My LO is 4 months old and I have been holding her in the lazy boy to sleep at night I have posted this in the breastfeeding section. However now I'm ready for her to sleep in her crib. Its safer for her and me.
My question is once I put her in there naturally she cries!!! How long do I let her cry it out? Yesterday 40 min until she finally gave up and went to sleep.

This morn for her nap its been so far 10 min but not as bad as yesterday.

Has Anybody else gone through this or is going through this and has some input?

Do you stay with her while she falls asleep? Or do you leave her to it? It's not recommended to let her CIO at this young age.

What I do with my LO is that I cuddle her until she is drowsy/very sleepy and then put her down where she needs to sleep and she just settles in that spot then . This way you can take it slow and put your LO earlier when she gets used to it and she feels secure.

I would just keep going in to give her her soother. I wasn't sure if i stayed with her until she fell asleep would that create another issue later on?

At this point she's used to sleeping with you in the recliner...and that isn't her fault. Not blaming you at all, not that you did something wrong..but it's not really fair to her to just decide it doesn't work anymore (which I agree that isn't very safe and should probably be changed) and stick her in her bed to cry, kwim? I really don't mean that in a mean/rude way AT ALL, just a different perspective. What I would do is rock her until she is almost asleep then lay her down, that way she falls asleep the rest of the way on her own. It might take doing it a few times at each nap and bedtime for awhile since it's new but she'll figure it out. If she starts crying try comforting her without picking her up but if she doesn't calm down right away I'd pick her up and start over. I'm not really one for CIO in general, but it's not recommended for her age anyway

I agree with the others. CIO isn't really good for them this young because they don't understand why no one is coming to comfort them. As others have suggested just rock her and then lay her down so she eventually understands this is where she should sleep and that you're not leaving her forever.

I don't think I'd leave Cas for any length of time at this age, he's almost 4 months now. She's just got used to falling asleep close to you, if you want to use a sleep technique I'd use a gradual withdrawel method

With my son, I was nursing him into his naps and holding him through his naps. I was getting exhausted doing this and decided to start laying him in his crib for his naps. My son will be 5 months on Jan, 5th...so not much older than yours. It has been really difficult. He would always wake up the second I lay him down, even being sound asleep and then he would start crying. I made the room dark, use a sound machine for white noise and nothing seemed to work but the one thing that is working is routine! I still nurse him but in the context of things realize that I can't just lay him down and him not cry even nursed almost to sleep. I do try my best to make sure I nurse him and sooth him as close to sleep as I possibly can, then I lay him down. At first he did cry, I am sorry to say for about 30 minutes...but most of it I noticed was fussing...not an all out cry. I timed it and if he started crying hysterically and he kept going for about 4 minutes, then I would go and pick him up and soothe him and lay him back down. I began to notice that most of the crying was not really crying but fussing. The first two days his naps only lasted for about 30 minutes each...but I still kept going with the routine. Every time he would begin to get sleepy I would pick him up go to his room, darken the room, turn on his noise machine and nurse him till he was as asleep as I could get him without him actually napping on me. Then I would lay him in bed in the knowledge he will probably cry. I listen for his cries making sure it is not hysterical and eventually I have noticed he cries for 2 minutes and is off to sleep and now sleeps his noon nap and afternoon nap at least an hour each on his own. Today I was actually able to put him in his crib and he didn't cry for his noon nap. I don't necessarily agree with crying it out but in my case there was no way I could lay my son down and he not cry for a little bit. I think some babies need to cry for a short time..maybe a minute or two to soothe themselves. I would not have left him for an hour to cry it out or anything because I don't believe in that. It is heartbreaking enough to listen to it for 2 minutes. Anyways, it is hard. There maybe some people that believe that what I have done is let him cry it out...but I don't believe in my own heart that I did. But I only started this about 5 days ago and it is so much better. He seems relieved when I bring him up into his room, turn out the lights and turn the white noise machine on...sort of like.."ahhhhh relief! I can finally take my nap now." He is beginning to understand when I take him up there to nurse that it is nap time. Good luck! Listen to your instincts. I know it is a very hard thing to do to listen to your baby cry and knowing the balance of letting them cry and not letting them cry and how to teach them .

40 minutes is a very long time to leave a baby to cry, regardless of age

You should never let your baby CIO especially not at this young age. What issues later ? do you want your baby to be detached and not need you ? thats what will happen when you cio its quite damaging. Your baby needs you. Now. And theres nothing wrong with tending to your baby you arnt doing harm. I tended to both mine and great fellas they are, independent to. When you leave a baby to cry they become less empathetic towards others when older and you to. It also causes brain damage to and increases the risk of SIDS in young babies especially.

Heres some links I urge you to have a look at.

Dr Sears
http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/0.../#.Tv9KE_JfaSo
Psychology today
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...-crying-it-out
peaceful parenting
http://www.drmomma.org/2009/12/dange...ng-it-out.html
Analytical armadillo
http://www.analyticalarmadillo.co.uk...f-leaving.html

The list is endless actually. Please have a read at them, there are safer and more gentler ways. You are not making some rod out of your own back tending to your baby, you are meeting needs. A happy baby has its needs met=happy mummy.


ps both my sons never really had to cry,all needs met, Breastfed, slept on me and beside me in bed. Not a problem. They know where I am if they need me now.

Thank you for the responses. She did fall asleep just now after 30 min of whining/ crying. And only slept 20 min.