Gender Neutral Parenting? - Page 5

tina3747 · Jan 18th, 2012, 11:21 AM

I think the mums of older children would agree that no matter how you would choose to bring your children up gender neutral wise they'll choose for themselves eventually anyway.

My son had a kitchen, a dyson Hoover and and ironing board as toys, he also had cars and train tracks. I chose toys to buy from him what he used to play with at toddler group.

I don't think it's fair to push the opposite gender toys clothes ect on them just to go with wanting of a gender neutral parenting theory. Let them play with what they want to play with!!

Also pink has been a huge colour for older baby boys and kids recently!!

XJessicaX · Jan 18th, 2012, 11:28 AM

There is going gender neutral and being open to your child doing and wearing what they want, and then there is deliberately choosing things for your child that are typically for the other sex. Cant find a succinct way of writing this, my brain isn't on top form today lol.

What I am trying to say is, if I had a boy he can play and wear what he wants...but I wouldn't go out of my way to buy him typically perceived to be feminine things. I think going gender neutral is very fashionable at the moment and a lot of parents aiming to bring up ambiguous gender children.

Lil_Pixie · Jan 18th, 2012, 11:31 AM

Ozzieshunni my dh is exactly the same!! Not that I let him get away with it either.

He also does the same thing with toys. If he had a little girl she would be on motorbikes etc but when I tell him out son might not want to do martial arts - he might want to dance he gets all huffy lol.

Natsku · Jan 18th, 2012, 11:38 AM

I guess I aim for more gender neutral things with Maria. I like to dress her in bright colours as well and if I see something in the boys section that looks cute I get that for her. All her toys are pretty gender neutral too.

Ozzieshunni · Jan 18th, 2012, 11:38 AM

lol, I plan to take Alex to Mommy and Baby dance classes.

jessie_m · Jan 18th, 2012, 11:42 AM

I guess I'm a little more traditional (is that the term?) Aubrey wears a lot of pink and girly colors and has pink and girly things, but I'm not against being gender neutral at all. I loooove pink! It's my favorite color and while she can't pick out her own clothes now, why not put her in clothes that I like? When she gets older she can do as she pleases.

MrsPOP · Jan 18th, 2012, 12:06 PM

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Originally Posted by tina3747

I think the mums of older children would agree that no matter how you would choose to bring your children up gender neutral wise they'll choose for themselves eventually anyway.

My son had a kitchen, a dyson Hoover and and ironing board as toys, he also had cars and train tracks. I chose toys to buy from him what he used to play with at toddler group.

I don't think it's fair to push the opposite gender toys clothes ect on them just to go with wanting of a gender neutral parenting theory. Let them play with what they want to play with!!

Also pink has been a huge colour for older baby boys and kids recently!!

Im not going to push opposite gender toys/ec just for the sake of a theory, I want my LO to have a wider choice of what to play with outside of toys focusing just to girls.

**OmarsMum** · Jan 18th, 2012, 13:21 PM

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I dress Omar in pink, blue, red, orange, etc. Since he was a baby. Hs fav colour is pink. He has a dolly with a pram (both are pink), cleaning set & a vacuum, he has a kitchen & his trampoline is pink. He also has a car garage & other gender neutral toys.

He plays with my makeup & he loves to play with my clothes, shoes & bags.

Does your DH mind? No offense intended or judgement. Just trying to see what his perspective is

He's fine with it. DH wears pink & red. When Omar was a baby we used to get him some outfits from the girls section if they looked nuetral. Now he's older, we have to stick to boyish clothes but we still dress him in bright colours.

As for toys, DH made fun of me at 1st, & he thought I was buying those toys for myself to play with

when he saw that Omar likes those toys, he started to buy "girly" toys for Omar

he also sits with Omar & play with the tea set & kitchen.

Blah11 · Jan 18th, 2012, 13:37 PM

amelie is extremely girly. she loves pink, princesses, sequins, glitter, dolls etc but thats just how she is. she does have sme cars too i guess lol and i do buy her clothes in all colours. if roman wants to play with her dolls and prams thats fine with me. aslong as theyre happy, im happy!

womblemum · Jan 18th, 2012, 18:48 PM

I guess a lot of this boils down to identity issues for children as they grow up. I think children should be able to play with whatever toys they want to and wear a full rainbow of colours etc but should still know that they are a boy or a girl.

It is the associations or meanings of being a boy or a girl that society puts forward that would be nice to shield them from without them being confused about their biological gender in the process - if that makes sense?

Jan 18th, 2012, 11:21 AM	#41
tina3747 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Leicester uk Posts: 3,581	I think the mums of older children would agree that no matter how you would choose to bring your children up gender neutral wise they'll choose for themselves eventually anyway. My son had a kitchen, a dyson Hoover and and ironing board as toys, he also had cars and train tracks. I chose toys to buy from him what he used to play with at toddler group. I don't think it's fair to push the opposite gender toys clothes ect on them just to go with wanting of a gender neutral parenting theory. Let them play with what they want to play with!! Also pink has been a huge colour for older baby boys and kids recently!!

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Jan 18th, 2012, 11:28 AM	#42
XJessicaX Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Cambridgshire UK Posts: 9,083	There is going gender neutral and being open to your child doing and wearing what they want, and then there is deliberately choosing things for your child that are typically for the other sex. Cant find a succinct way of writing this, my brain isn't on top form today lol. What I am trying to say is, if I had a boy he can play and wear what he wants...but I wouldn't go out of my way to buy him typically perceived to be feminine things. I think going gender neutral is very fashionable at the moment and a lot of parents aiming to bring up ambiguous gender children.

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Lil_Pixie Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 4,924	Ozzieshunni my dh is exactly the same!! Not that I let him get away with it either. He also does the same thing with toys. If he had a little girl she would be on motorbikes etc but when I tell him out son might not want to do martial arts - he might want to dance he gets all huffy lol.

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Jan 18th, 2012, 11:38 AM	#44
Natsku Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Finland Posts: 13,518	I guess I aim for more gender neutral things with Maria. I like to dress her in bright colours as well and if I see something in the boys section that looks cute I get that for her. All her toys are pretty gender neutral too.

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Jan 18th, 2012, 11:38 AM	#45
Ozzieshunni Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 19,288	lol, I plan to take Alex to Mommy and Baby dance classes.

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jessie_m Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Missouri, USA Posts: 1,163	I guess I'm a little more traditional (is that the term?) Aubrey wears a lot of pink and girly colors and has pink and girly things, but I'm not against being gender neutral at all. I loooove pink! It's my favorite color and while she can't pick out her own clothes now, why not put her in clothes that I like? When she gets older she can do as she pleases.

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Blah11 Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 38,236	amelie is extremely girly. she loves pink, princesses, sequins, glitter, dolls etc but thats just how she is. she does have sme cars too i guess lol and i do buy her clothes in all colours. if roman wants to play with her dolls and prams thats fine with me. aslong as theyre happy, im happy!

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Jan 18th, 2012, 18:48 PM	#50
womblemum Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 117	I guess a lot of this boils down to identity issues for children as they grow up. I think children should be able to play with whatever toys they want to and wear a full rainbow of colours etc but should still know that they are a boy or a girl. It is the associations or meanings of being a boy or a girl that society puts forward that would be nice to shield them from without them being confused about their biological gender in the process - if that makes sense?

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