Baby and house work rant!!

Kirstiedenman · Mar 6th, 2012, 06:19 AM

Are any of you ladies struggling to keep your house clean and keep your LO entertained? My husband is working 5 weeks straight with no break at all at the moment and I am just having such a hard time trying to juggle all the housework washing and taking care of my little one! It doesn't make it any easier that my husband makes a mess in the little time he is home which is about 3 hours a day total that he spends awake while at home sometimes less but still managed to mess things and not clean them. My son has been sick on and off since birth so needless to say an atomically bomb looks like it has permanently hit the house. I get it spotless and then it takes 2 minutes to mess again is anyone else dealing with this and is there anything I can do to help my situation I feel so terrible that my baby is living in such a messy house!!

MrsMac5 · Mar 6th, 2012, 06:46 AM

My LO is older now but took me quite a while to get into the swing of things! If I could turn back the clock I'd get us both ready, then hopefully LO would go for a nap or play on her mat and I'd run round the house doing a quick tidy. I think if the house looks tidy I feel better. Then I'd just do one job at a time if I got peace for 5 mins. I find it amazing now how quickly I could clean now compared to before I had a baby!

Kelly81 · Mar 6th, 2012, 07:28 AM

Maybe have a chat with your OH and ask him to at least clean up after himself even if he can't help out with the rest of the house at the moment.

When Poppy was a newborn I used to do the bare minimum, mostly if/when she napped. I'd get the washing on first thing in the morning then put the dishes soaking then come back later to wash and rinse them, leave them to dry then put them away sometime later. I cleaned the floor in our sitting room as we put her down there lots but I didn't really bother too much about the floor in the other rooms until I got more time or OH would do it when he was home. Other things like dusting etc can wait!

Also, I try and prepare our evening meal when she's having her afternoon nap, then there's not too much to do when she's awake and under my feet.

NewMummyx · Mar 6th, 2012, 07:30 AM

get a sling or wrap, sooo much eaiser

Piggywinkle · Mar 6th, 2012, 07:43 AM

It took me around 3 months to get LO into a routine for naps and this has helped no end

She wakes at 7, sleeps from 9-10, 12-1 and 3-4 with bedtime at 7.30. Gives me plenty of time to stay on top of things around the house. How's your LO with naptimes?

suzib76 · Mar 6th, 2012, 07:52 AM

stop stressing about it, seriously you dont live in a showhome and you dont need to be putting pressure on yourself to keep it looking like you do all the time

if some things are not done, they are not done

enjoy time with lo while he is still small x

Dani_87 · Mar 6th, 2012, 08:16 AM

I'm right there with you! I would go with what newmummy had said about getting a sling or wrap. My OH owns his own business and has been working a TON basically since LO was born (tis the season for automotive performance. :/). Along with his shop, he also started a 2nd business with 2 other people. So basically he leaves the house by 7:30 or 8am, doesn't come home till about 8pm or later, I cook him dinner, he eats, then passes out on the couch. I got pissed at him because he barely even gives our LO any attention...it's honestly been making me depressed. If LO starts to fuss, OH ignores him, or says 'I know, mama doesn't want to feed you right now, she would rather cook dinner' and continues on the computer or watching TV (when in reality, LO just wants attention). But anyways, I either will put Kaleb in a sling, or I'll put him in his swing for a little bit. Sometimes he'll fall asleep so I can get a lot done, sometimes he will be awake and not tolerate the swing for more than 10-20 min. No matter what, I try and use the time wisely. lol

Mummy2B21 · Mar 6th, 2012, 08:32 AM

Are you in a position to get a cleaner? It's about £20pw here x

george83 · Mar 6th, 2012, 09:22 AM

my house was a mess for about the first 3 months too, my baby is now 7 months old and some times when he's been bad at night my house gets in to a right mess again. I hate it i'm such a neat freak but some times i just have to give up and then spend a whole weekend doing a mad blitz on it - which i secretly love!

Audraia · Mar 6th, 2012, 10:29 AM

I've become a master at cleaning with one hand haha. My little won't sleep but in my arms so I've been walking around and doing what I can one handed. I can't fold the laundry or do dishes, but I can clean the kitchen and start the laundry, vacuum etc. So I've managed to keep things fairly clean!

