There is going gender neutral and being open to your child doing and wearing what they want, and then there is deliberately choosing things for your child that are typically for the other sex. Cant find a succinct way of writing this, my brain isn't on top form today lol.
What I am trying to say is, if I had a boy he can play and wear what he wants...but I wouldn't go out of my way to buy him typically perceived to be feminine things. I think going gender neutral is very fashionable at the moment and a lot of parents aiming to bring up ambiguous gender children.
Ozzieshunni my dh is exactly the same!! Not that I let him get away with it either.
He also does the same thing with toys. If he had a little girl she would be on motorbikes etc but when I tell him out son might not want to do martial arts - he might want to dance he gets all huffy lol.
I guess I aim for more gender neutral things with Maria. I like to dress her in bright colours as well and if I see something in the boys section that looks cute I get that for her. All her toys are pretty gender neutral too.
I guess I'm a little more traditional (is that the term?) Aubrey wears a lot of pink and girly colors and has pink and girly things, but I'm not against being gender neutral at all. I loooove pink! It's my favorite color and while she can't pick out her own clothes now, why not put her in clothes that I like? When she gets older she can do as she pleases.
I dress Omar in pink, blue, red, orange, etc. Since he was a baby. Hs fav colour is pink. He has a dolly with a pram (both are pink), cleaning set & a vacuum, he has a kitchen & his trampoline is pink. He also has a car garage & other gender neutral toys.
He plays with my makeup & he loves to play with my clothes, shoes & bags.
Does your DH mind? No offense intended or judgement. Just trying to see what his perspective is
He's fine with it. DH wears pink & red. When Omar was a baby we used to get him some outfits from the girls section if they looked nuetral. Now he's older, we have to stick to boyish clothes but we still dress him in bright colours.
As for toys, DH made fun of me at 1st, & he thought I was buying those toys for myself to play with when he saw that Omar likes those toys, he started to buy "girly" toys for Omar he also sits with Omar & play with the tea set & kitchen.
amelie is extremely girly. she loves pink, princesses, sequins, glitter, dolls etc but thats just how she is. she does have sme cars too i guess lol and i do buy her clothes in all colours. if roman wants to play with her dolls and prams thats fine with me. aslong as theyre happy, im happy!
I guess a lot of this boils down to identity issues for children as they grow up. I think children should be able to play with whatever toys they want to and wear a full rainbow of colours etc but should still know that they are a boy or a girl.
It is the associations or meanings of being a boy or a girl that society puts forward that would be nice to shield them from without them being confused about their biological gender in the process - if that makes sense?
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