MIL's

hellywelly · Feb 25th, 2012, 13:40 PM

Why do the majority of us have problems with MIL's and not our own mums. I am just trying to envisage myself 20/30 years from now - would Harry's wife be on here talking about me lol xx

babyjan · Feb 25th, 2012, 13:49 PM

Looool I can't stand annoying mils .. Mine isn't too bad however she does irritate me with her snide comments and the fact that she invited herself to the labour ward when I asked for her not to be there Oh and the fact she didnt look to bothered about the birth of my son almost like she became jealous I dnoo. My and my mum get along though x

hb1 · Feb 25th, 2012, 15:07 PM

I think it is suddenly having another adult with their own set of ideas and values, which have not being part of your upbringing unlike your own mum , and they have a perceived "stake" or "claim" in part of your life through your child. If it was not for your child they would not bother with YOU, whereas your mum is as interested in your as in your child.

jenniferttc1 · Feb 25th, 2012, 15:09 PM

Since I have a son, I am so afraid i'll be one these mother in laws these ladies talk about!

**AtomicPink** · Feb 25th, 2012, 15:11 PM

Because I didn't grow up with her.
And No-one likes someone who's not your mother tell you what you should do.

And I stole her son and taught him how to cut the cord she still had him on

jenniferttc1 · Feb 25th, 2012, 15:13 PM

I consider myself lucky that my MIL doesnt come around much. Never has. But she's a drinker big time and not in the best place in life, so its best this way until she pulls it together.

clairealfie · Feb 25th, 2012, 15:14 PM

To be honest I love my mother in law to bits but don't get my started on my father in law! ARGH

MrsHedgehog · Feb 25th, 2012, 15:54 PM

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Originally Posted by hb1

I think it is suddenly having another adult with their own set of ideas and values, which have not being part of your upbringing unlike your own mum , and they have a perceived "stake" or "claim" in part of your life through your child. If it was not for your child they would not bother with YOU, whereas your mum is as interested in your as in your child.

WSS

MizzDeeDee · Feb 25th, 2012, 16:01 PM

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Originally Posted by MrsHedgehog

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Originally Posted by hb1

I think it is suddenly having another adult with their own set of ideas and values, which have not being part of your upbringing unlike your own mum , and they have a perceived "stake" or "claim" in part of your life through your child. If it was not for your child they would not bother with YOU, whereas your mum is as interested in your as in your child.

WSS

AGREE..

And as I said on another thread.. I think that there are mismatched expectations. I think MILS will commonly focus on what they want and they don't take into consideration what the mother of child actually wants and that causes a lot of hurt feelings.

moomin_troll · Feb 25th, 2012, 16:04 PM

My mil is a total bitch to me and she treated me oh like dirt. She doesn't bother with my boys so that's why I don't like her. I don't like my own mum sometimes n I tell her straight f off lol

My mums quiet a good mil, she took my oh in when I kicked him out and just the other nit she went out on the town with my sisters bf

Feb 25th, 2012, 13:40 PM	#1
hellywelly Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Essex Posts: 2,076	MIL's Why do the majority of us have problems with MIL's and not our own mums. I am just trying to envisage myself 20/30 years from now - would Harry's wife be on here talking about me lol xx

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Feb 25th, 2012, 13:49 PM	#2
babyjan Other BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 3,202	Looool I can't stand annoying mils .. Mine isn't too bad however she does irritate me with her snide comments and the fact that she invited herself to the labour ward when I asked for her not to be there Oh and the fact she didnt look to bothered about the birth of my son almost like she became jealous I dnoo. My and my mum get along though x

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Feb 25th, 2012, 15:07 PM	#3
hb1 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Cheshire Posts: 4,754	I think it is suddenly having another adult with their own set of ideas and values, which have not being part of your upbringing unlike your own mum , and they have a perceived "stake" or "claim" in part of your life through your child. If it was not for your child they would not bother with YOU, whereas your mum is as interested in your as in your child.

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Feb 25th, 2012, 15:09 PM	#4
jenniferttc1 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: US Posts: 10,838	Since I have a son, I am so afraid i'll be one these mother in laws these ladies talk about!

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AtomicPink Mum (Mom) BabyandBump Team Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 27,370	Because I didn't grow up with her. And No-one likes someone who's not your mother tell you what you should do. And I stole her son and taught him how to cut the cord she still had him on

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jenniferttc1 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: US Posts: 10,838	I consider myself lucky that my MIL doesnt come around much. Never has. But she's a drinker big time and not in the best place in life, so its best this way until she pulls it together.

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clairealfie Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Newcastle upon Tyne Posts: 900	To be honest I love my mother in law to bits but don't get my started on my father in law! ARGH

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moomin_troll Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: staffordshire Posts: 15,872	My mil is a total bitch to me and she treated me oh like dirt. She doesn't bother with my boys so that's why I don't like her. I don't like my own mum sometimes n I tell her straight f off lol My mums quiet a good mil, she took my oh in when I kicked him out and just the other nit she went out on the town with my sisters bf

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