Hey ladies,

I'm just trying to figure out if it's just me or do a lot of babies do this. I can't seem to make my little girl happy at all. When she's not sleeping or eating she's screaming and unhappy. She's fed, changed, and all her needs or met but nothing stops her from crying, and it's ALL the time. I don't think it's colic cause it's not constant and it's not for 3 hours like they say it needs to be. I try rocking her, playing with her, singing to her, walking around with her(which calms her a lot of the times) but NOTHING I do makes her happy. I've bought books and tried every baby game that's in there and she hates them. I try setting her down cause she might be overstimulated and she screams since she only wants to be in my arms.

It makes me feel like an aweful mom, and it's starting to really grate on my nerves, I can't eat cause I can't set her down long enough to make something. I can't even use the bathroom. I don't want to set her down and let her cry it out cause I think that's cruel, at least if she's crying in my arms she knows I'm right there for her. But I'm getting like 2 hours of sleep as my husband is working right now so I wake up with her. Even during the weekends he won't take her for longer than a few minutes. We tried to go grocery shopping together last weekend and I had to wind up leaving the store with my girl cause she was just screaming so much.

Please tell me I'm not the only one, and what have you done to make your little ones happy? I'm out of ideas, cause nothing is working!

She is still so very young, but is she tired?? My baby girl gets very cranky after being awake for any longer than just over an hour (she's 14 weeks old) and sometimes if I try to get her to sleep she screams and fights it so much because she gets overtired, I swaddle her wen she is like this, lay her down and try distract her with her mobile or some music, put her dummy in and 9 times out of 10 she falls asleep

It could b colic too, Or belly ache??x x

You have to be patient with her. shes still so tiny and getting used to all the sounds around her. plenty of cuddles and love and shel soon settle.

You can actually baby wear even though she is so young. Then you will have both hands free.

Hey,

Some little babies are just angry at the world and very difficult to deal with. In hindsight, my son had multiple reasons for being this way (gastro distress, acid reflux disease, overtiredness, inability to tune out stimulation).

All I could do was try whatever I could (I cannot recommend harvey karp's happiest baby on the block enough, it's 4th trimester theory), and WAIT. Right now he is the most amazing little boy (2) but holy cow, I don't know how I survived.

It's not your fault, just remember that. But check out karp's book. It sounds like your baby is a sensitive one and 4th trimester theory can help.

Sometimes I know it's cause she's tired and I can get her calm usually by holding her close to me and talking to her really low. But most of the time it's right after she wakes up and instantly she's just cranky. And it's not really cry crying, she'll cry for a second, stop for a second, cry and stop cry and stop so it's not constant that's why I don't think it's colic. As for a tummy ache I'm not sure, I burp her often and she's not pulling her legs in like her tummy hurts she's usually really stretched out.

I know she's still young but I just worry about her not being happy. I feel like something I do with her should quiet her and interest her.

As for swaddling, she hates that, she loves to stretch out when she sleeps. And she won't take a dummy at all lol. She's a stubborn child!

Tried that too and she hated to be in the carrier. Like I said, she's just so unhappy!

Have you tried holding her upright for 45 minutes after each feeding?

If you have done that (and since you have tried everything it seems), I would really make an appointment with her pediatrician to see if something else is going on with her.

I feel bad, because you seem very overwhelmed. Do you have anyone else in your family that you trust who could watch your baby while you nap, etc.? It sounds to me like you're overwhelmed and need much more support.

Nope unfortunatly I don't live near family, and I don't trust my husbands family as they're all druggies/depressed. I'll try holding her upright after feeding and see how that works. I have an appointment with her doc Monday, and I"m going to try some gentle formula for fusiness and hopefully that helps her. Although she just started this so not sure if it'll help or not. I feel bad for her cause she seems so miserable!

I know several girls on here tried cranial osteopathy on their unhappy babies with great results. Birth is a very traumatic experience for mum and baby and just like mum needs help and time to recover so does baby.