Maternity support worker coming round today because i havent been to baby groups! - Page 3

milf2be · Jan 17th, 2012, 04:43 AM

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Originally Posted by Brookey

to be fair i think you should just wait and see before assuming shes trying to push you to go to a group. It may be that shes worried about you. She might be worried that youre depressed or something and just wants to check youre ok.

shes not a health visitor though, she is literally just a woman who runs the groups. plus it says what its about on the letter.

just rechecked the letter and its not this morning like i thought it was, shes coming between 12-1, which is good because it means my windscreen as been replaced so im not going to have to try and politely shoo her out the door so i can get that sorted, but LO has his lunch at 12 followed by a nap so i can have my lunch.....which is not going to happen now

Ozzieshunni · Jan 17th, 2012, 04:48 AM

If it were me, I would call and say that you won't be in. You do not have to see her.

milf2be · Jan 17th, 2012, 04:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Ozzieshunni

If it were me, I would call and say that you won't be in. You do not have to see her.

i know i should have, but i have been rushing around the couple of weeks looking at houses and completely forgot about it and i dont want to cancel at such short notice

Ozzieshunni · Jan 17th, 2012, 04:53 AM

Cancel!

It's not your problem. Don't feel any guilt!

darkangel1981 · Jan 17th, 2012, 05:12 AM

Id make your lunch as normal hun and eat it while she is there!!!

I keep getting letters to go to groups and stuff, my HV doesn't push though. She is quite happy for a quick catch up at vaccinations etc i think she gets that i am not really overly social and will do it when i feel like it. If i ever do lol

mum2be257 · Jan 17th, 2012, 05:40 AM

mine keeps sayin 'we have this if you feel up to it' its not that I dont feel up to it I just havent had the chance!

Ozzieshunni · Jan 17th, 2012, 05:45 AM

I've found a lot of the baby groups in our area to be majorly clique-y. I'll be looking into one that a friend runs though so that should be good.

hawalkden · Jan 17th, 2012, 05:50 AM

... I've just told my HV to not come again

. Feeling miles better for doing it. Isaac is loved etc and we only go swimming once a week (if I've got the energy!) so it's jack all to do with her what you do and don't do with your LO.

To me the only things that matter about Isaac is if he's loved, fed and millions of cuddles at the size/age he is now it's amazing. When he's older e.g. 5/6 months and wanting everything in his mouth etc and the mummy cuddles don't happy as much, also sleeping less through the day then We'll have more time to go to things.

Sorry mini rant/essay I know how you feel about them

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pandacub · Jan 17th, 2012, 06:12 AM

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Originally Posted by milf2be

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Originally Posted by pandacub

Ive never heard of them visiting because a mum didnt want to go to baby groups before! How odd.
I hope you dont mind me asking but, are you a young mum? They seem to try and push groups on younger mums i find! My hv used to bang on about groups Constantly and even told me she'd sign me up for some herself, like i was incapable.

they visited me before when i had just come out of hospital and she said it was routine. she just let me know about all the groups in my area. she said she would ring to make sure i was ok if i didnt turn up to groups....she didnt say she would visit again

im 21, 20 when i got pregnant, so i am a younger mum i guess but im not a teenager

Pfft, theyre idiots. Im 22 and half the time they talk to me like i dont know what im doing.
Agree with others, tell her to sod off.

Lellow · Jan 17th, 2012, 06:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Mooshie

Totally agree, it's no ones business if you go or not.

I don't go to any and I havnt had anyone sent round to me

Same as Mooshie.

Id be pretty miffed if someone tried to confront me about why i dont want to/cant socialise as its none of there business.

Let us know what she says, im curious.

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darkangel1981 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Scotland Posts: 1,667	Id make your lunch as normal hun and eat it while she is there!!! I keep getting letters to go to groups and stuff, my HV doesn't push though. She is quite happy for a quick catch up at vaccinations etc i think she gets that i am not really overly social and will do it when i feel like it. If i ever do lol

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mum2be257 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: cornwall Posts: 839	mine keeps sayin 'we have this if you feel up to it' its not that I dont feel up to it I just havent had the chance!

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Ozzieshunni Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 19,286	I've found a lot of the baby groups in our area to be majorly clique-y. I'll be looking into one that a friend runs though so that should be good.

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Jan 17th, 2012, 05:50 AM	#28
hawalkden Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Lancashire. Posts: 3,053	... I've just told my HV to not come again . Feeling miles better for doing it. Isaac is loved etc and we only go swimming once a week (if I've got the energy!) so it's jack all to do with her what you do and don't do with your LO. To me the only things that matter about Isaac is if he's loved, fed and millions of cuddles at the size/age he is now it's amazing. When he's older e.g. 5/6 months and wanting everything in his mouth etc and the mummy cuddles don't happy as much, also sleeping less through the day then We'll have more time to go to things. Sorry mini rant/essay I know how you feel about them .

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