11 days into breastfeeding- how to stop? - Page 2

OctBebe · Dec 12th, 2011, 01:33 AM

I started introducing formula after feeds @ 2weeks, completely stopped BF at 3weeks, like someone else has said I wish I persisted with BF but LO just wasn't getting what he wanted even after 1.5hours of BF he would drink 100ml of formula. But its all up to you, I remember how bad I felt stopping feeling like he didn't need me anymore but just remeber happy mum happy baby.

xx

caz_hills · Dec 12th, 2011, 02:15 AM

Hi Hun I stopped at eleven days too. I stopped latching him on but expressed four or five times a day and was giving him the EBM in bottles for a week or so. But then my milk dried up and I gave him formula - actamil. I only used this brand as it was the one they used in the hospital.

I made myself feel very guilty about stopping an had been to see many midwives about latching etc. but it wasn't for me and I did feel much better mentally when I stopped.

I hope it works for you and big hugs. x

lillmoo · Dec 12th, 2011, 03:33 AM

I agree with the last post, breastfeeding for me actually made me down, me and my bubba are much closer now I've stopped, I did it for six weeks and it was so hard!

Natasha2605 · Dec 12th, 2011, 03:56 AM

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Originally Posted by wolfybaby

im also curious as to why you want to formula feed.. its harder for baby to digest and not to mention its incredibly expensive! over $100 a month for the cheeeeap stuff. crazzy. during the first two months of breastfeeding my daughter, i had mastitis twice and clogged ducts three times. i thought id have to switch to formula.. i felt sooo guilty even thinking about it! fortunately, after about 7 or 8 weeks, breastfeeding magically became a breeze. now i can forsee many months of ease. :] sooo happy. i feel for those women whos bodies refuse to breastfeed.
but i understand that breastfeeding isnt for everyone, like my friend who had super sensitive nipples that bled. but if you can breastfeed without it being devastatingly painful.. why not?

I don't really think your post is all that helpful. My baby was FF from day one and digests it fine

I'm sure her baby will adapt as we all have to adapt to things in life. As for the cost, she's inthe UK, so she may be entitled to Healthy Start Vouchers which help towards the cost of formula. (sorry op dont know your financial situation). It's a shame you felt guilty for considering it, some people do and some don't.

I just dont think op needs to explain why she wants to stop. Different if she's posted saying she's considering stopping unless anyone can help her out but she seems pretty set on her decision so shouldn't need to explain.

Like other posters have said OP, you can do it gradually. Just slowly start replacing feeds etc. Take it slowly and don't expect too much too quick.

Good luck

xx

mama_t · Dec 12th, 2011, 04:15 AM

I have always just expressed and gave it in a bottle but by week 3 I felt so down about having to pump or BF that I didnt dare left the house at all! I started FF gradually, dropping pumps so I slowly dries up and LO is happy with the formula now! I did try a few different brands; started with the comfort milk from aptamil, then similac comfort but switched to just regular Bebelac after my mom suggested it because LO had a hard time with gas on the other two! Now that we have an awesome formula and I am not hooked up to the milk pump anymore, I am so much happier and just enjoy being out and about with LO!

ashley2pink · Dec 12th, 2011, 04:20 AM

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Originally Posted by lisaf

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Originally Posted by minties

Hey, don't be sad or curious about someone choosing to formula feed - don't you know that's considered small minded and condescending?
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I'm just sad its not working out for her, not sad that she's choosing formula over breastfeeding. I felt like all the hard work BFing was at first more than paid off, though I came close to calling it quits a few times. I don't blame anyone for making the call that is going to make them and their child happier. I'm just sad to see all that effort not pay off for her.

Please don't call me names for expressing my feelings and assuming you know what I meant.

Yes, but don't you know you aren't able to express concern ever on this forum when it comes to ff? Nor can you ask any questions. Or people will jump down your throat. So pretty much just tip toe your way through answering anything regarding formula.

ashley2pink · Dec 12th, 2011, 04:21 AM

Like others have said doing it gradual will be easier on both of you

lilyanne · Dec 12th, 2011, 04:41 AM

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Originally Posted by ashley2pink

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Originally Posted by lisaf

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Originally Posted by minties

Hey, don't be sad or curious about someone choosing to formula feed - don't you know that's considered small minded and condescending?
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I'm just sad its not working out for her, not sad that she's choosing formula over breastfeeding. I felt like all the hard work BFing was at first more than paid off, though I came close to calling it quits a few times. I don't blame anyone for making the call that is going to make them and their child happier. I'm just sad to see all that effort not pay off for her.

Please don't call me names for expressing my feelings and assuming you know what I meant.

Yes, but don't you know you aren't able to express concern ever on this forum when it comes to ff? Nor can you ask any questions. Or people will jump down your throat. So pretty much just tip toe your way through answering anything regarding formula.

I don't think anyone is jumping down OP's throat. Many women on here have had difficulties with breastfeeding, have wanted to quit at some point in the beginning, and some have stopped in the early stages; I know that around day 10 I was sleep deprived, had trouble getting the hang of it, and seriously wanted to quit because I hated it and found myself dreading the next feed. I don't think it is wrong for people to empathize with the OP and relate to feeling like wanting to quit or to offer encouragement and BF support if she decides she wants to continue instead.

