I've got 2 although admitedly a bigger age gap my biggest thing is getting out the house on time for anything is a mission which when you have a school age child & a newborn is a recipe for disaster we were never late before I had him now its rare we on time no matter how early we get up
also I still struggle to find time for just me & her (which it was for so long) cos he is pretty demanding at mo so I really miss that
Just that it can be a bit like spinning plates at times, when one cries or wants attention and then the other starts to cry who do you pick up and cuddle first when you are alone, it can be a struggle at stores when you are trying to load shopping and keep a toddler under control (having tantrums) and a newborn who suddenly wants a feed or needs a diaper changed/very bad colic in our case, its all a bit challenging - all i would say is have a very good support network, family and friends, and a very understanding and helpful partner
Its been quite hard for me to be honest. Number 2 was a surprise as I was ebf and on the pill so I think it was such a shock and might have been a little easier if we had planned it. I feel that I have been thrown completely in at the deep end and it's tough going. I also have a supportive partner and my mum has been amazing, she is here most nights to help get my 17 month old to bed as my LO is feeding pretty much non stop so it would be almost impossible to manage.
The hardest part for me is that I had a great routine set and I am struggling with the change. My eldest is amazing but she is 17 months so into everything, climbing, throwing tantrums, wanting me 100% of the time. Thankfully she has always sleps really well so she goes to bed at 6.30pm and thats her through till 8ish. My son is quite hard work. I dont think he has colic but he does cry more than my daughter ever did and I just dint expect the differences.
The first 8 weeks were hard as my son had reflux and would scream non stop if he was put down, so i had him pretty much attached to me in a along all day long, but once we got his reflux under control it was a lot easier! We had a 16 month age gap which I think worked really well as my daughter was quite chilled out and hadn't hit the terrible twos at that stage, now she is two she is far more demanding and it can be hard at times but George is that bit less dependent on me now that he is getting on for a year old so it is easier to juggle. I really enjoy watching them interact and start to play together now as well
My 2 are just a few weeks under 2 years apart and I found it easier than I expected - but only because my son was VERY colicky and a difficult high-needs baby. I was making mental preparation in my head in case #2 was similar. Luckily she is much more easygoing and as long as she is being held doesn't cry too much.
For me the lifesaver has been having a carrier. My LO has spend most of her 4 months in one and now that she is on my back it makes it much easier to deal with my toddler. He took about 3 months to get used to her being around. He still doesn't like her having her own toys, but he is getting more protective and less frustrated. And I know things will get easier as time goes on! xx
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