Being made to feel bad for wanting what my heart wants. :(
Hi ladies......Just as the title says, I am being made to feel bad for my desire to have more children. I already have a boy, 3 girls and then my new little baby boy born 2 weeks ago who I love to bits and enjoy spending loads of time with all of them. But when people ask if we are going to have anymore I say I would if hubby wanted too and these people look at me in disgust and start saying "honestly, Don't you think you have enough" All my children are well looked after, Have everything they need and want pretty much and get plenty of 1 on 1 time with both me and their dad. So what is so wrong with wanting more children? I have always desired to have a large family.
I come from a huge family (9 kids!) and loved having so many siblings. I could never judge somebody for wanting a large family ... I usually find myself encouraging them
What I don't understand is why people even ask if you're thinking about having more if they're just going to get disgusted with you if you're honest with them. If they're going to be rude about it, the least they can do is just keep the question to themselves and move on!
I say, have more if you and hubby can emotionally, physically, and financially (to a degree) support them.
The financial bit means if you or hubby are working. I don't like people that have kids just to stay on benefits, but I'm totally sure that's not you My DH works and claims CTC/WTC, but that's different imo.
If you and your partner can support the kids financially by yourselves and are able to give them the time, love and support they need I dont see how its is anyone elses business.
I have had people ask if we will have more, i have three, a 2 year old and 3 month old twins, and in the beginning (before I realise how hard twins and a two year old are) yes, and people would make comments, and I just said, I dont see how its anoyones elses business, we receive no benefits so the kids are provided for by us, we they are well cared for and happy, so how is it anyone elses business?
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