Male worker at nursery has freaked me out?!?! - Page 4

chysantheMUM · Feb 3rd, 2012, 06:48 AM

I think its a bit harsh that people are calling you unreasonable. Your a mother and its a mothers job to worry. However, it is true that anyone regardless of gender could be a danger to your child. I personally won't be taking my child to nursery because I don't trust any strangers with my child male or female, but thankfully the abusers are actually a minority and its much more likely that he is a perfectly innocent guy who just loves working with kids.

Ozzieshunni · Feb 3rd, 2012, 06:49 AM

I don't think it has anything to do with your personal preference! It's shocking to me that people are opposed to men entering fields where women have traditionally been in.

How would you feel if someone told you you couldn't be a doctor because you were a woman? Or a lawyer? Or they were uncomfortable with you being a lawyer?

Lina · Feb 3rd, 2012, 06:52 AM

But these prejudices in the field still exist whether I like them or not. But because you are happy with such setting does that mean we all should be?

Ozzieshunni · Feb 3rd, 2012, 06:53 AM

I feel that because people perpetuate such stereotypes, nothing will ever change or get better in the teaching field.

My_First · Feb 3rd, 2012, 06:54 AM

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Originally Posted by Ozzieshunni

I don't think it has anything to do with your personal preference! It's shocking to me that people are opposed to men entering fields where women have traditionally been in.

How would you feel if someone told you you couldn't be a doctor because you were a woman? Or a lawyer? Or they were uncomfortable with you being a lawyer?

I agree with this wholeheartedly. It saddens me that my fellow 'sisters' are not happy about a man taking on a typically female role. I feel really quite strong about it as it puts women back a 100 years. Whether man or woman changing my sons nappy at nursery I really couldnt care less, just as I dont mind male DRs, nurses and midwives.

Belle25 · Feb 3rd, 2012, 06:54 AM

I can see a heated debate arising

Starmie · Feb 3rd, 2012, 06:57 AM

Being a man shouldn't make anyone worry but maybe sadly it does. I wouldn't be bothered personally. Like others have said, there are plenty of male teachers/doctors/nurses, etc. At the end of the day any gender can do wrong to children. It's just sad that people are more hasty to judge men in these type of jobs rather than women.

Ozzieshunni · Feb 3rd, 2012, 06:57 AM

I can't believe how the media has caused us to think that all men that work with children are pedophiles. I think people need to educate themselves on some of the statistics surrounding child sexual abuse. I'll be back with some.

6lilpigs · Feb 3rd, 2012, 06:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Ozzieshunni

How would you feel if someone told you you couldn't be a doctor because you were a woman? Or a lawyer? Or they were uncomfortable with you being a lawyer?

A lawyer wouldn't come into contact with my child's genitals at all, and I would be with any Dr who did. I think its just in some circumstances some of us would still be happier if we knew it was a lady doing it. To me its like if an old man kissed my daughter on the cheek, doesn't mean he's a peado, but its still something I would have slight anxiety about.

Ozzieshunni · Feb 3rd, 2012, 06:59 AM

http://meganslaw.ca.gov/facts.htm

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Most men who commit sexual offenses do not know their victim.

False. 90% of child victims know their offender, with almost half of the offenders being a family member. Of sexual assaults against people age 12 and up, approximately 80% of the victims know the offender.

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chysantheMUM Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: yorkshire Posts: 968	I think its a bit harsh that people are calling you unreasonable. Your a mother and its a mothers job to worry. However, it is true that anyone regardless of gender could be a danger to your child. I personally won't be taking my child to nursery because I don't trust any strangers with my child male or female, but thankfully the abusers are actually a minority and its much more likely that he is a perfectly innocent guy who just loves working with kids.

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Ozzieshunni Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 19,286	I don't think it has anything to do with your personal preference! It's shocking to me that people are opposed to men entering fields where women have traditionally been in. How would you feel if someone told you you couldn't be a doctor because you were a woman? Or a lawyer? Or they were uncomfortable with you being a lawyer?

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Lina Other Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: London Posts: 1,429	But these prejudices in the field still exist whether I like them or not. But because you are happy with such setting does that mean we all should be?

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Ozzieshunni Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 19,286	I feel that because people perpetuate such stereotypes, nothing will ever change or get better in the teaching field.

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Starmie Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2010 Location: Gloucestershire, UK. Posts: 272	Being a man shouldn't make anyone worry but maybe sadly it does. I wouldn't be bothered personally. Like others have said, there are plenty of male teachers/doctors/nurses, etc. At the end of the day any gender can do wrong to children. It's just sad that people are more hasty to judge men in these type of jobs rather than women.

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