I see my mum once or twice a week. My dad I see about once a month. Both are about the same as before we had kids. OH's parents visit us every Sunday and usually take Harvey to watch the planes at the airport or to see the boats on the river or something like that. I see them a lot more than I did before having Harvey but that's mainly due to different shifts at work. It's easier to find the time now.
Mines a cheat...I live with my mam and dad with my older sister coming over on a weekend as my parents have my niece but we go to OH's at the weekend so my sister hasn't seen her much - though I don't feel guilty as she's on mat leave and we live 5/10mins away and both drive so she could easily come down and see her or arrange to do something with me (I'm lucky if I get a reply to any texts I send on the day I send them!)
Every (most) weekends we spend at my OH's parents house and both his brothers/sil's have made the effort to come down and see us. One of his brothers who lives 20miles away even made the effort though they've just had an offer accepted on a house 2 doors away from MIL's so hopefully we will see them more often!
I love all my in laws and think it's important that we balance our time with both families. OH is super close to his family and I'd hate for him not to maintain that cause of our relationship as I am super close to my own family
ETA: My OH lives 45miles away from me and so is around an hours journey each side which I do on my own and meet my OH there from work (his work is 18miles away from mine so wouldn't be plausible for him to travel back and help me) so I have to get me and little one ready, pack for the weekend and pack the car up on my own and then drive up on our own often stopping at Tesco en route to get food for the weekend! lol
I probably see my mum daily.as she is helping.me with having.the 2 and oh being at work. Mil pops down a few times a week, I don't go to my mums house but we sometimes go to in laws for Sunday dinner. I ho and see my wee nana every week.
Have you increased/decreased the amount of times since LO born or roughly visit the same?
I visit my mom once a fortnight which is roughly the same and spend a few hours there. I rarely visited mil as she bores me n repeats same stories over and over and well prefers her other DIL until now...my oh visited her weekly but now fortnightly due to him studying to be an accountant.
She makes digs that we only visit once a fortnight and spend a few hours there! Yday we were there 3.5hrs on top of a return journey of 1.5hrd...so a 5hr event!
I think going once a fortnight is enough. Especially as before my LO was born she couldn't give two hoots about me.
Neither of our parents drive too - so it is who have to visit!
I think 3.5 hours is enough given that you have a 45 min drive either side of that TBH. I try to see my folks every week, she does Sunday dinner so it's a good time to catch up with my sis and family and for LO to build a relationship with his cousins last night it was good fun watching LO and his cousin playing with a crawl tunnel. We try to see the IL's once a week too but if we had 45 mins each way travel we just couldn't do it.
Well FIL & partner live a 2 minute walk away, and my parents & MIL and her partner approx a 20 min walk away my real mum I have seen twice since lo has been born. I see my parents once a week but sometimes not out of choice! IL we see them I would say once a fortnight. MIL sometimes drops hubby off from work and she will pop in for 5 mins a couple of times every couple of weeks. As we have 4 lots of parents I told them we would see them every 10-14 days as it can just get too much and when hubby finishes work and comes home he just wants to chill in the week etc. It drives me mad all this parents & IL business!! Lol
We don't visit any more than we used to, we've always gone to my moms for Sunday lunch & spend the afternoon there. OH always went to his moms on a Sat lunch to have a cuppa with her & now he takes LO with him to let me have some 'me' time (which usually means catching up with housework I haven't had a chance to do in the week!)
I go to my dads max once a fortnight & quite frankly don't know why I bother, he decided this weekend he was tired & went up to bed 30 mins after we arrived!!
I'm seeing my mom more at the mo, but thats just cos I'm on mat leave & if I'm going shopping somewhere or taking LO to softplay she sometimes comes with us.
In laws we visit like once a month or so...(MIL and Step-FIL). Real FIL lives a few states a way so.... a few times a year? Thank god.
My parents... we don't go visit them very often, but they come to see us instead. I see my mom a couple maybe 3 times a month, my dad is once or twice a month.
I see my mam a few times a week & inlaws onceish.
my nan who never bothered with me suddenly wants to meet for lunch once a week but I've been digging my heels in & not meeting as it feels totally fake. I'm not in any way close to her so feel weird meeting & having her paw over my baby.
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