50/50? - Page 6

Kyliem87 · Mar 18th, 2012, 05:26 AM

I said 50/50 - it might not be but he does as much as he can! I have LO all day and do all night feeds as he works full time Mon-Fri but he comes in from work and will do feeds, nappy changes, baths etc and on a weekend will do the majority of nappies, half her feeds and will bath her so he does as much as he can when he is home but also works hard for us as well. He did his first night feeds last night and the first thing he said to me this morning was "I couldn't do your job!"

Maybe he appreciates me more now!

Rose_red · Mar 18th, 2012, 06:31 AM

whereas mine completely takes me for granted, I haven't had anything for mothers day and hes still in bed.....

aliss · Mar 18th, 2012, 06:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Rose_red

whereas mine completely takes me for granted, I haven't had anything for mothers day and hes still in bed.....

Go wake him up and ask for help...

People will walk all over you if you let them. Say no more!

Kyliem87 · Mar 18th, 2012, 06:48 AM

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Originally Posted by Rose_red

whereas mine completely takes me for granted, I haven't had anything for mothers day and hes still in bed.....

I've got a post at the moment titled "OH got a shock last night!" - basically he did his first set of night feeds and came to bed at 4am and said he was "done, and he's sleep deprived!" I basically had to ask him to do the night feeds cause I'm exhausted and couldn't do it again just needed one nights break! LO has had jaundice and thrush and now has colic, silent reflux and doesn't wind very easily so I'm up all night. He now appreciates how tired I am! I got a card off him but we don't have much money so I told him not to get me a present but he's gone home (we live with our parents) and so I'm spending mothers day just me and LO and will be up all night again...men!

Rose_red · Mar 18th, 2012, 07:03 AM

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Originally Posted by aliss

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Originally Posted by Rose_red

whereas mine completely takes me for granted, I haven't had anything for mothers day and hes still in bed.....

Go wake him up and ask for help...

People will walk all over you if you let them. Say no more!

easier said than done, asked time n time again but nothing changes

PAgal · Mar 18th, 2012, 08:16 AM

OH has become an awesome daddy....I just can't get to help me out around the house much. I am nonstop 24/7 while he watches tv 2 hrs. a night after lo goes to bed.

CharlieKeys · Mar 18th, 2012, 08:26 AM

I said he does a lot. He works a lot as he has no choice but he has two days off and then usually either finishes at 5pm or goes to work at 5pm. Sundays are hardest as he's in work ALL DAY and usually Mondays is an AFD too!

But when he finishes at 5 -he'll run their bath for me and bath them whilst I get bottles, pjs and nappies ready and whilst I put Henry too bed he'll sit in and watch Mr Moon with Stephen and then read him a story. And then during the day he'll play and he'll always come to watch them in their swimming lessons and usually his hours are good enough for us to have one on one time with them, so I can take Henry to baby rhyme time whilst he stays with Stephen and vice versa.

He does sometimes need a kick up the backside but he's pretty good!

booda · Mar 18th, 2012, 08:30 AM

I'll get my ass kicked for this:

Personally I think the mum should really be doing the nightfeeds, if dads working and shes on maternity leave.
Nature intended mum to do the feeding and dad to go out hunting and gathering. Not the other way around! But yeah dad should do other stuff though when he's home definitely!

Rose_red · Mar 18th, 2012, 08:32 AM

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Originally Posted by booda

I'll get my ass kicked for this:

Personally I think the mum should really be doing the nightfeeds, if dads working and shes on maternity leave.
Nature intended mum to do the feeding and dad to go out hunting and gathering. Not the other way around! But yeah dad should do other stuff though when he's home definitely!

even at weekends?

gidge · Mar 18th, 2012, 08:33 AM

My OH works full time so can´t be 50/50 and I don´t expect it to be to be honest. As with the night feeds, I breast feed and don´t see why he should get up aswell to help settle or change a nappie, I just get on with it and I´m fine with it.

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Mar 18th, 2012, 05:26 AM	#51
Kyliem87 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: England - NE Posts: 2,237	I said 50/50 - it might not be but he does as much as he can! I have LO all day and do all night feeds as he works full time Mon-Fri but he comes in from work and will do feeds, nappy changes, baths etc and on a weekend will do the majority of nappies, half her feeds and will bath her so he does as much as he can when he is home but also works hard for us as well. He did his first night feeds last night and the first thing he said to me this morning was "I couldn't do your job!" Maybe he appreciates me more now!

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Mar 18th, 2012, 06:31 AM	#52
Rose_red Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Cumbria, UK Posts: 593	whereas mine completely takes me for granted, I haven't had anything for mothers day and hes still in bed.....

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PAgal Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: Pittsburgh USA Posts: 1,822	OH has become an awesome daddy....I just can't get to help me out around the house much. I am nonstop 24/7 while he watches tv 2 hrs. a night after lo goes to bed.

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Mar 18th, 2012, 08:26 AM	#57
CharlieKeys Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Essex Posts: 5,249	I said he does a lot. He works a lot as he has no choice but he has two days off and then usually either finishes at 5pm or goes to work at 5pm. Sundays are hardest as he's in work ALL DAY and usually Mondays is an AFD too! But when he finishes at 5 -he'll run their bath for me and bath them whilst I get bottles, pjs and nappies ready and whilst I put Henry too bed he'll sit in and watch Mr Moon with Stephen and then read him a story. And then during the day he'll play and he'll always come to watch them in their swimming lessons and usually his hours are good enough for us to have one on one time with them, so I can take Henry to baby rhyme time whilst he stays with Stephen and vice versa. He does sometimes need a kick up the backside but he's pretty good!

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Mar 18th, 2012, 08:30 AM	#58
booda Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Not here. Posts: 1,444	I'll get my ass kicked for this: Personally I think the mum should really be doing the nightfeeds, if dads working and shes on maternity leave. Nature intended mum to do the feeding and dad to go out hunting and gathering. Not the other way around! But yeah dad should do other stuff though when he's home definitely!

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Mar 18th, 2012, 08:33 AM	#60
gidge Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Lanzarote Posts: 925	My OH works full time so can´t be 50/50 and I don´t expect it to be to be honest. As with the night feeds, I breast feed and don´t see why he should get up aswell to help settle or change a nappie, I just get on with it and I´m fine with it.

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