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Old Dec 27th, 2011, 10:01 AM   #1
ExpectingK
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Wrong to ask for Money for LO's 1st Birthday?


My dd will be 1 (eeek) on 19th Feb. We've been inundated with toys / books / clothes for her over Christmas and I've already bought a few toys for her birthday.

She doesn't really 'need' anything for her birthday given that it's so close to Christmas. I have a wardrobe full of 12-18mth things for her.

Would it be wrong to ask for money to go into a savings account? Am I likely to offend people? I literally can't think of anything, I'm even regretting getting more toys - didn't quite expect how many she'd be given for Christmas! Silly me.

Anyone have any suggestions for gifts? Have you bought something for you lo to keep long-term (I'm thinking jewellery).

Ideas welcome.


 
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Old Dec 27th, 2011, 10:03 AM   #2
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I don't think it's rude at all. Just be prepared that some people may not want to give money but may give gift vouchers or may bring clothes/toys even though you asked for money.


 
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Old Dec 27th, 2011, 10:04 AM   #3
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i would suggest it, rather than ask, and explain she has so much x


 
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Old Dec 27th, 2011, 10:04 AM   #4
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To be honest, id find it extremely difficult to ask for money as a gift, unless im asked what i prefer, otherwise i just wouldnt say.
Unless however its a close friend/family in which case thats fine in the main...


 
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Old Dec 27th, 2011, 10:11 AM   #5
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Instead of asking for money can you call it a college fund? It sounds much nicer to say "LO has more toys than she knows what to do with! She does have a college fund in her name though at the bank, care to help it bloom?" or something like that.


 
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Old Dec 27th, 2011, 10:15 AM   #6
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I do this for my kids for every ocassion. They both have savings accounts set up and I always say, "You can get them whatever you'd like, but more than anything else, they could use money for their savings accounts for college. They already have so much stuff."

Most of the time it doesn't work. My Dad is really good about doing it, but he still gets them toys, too. My MIL will also get a load of toys for them in addition to some money for their accounts. Everyone else ALWAYS gets them toys and/or clothes.

But it doesn't stop me from trying.


 
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Old Dec 27th, 2011, 10:21 AM   #7
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I agree that there are tactful ways of asking. I like the idea of calling in an education fund, and really stress the that she has A LOT of toys. Not rude at all.


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Old Dec 27th, 2011, 11:10 AM   #8
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I was thinking the same but maybe asking for gift cards instead of money (LO doesn't have a savings account yet.) As it's her birthday on 11th feb and she has loads of toys and clothes to last her until she's 2 lol.


 
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Old Dec 27th, 2011, 11:20 AM   #9
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My LO is 1 on 18 Feb. when all the family came round on xmas day and saw all the HUGE piles of clothes and toys everyone said they would get her vouchers or money as she really doesn't need anything. i didn't ask they all just said it. i don't think its rude i would hate to buy something and it be wasted x


 
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Old Dec 27th, 2011, 12:15 PM   #10
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Technically, from a strict ettiquette standpoint, it is never ok to 'ask' for gifts of any kind let alone money.

If people ask you what to get, you can suggest things, always prefaced with 'she really doesn't need anything but we would appreciate anything you would give her.' Then maybe suggest the college fund. Even though you have an abundance of stuff, books and clothes are still a good gift and some people will insist on giving something to be opened.

My friends actually insisted on no gifts at all for their daughter's first birthday and everyone seemed to respect that.


 
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