Mar 6th, 2012, 06:19 AM	#1
Kirstiedenman Trying to conceive (TTC) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Australia Posts: 1,519	Baby and house work rant!! Are any of you ladies struggling to keep your house clean and keep your LO entertained? My husband is working 5 weeks straight with no break at all at the moment and I am just having such a hard time trying to juggle all the housework washing and taking care of my little one! It doesn't make it any easier that my husband makes a mess in the little time he is home which is about 3 hours a day total that he spends awake while at home sometimes less but still managed to mess things and not clean them. My son has been sick on and off since birth so needless to say an atomically bomb looks like it has permanently hit the house. I get it spotless and then it takes 2 minutes to mess again is anyone else dealing with this and is there anything I can do to help my situation I feel so terrible that my baby is living in such a messy house!!

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Mar 6th, 2012, 06:46 AM	#2
MrsMac5 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: UK Posts: 161	My LO is older now but took me quite a while to get into the swing of things! If I could turn back the clock I'd get us both ready, then hopefully LO would go for a nap or play on her mat and I'd run round the house doing a quick tidy. I think if the house looks tidy I feel better. Then I'd just do one job at a time if I got peace for 5 mins. I find it amazing now how quickly I could clean now compared to before I had a baby!

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Mar 6th, 2012, 07:28 AM	#3
Kelly81 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: London / Herts, UK Posts: 912	Maybe have a chat with your OH and ask him to at least clean up after himself even if he can't help out with the rest of the house at the moment. When Poppy was a newborn I used to do the bare minimum, mostly if/when she napped. I'd get the washing on first thing in the morning then put the dishes soaking then come back later to wash and rinse them, leave them to dry then put them away sometime later. I cleaned the floor in our sitting room as we put her down there lots but I didn't really bother too much about the floor in the other rooms until I got more time or OH would do it when he was home. Other things like dusting etc can wait! Also, I try and prepare our evening meal when she's having her afternoon nap, then there's not too much to do when she's awake and under my feet.

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Mar 6th, 2012, 07:30 AM	#4
NewMummyx Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Glasgow x Posts: 2,677	get a sling or wrap, sooo much eaiser

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Mar 6th, 2012, 07:43 AM	#5
Piggywinkle Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: UK Posts: 772	It took me around 3 months to get LO into a routine for naps and this has helped no end She wakes at 7, sleeps from 9-10, 12-1 and 3-4 with bedtime at 7.30. Gives me plenty of time to stay on top of things around the house. How's your LO with naptimes?

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Mar 6th, 2012, 07:52 AM	#6
suzib76 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: x scotland x Posts: 6,701	stop stressing about it, seriously you dont live in a showhome and you dont need to be putting pressure on yourself to keep it looking like you do all the time if some things are not done, they are not done enjoy time with lo while he is still small x

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Mar 6th, 2012, 08:16 AM	#7
Dani_87 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Florida Posts: 563	I'm right there with you! I would go with what newmummy had said about getting a sling or wrap. My OH owns his own business and has been working a TON basically since LO was born (tis the season for automotive performance. :/). Along with his shop, he also started a 2nd business with 2 other people. So basically he leaves the house by 7:30 or 8am, doesn't come home till about 8pm or later, I cook him dinner, he eats, then passes out on the couch. I got pissed at him because he barely even gives our LO any attention...it's honestly been making me depressed. If LO starts to fuss, OH ignores him, or says 'I know, mama doesn't want to feed you right now, she would rather cook dinner' and continues on the computer or watching TV (when in reality, LO just wants attention). But anyways, I either will put Kaleb in a sling, or I'll put him in his swing for a little bit. Sometimes he'll fall asleep so I can get a lot done, sometimes he will be awake and not tolerate the swing for more than 10-20 min. No matter what, I try and use the time wisely. lol

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Mar 6th, 2012, 08:32 AM	#8
Mummy2B21 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Essex, UK Posts: 10,030	Are you in a position to get a cleaner? It's about £20pw here x

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Mar 6th, 2012, 09:22 AM	#9
george83 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Posts: 1,266	my house was a mess for about the first 3 months too, my baby is now 7 months old and some times when he's been bad at night my house gets in to a right mess again. I hate it i'm such a neat freak but some times i just have to give up and then spend a whole weekend doing a mad blitz on it - which i secretly love!

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Mar 6th, 2012, 10:29 AM	#10
Audraia Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Clarksburg, WV Posts: 1,157	I've become a master at cleaning with one hand haha. My little won't sleep but in my arms so I've been walking around and doing what I can one handed. I can't fold the laundry or do dishes, but I can clean the kitchen and start the laundry, vacuum etc. So I've managed to keep things fairly clean!

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