Gbobs · Dec 12th, 2011, 04:43 AM

I BF'd for just over three weeks and hated it, so decided to move to FF. I went cold turkey as every feed was distressing for me and I couldn't physically stand the thought of nursing any more feeds once I'd tried LO on a bottle. I was lucky in that I didn't catch mastitus but my boobs were incredibly painful for a couple of days and I had to get up at 6am one morning to express as I couldn't move without being in pain. So as others have said, if you can, it's probably best to introduce FF gradually. My LO was fine on formula and we had no problems.

Oh and please don't feel you need to justify your decision whatever the reason you decided to stop BF. As long as you are happy with the decision that is all that matters. The main thing is that you gave it a go.

K2785 · Dec 12th, 2011, 04:56 AM

Hi....

I breast fed for 2 weeks and found it so hard it was really getting me down as I just felt like I couldn't go out just incase baby wanted feeding as I don't have the confidence to feed in public also I have a nearly 4 year old who was getting very fed up of mummy not being able to put her to bed as I was constantly feeding baby who never seemed to be full. So it just ment I was crying every evening as I felt so guiltly for not putting my 4 year old to bed and guilty for wanting to stop bfing when baby had taken to it so well..

In the end I decided I couldn't do it anymore so decided to switch to formula and to be honest I am now enjoying everything more and have a much better routine. I stopped cold turkey as I was just getting to upset and my boobs went really hard for 24 hours so I just had loads of baths to soak them in lol and baby is on sma gold from dr brown bottles and she is taking 4 to 5 oz every 3 tO 4 hours

Good luck and what ever you do don't feel guilty and beat yourself up about stopping just do what's right for you.. Xxxx

Dec 12th, 2011, 01:33 AM	#11
OctBebe Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: New Zealand Posts: 1,012	I started introducing formula after feeds @ 2weeks, completely stopped BF at 3weeks, like someone else has said I wish I persisted with BF but LO just wasn't getting what he wanted even after 1.5hours of BF he would drink 100ml of formula. But its all up to you, I remember how bad I felt stopping feeling like he didn't need me anymore but just remeber happy mum happy baby. xx

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Dec 12th, 2011, 02:15 AM	#12
caz_hills Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Berkshire, UK Posts: 3,672	Hi Hun I stopped at eleven days too. I stopped latching him on but expressed four or five times a day and was giving him the EBM in bottles for a week or so. But then my milk dried up and I gave him formula - actamil. I only used this brand as it was the one they used in the hospital. I made myself feel very guilty about stopping an had been to see many midwives about latching etc. but it wasn't for me and I did feel much better mentally when I stopped. I hope it works for you and big hugs. x

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Dec 12th, 2011, 03:33 AM	#13
lillmoo Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Plymouth Posts: 1,312	I agree with the last post, breastfeeding for me actually made me down, me and my bubba are much closer now I've stopped, I did it for six weeks and it was so hard!

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Dec 12th, 2011, 04:15 AM	#15
mama_t Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Germany Posts: 635	I have always just expressed and gave it in a bottle but by week 3 I felt so down about having to pump or BF that I didnt dare left the house at all! I started FF gradually, dropping pumps so I slowly dries up and LO is happy with the formula now! I did try a few different brands; started with the comfort milk from aptamil, then similac comfort but switched to just regular Bebelac after my mom suggested it because LO had a hard time with gas on the other two! Now that we have an awesome formula and I am not hooked up to the milk pump anymore, I am so much happier and just enjoy being out and about with LO!

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Dec 12th, 2011, 04:21 AM	#17
ashley2pink Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Utah, USA Posts: 3,131	Like others have said doing it gradual will be easier on both of you

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Dec 12th, 2011, 04:43 AM	#19
Gbobs Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Essex, UK Posts: 953	I BF'd for just over three weeks and hated it, so decided to move to FF. I went cold turkey as every feed was distressing for me and I couldn't physically stand the thought of nursing any more feeds once I'd tried LO on a bottle. I was lucky in that I didn't catch mastitus but my boobs were incredibly painful for a couple of days and I had to get up at 6am one morning to express as I couldn't move without being in pain. So as others have said, if you can, it's probably best to introduce FF gradually. My LO was fine on formula and we had no problems. Oh and please don't feel you need to justify your decision whatever the reason you decided to stop BF. As long as you are happy with the decision that is all that matters. The main thing is that you gave it a go.

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Dec 12th, 2011, 04:56 AM	#20
K2785 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: South Wales Posts: 801	Hi.... I breast fed for 2 weeks and found it so hard it was really getting me down as I just felt like I couldn't go out just incase baby wanted feeding as I don't have the confidence to feed in public also I have a nearly 4 year old who was getting very fed up of mummy not being able to put her to bed as I was constantly feeding baby who never seemed to be full. So it just ment I was crying every evening as I felt so guiltly for not putting my 4 year old to bed and guilty for wanting to stop bfing when baby had taken to it so well.. In the end I decided I couldn't do it anymore so decided to switch to formula and to be honest I am now enjoying everything more and have a much better routine. I stopped cold turkey as I was just getting to upset and my boobs went really hard for 24 hours so I just had loads of baths to soak them in lol and baby is on sma gold from dr brown bottles and she is taking 4 to 5 oz every 3 tO 4 hours Good luck and what ever you do don't feel guilty and beat yourself up about stopping just do what's right for you.. Xxxx

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