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Mrs_Random · Mar 17th, 2012, 16:15 PM

My OH helps out more now LO is bottle fed.

I EBF until he was 6 months and then started moving him to formula so OH could start to do more.

He has always been good at changing nappys and entertaining LO but I do the most of the child care and house work as I am home all day and he supports us.

When I go back to work in May I am going to expect it to be more 50/50 with everything as I will also be working and have less time at home.

pinklightbulb · Mar 17th, 2012, 17:44 PM

I did 99% of things so I voted I did it all.

Rose_red · Mar 17th, 2012, 17:59 PM

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I pretty much do everything and as I've ended things with him today, I'll be doing everything anyway so won't miss his "help". It'll be a relief to have two children again and not three.

I can really relate to that bitterness/resentment. Feel like I have two babies sometimes.

Mummy2B21 · Mar 17th, 2012, 18:10 PM

When my OH comes home from work it is pretty much 50/50 maybe 60/40 me being 60 but I'm fine with it he does a very physically demanding job so I dont like to put pressure on him and i love being a sahm.
When he comes home he will take lo for a bit and play with him he will run a bath whilst i do dinner I bath LO and OH gets him dressed and gives him his last bottle and puts him to sleep. We both then chill out, and one of us will wash and make baby bottles, sometimes OH will see to baby in night as im a heavy sleeper other times i will x

Blah11 · Mar 17th, 2012, 18:18 PM

Ours is about 95/5 lol. He gets up on a Sunday morning with them for 3 hours, takes amelie to nursery and watches roman for 30 mins whilst I get amelie to bed. Apart from the odd time where he plays with them, I do it all. He doesn't do any of the unfun childcare, just the playing.

Rose_red · Mar 17th, 2012, 18:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Blah11

Ours is about 95/5 lol.

same lol, OH is so lazy then wonders why im having a breakdown

Blah11 · Mar 17th, 2012, 18:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Blah11

Ours is about 95/5 lol.

same lol, OH is so lazy then wonders why im having a breakdown

raychmumtobe · Mar 17th, 2012, 20:03 PM

Ive put 50/50, because when hes not working, it is 50/50.
i dont see how hes expectd to do 50% when hes also working inpractical hours, or even practical hours at that.

The way i see it, when im home, i do 100%, when hes home too, we both do 50%, when i wanna go out and leave him at home with bubs, he does 100%...
I wouldnt exactly be happy if he called me up and told me to come home and do my half of the work...

addie140910 · Mar 18th, 2012, 04:41 AM

Not sure how it could be, with the acception of the weekends. my husband goes to work at 0545 in the morning and most days is not home (lately) until after 7pm! : /

Rose_red · Mar 18th, 2012, 04:56 AM

just in the time he isnt at work i mean, weekends/evenings/night feeds i mean x

View Poll Results: How much does your OH help with baby?
You do it all	19	10.98%
OH helps out abit	97	56.07%
50/50	29	16.76%
OH helps out alot	27	15.61%
OH does most/all	1	0.58%
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Mar 17th, 2012, 16:15 PM	#41
Mrs_Random Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Leeds, UK. Posts: 958	My OH helps out more now LO is bottle fed. I EBF until he was 6 months and then started moving him to formula so OH could start to do more. He has always been good at changing nappys and entertaining LO but I do the most of the child care and house work as I am home all day and he supports us. When I go back to work in May I am going to expect it to be more 50/50 with everything as I will also be working and have less time at home.

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Mar 17th, 2012, 17:44 PM	#42
pinklightbulb Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Australia Posts: 6,260	I did 99% of things so I voted I did it all.

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Mar 17th, 2012, 18:10 PM	#44
Mummy2B21 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Essex, UK Posts: 10,028	When my OH comes home from work it is pretty much 50/50 maybe 60/40 me being 60 but I'm fine with it he does a very physically demanding job so I dont like to put pressure on him and i love being a sahm. When he comes home he will take lo for a bit and play with him he will run a bath whilst i do dinner I bath LO and OH gets him dressed and gives him his last bottle and puts him to sleep. We both then chill out, and one of us will wash and make baby bottles, sometimes OH will see to baby in night as im a heavy sleeper other times i will x

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Mar 17th, 2012, 18:18 PM	#45
Blah11 Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 38,156	Ours is about 95/5 lol. He gets up on a Sunday morning with them for 3 hours, takes amelie to nursery and watches roman for 30 mins whilst I get amelie to bed. Apart from the odd time where he plays with them, I do it all. He doesn't do any of the unfun childcare, just the playing.

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Mar 17th, 2012, 20:03 PM	#48
raychmumtobe Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: wigan, UK Posts: 1,039	Ive put 50/50, because when hes not working, it is 50/50. i dont see how hes expectd to do 50% when hes also working inpractical hours, or even practical hours at that. The way i see it, when im home, i do 100%, when hes home too, we both do 50%, when i wanna go out and leave him at home with bubs, he does 100%... I wouldnt exactly be happy if he called me up and told me to come home and do my half of the work...

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Mar 18th, 2012, 04:41 AM	#49
addie140910 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Dongducheon , South Korea (US Army Wife) Posts: 2,035	Not sure how it could be, with the acception of the weekends. my husband goes to work at 0545 in the morning and most days is not home (lately) until after 7pm! : /

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Mar 18th, 2012, 04:56 AM	#50
Rose_red Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Cumbria, UK Posts: 593	just in the time he isnt at work i mean, weekends/evenings/night feeds i mean x

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