101 · Dec 5th, 2011, 15:07 PM

Im just going with the flow, BF is going well and im proud of myself for going this far so I will continue, I really enjoy it and so does he.. I will miss that look of pure bliss on his face when we give up!

kdea547 · Dec 5th, 2011, 15:12 PM

I am currently working on transitioning Lily out of my bed into a bedside co-sleeper and I plan to work on transitioning her to her own room around 6 months. I am still going to let her kind of lead the process because I want her to feel secure wherever she is and if it takes from 6 months to 2 years to get her totally comfortable with sleeping on her own, then I'm (sort of) okay with that.

jaytee146 · Dec 5th, 2011, 15:28 PM

my mother who is so anti bfing bf my little brother until he was around 2 if not longer... I'm not sure i'd go that long.. but like ^pp said I didn't think I'd make it this long.. I figure once she starts solids and a sippy cup we'll slowly decrease the amount of milk.. but if she doesn't want to I'll continue to express for her while I'm at work. no biggie

As far as the co sleeping.. when she starts sleeping through the night I'll consider placing her in her own bed... Ithink sometimes I co-sleep for me a little ( I enjoy her cuddling next to me.. It's so cute!

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Squiggle08 · Dec 5th, 2011, 15:31 PM

I didn't manage to BF my first son so I never imagined I would get this far. I mostly just do an evening BF now and will stop when the time seems right, maybe around 18 months. I cut down the day feeds when I went back to work at a year and then the morning feed dropped naturally a few months ago.

Seity · Dec 5th, 2011, 15:35 PM

I have to combo feed, but I will allow my LO to decide when he is done with the BFing. I also only ever partially coslept. I'd take him into bed with me in the morning to nurse while I dozed for a while longer. He was waking at 5:30 for a feed and then wanting to be up for the day. Once he starting going back to sleep after eating I was able to stop cosleeping in the mornings. That was around 18 months or so.
He's 21 months and we BF anywhere from 0-2 times in a day.

Dec 5th, 2011, 14:51 PM	#1
Fascination Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Liverpool Posts: 1,107	When will you stop BFing and/or co-sleeping? Do you have a vague idea of when you'll stop doing these things? If anyone asks how long I'm planning to BF, I always say until at least 6 months and the same with co-sleeping. I don't have any idea beyond that. Ideally, I'd like to wait until Amber decides she's ready. On the other hand, I'm not sure how comfortable I'd be BFing a 4 year old! (I don't think there's anything wrong with that btw, not looking to start a debate, please!) The co-sleeping thing is another issue; I don't mind sharing our bed until she's ready to leave but I don't think my OH would be happy if it went on for too long! I'd feel incredibly guilty if I made her stop BFing or leave our bedroom before she'd like to, so I'm torn over what I'll do in the future. Are you going to allow your LO's to decide when they're ready or will you decide for them? Just curious what other mum's have planned x

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Dec 5th, 2011, 14:59 PM	#2
pandacub Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Herefordshire Posts: 857	I still breastfeed and am working on getting Jacob to sleep all night in his cot now. I'm going to stop breastfeeding in the next few months I think. He uses it as a sleep association, which I'll be trying to change soon (after the co-sleep transition) I will miss it a lot though

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Dec 5th, 2011, 15:03 PM	#3
Squirmsmum Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Leeds Posts: 775	I say at least 6 months but probably longer, she doesn't take a bottle so until she can and wants to use a cup. At the moment I nurse to sleep too do when she weans off that

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Dec 5th, 2011, 15:04 PM	#4
Lilli Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Hertfordshire, UK Posts: 1,800	Hello, I never thought i'd last this long BF-ing, initially i thought if i made it to christmas it would be a miracle, now i'm nearly there i think i'll continue until he is 6 months... providing he doesn't decide he needs real food sooner?! Same as Squirmsmum, Adrian wont take a bottle so i'll have to get him to use a cup... I bought a Doidy cup, just dont know what to put in it at the moment .

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Dec 5th, 2011, 15:06 PM	#5
TigerLady Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: In a Cave Posts: 24,275	Both my kids are still BF (they are 28 and 15 months). DS has been in his own bed in his own room since he was STTN at 10 months old. DD is 15 months old and still co-sleeping. TBH, DH is getting a little over it. I'll probably start working a bit harder on her to STTN and move to her own bed soon. But if she resists, I won't force it. As for how long I will BF -- hopefully self weaning. Though I might change my mind as they get older. I'll let them go to at least 2.5 years old, though, as that is the youngest "natural" age for a human baby to self wean.

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Dec 5th, 2011, 15:07 PM	#6
kaths101 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Norfolk Posts: 2,543	Im just going with the flow, BF is going well and im proud of myself for going this far so I will continue, I really enjoy it and so does he.. I will miss that look of pure bliss on his face when we give up!

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Dec 5th, 2011, 15:12 PM	#7
kdea547 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Kansas Posts: 1,122	I am currently working on transitioning Lily out of my bed into a bedside co-sleeper and I plan to work on transitioning her to her own room around 6 months. I am still going to let her kind of lead the process because I want her to feel secure wherever she is and if it takes from 6 months to 2 years to get her totally comfortable with sleeping on her own, then I'm (sort of) okay with that.

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Dec 5th, 2011, 15:28 PM	#8
jaytee146 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: MS,USA Posts: 2,267	my mother who is so anti bfing bf my little brother until he was around 2 if not longer... I'm not sure i'd go that long.. but like ^pp said I didn't think I'd make it this long.. I figure once she starts solids and a sippy cup we'll slowly decrease the amount of milk.. but if she doesn't want to I'll continue to express for her while I'm at work. no biggie As far as the co sleeping.. when she starts sleeping through the night I'll consider placing her in her own bed... Ithink sometimes I co-sleep for me a little ( I enjoy her cuddling next to me.. It's so cute! )

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Dec 5th, 2011, 15:31 PM	#9
Squiggle08 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2010 Posts: 137	I didn't manage to BF my first son so I never imagined I would get this far. I mostly just do an evening BF now and will stop when the time seems right, maybe around 18 months. I cut down the day feeds when I went back to work at a year and then the morning feed dropped naturally a few months ago.

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Dec 5th, 2011, 15:35 PM	#10
Seity Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Ithaca, NY Posts: 16,677	I have to combo feed, but I will allow my LO to decide when he is done with the BFing. I also only ever partially coslept. I'd take him into bed with me in the morning to nurse while I dozed for a while longer. He was waking at 5:30 for a feed and then wanting to be up for the day. Once he starting going back to sleep after eating I was able to stop cosleeping in the mornings. That was around 18 months or so. He's 21 months and we BF anywhere from 0-2 times in a day.

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