Please don't let her take your LO to stay. You are clearly not happy with the idea. Tell your husband that you don't care if HE thinks you're overreacting. This is how you feel and those feelings are completely normal. Ask any woman on here and they'd say the exact same thing. We would all feel just like you!!!
We we're supposed to be going down his way to meet up with his friends and go for dinner, but since she's been nagging him he doesn't wanna go and his excuse is 'we don't have the money' all of a sudden thats the case. Now the plans changed and we're going to his mothers house for the day, which I'm dreading all her friends and her smothering my baby whilst I sit there like an idiot.
seriously the reason your feeling like this is because your instincts are screaming out to you that your baby needs to be close to you and you need to be close to your baby.
your not being a pshyco your feeling exactly like you should do. please do not let her take over or bully you into letting her have her over night it will just stress you out. you should be bonding and enjoying lo not worrying about how everyone else feels.
you only get this bonding time once its hugely important for you and lo DO NOT LET ANYONE RUIN IT FOR YOU. you will just regret that you didnt stand up for yourself if you dont nip this in the bud now xx
im not good at wording things without sounding rude so hopefully someone else could give you advise on what to say to oh and mil that will come across not in a rude way but in a you mean buisness way xx good luck
Personally I'd just politely thank her for the offer and if a situation comes up where you may need it you'll let her know as and when. That way you aren't telling her maybe when she's x months old, because I'm willing to bet if you did that she'd count down the days and remind you of what you said. My mum is the only person I trust with my son (other than my husband of course) but even she hasn't had him overnight - why would she need to unless we were going away for a weekend or something? Absolutely pointless.
As for the birth video, that HORRIFIES me. That is beyond inappropriate and a major line has been crossed. I would politely say 'i didn't want it to be videoed so please delete it.' if she gets funny about it you'll have to get more heavy-handed but I'd start slow for now.
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