50/50?

Rose_red · Mar 16th, 2012, 08:23 AM

I went to my drs yesterday for babys 6 week check, she asked all the genereal questions.

She asked whether OH helps out much & I said something along the lines of
'I do most of it in the week but I guess thats fair enough if OH has to work', and she stopped me & said it should be 50/50 whether he works or not.

I can't really see this happening anytime soon, was wondering what happens in your house?

kanga · Mar 16th, 2012, 08:25 AM

I dont see how it can be 50/50 when my husband is not even in the house between 7am and 7pm! Its not like there is much to actually be done between 7pm and 7am either...

Rose_red · Mar 16th, 2012, 08:26 AM

I think she meant with the night feeds

nugget80 · Mar 16th, 2012, 08:30 AM

my oh works hard so i don't expect it to be 50/50 while i am home all day! oh is home around 4.30 most days and he plays with lo when he gets in and then cooks for us all then plays with lo til lo goes to bed. at weekends oh gets up with lo one morning so i get lie in. oh does do all cooking cos he thinks we would starve if it did it all but i do pretty much everything else at mo! but i don't mind, i like things done my way...

Mamoosca · Mar 16th, 2012, 08:30 AM

My OH helps out so much that I feel guilty having him then go to work.

Gbobs · Mar 16th, 2012, 08:30 AM

Obviously most of the week when OH is at work it's all me but when he's at home it's pretty much 50/50. When he gets in of an evening OH takes over and gives LO his bath, bottle and puts him to bed and at weekend we share everything. Sometimes OH does a bit more when he's around to allow me to have a break and/or get things done around the house.

nugget80 · Mar 16th, 2012, 08:31 AM

my oh only did night feeds when he did not have to be up next day which seemed fair to me...

fannyadams · Mar 16th, 2012, 11:04 AM

It's more or less 50/50 in my house.
OH has to be up for work but it's not like I dont have to be up all day too!
We take it in turns to do night feeds (a night each) but if lo wakes up more than twice I would get up so oh has had a few hours sleep. He does the same for me if I have a bad night.
It works well for us but I do get the impression that we're unusual.
I obviously do as much housework as I can while oh is at work but other than that everything is split pretty much equally.

ellie27 · Mar 16th, 2012, 11:10 AM

I breastfeed so do nightfeeds.

When OH comes home afterwork each day, he changes both the 4 month old and 2 year olds nappies and gets them into their pjs and does most of the baths at night. When he is there, he easily does 50%

aliss · Mar 16th, 2012, 11:18 AM

50/50 in the early months for us too (he doesn't have boobs but he can change diapers, help settle, bring me a drink, let me nap on weekends to catch up, cook meals, clean the house etc). I don't care if he's working, us working mothers never got permission to ignore the baby and sleep at night because we work?

View Poll Results: How much does your OH help with baby?
You do it all	19	10.98%
OH helps out abit	97	56.07%
50/50	29	16.76%
OH helps out alot	27	15.61%
OH does most/all	1	0.58%
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Mar 16th, 2012, 08:23 AM	#1
Rose_red Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Cumbria, UK Posts: 593	50/50? I went to my drs yesterday for babys 6 week check, she asked all the genereal questions. She asked whether OH helps out much & I said something along the lines of 'I do most of it in the week but I guess thats fair enough if OH has to work', and she stopped me & said it should be 50/50 whether he works or not. I can't really see this happening anytime soon, was wondering what happens in your house?

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Mar 16th, 2012, 08:25 AM	#2
kanga Other BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: England Posts: 3,740	I dont see how it can be 50/50 when my husband is not even in the house between 7am and 7pm! Its not like there is much to actually be done between 7pm and 7am either...

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Mar 16th, 2012, 08:26 AM	#3
Rose_red Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Cumbria, UK Posts: 593	I think she meant with the night feeds

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Mar 16th, 2012, 08:30 AM	#4
nugget80 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: hertfordshire Posts: 1,801	my oh works hard so i don't expect it to be 50/50 while i am home all day! oh is home around 4.30 most days and he plays with lo when he gets in and then cooks for us all then plays with lo til lo goes to bed. at weekends oh gets up with lo one morning so i get lie in. oh does do all cooking cos he thinks we would starve if it did it all but i do pretty much everything else at mo! but i don't mind, i like things done my way...

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Mar 16th, 2012, 08:30 AM	#5
Mamoosca Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: North West, UK Posts: 1,112	My OH helps out so much that I feel guilty having him then go to work.

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Mar 16th, 2012, 08:30 AM	#6
Gbobs Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Essex, UK Posts: 953	Obviously most of the week when OH is at work it's all me but when he's at home it's pretty much 50/50. When he gets in of an evening OH takes over and gives LO his bath, bottle and puts him to bed and at weekend we share everything. Sometimes OH does a bit more when he's around to allow me to have a break and/or get things done around the house.

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Mar 16th, 2012, 08:31 AM	#7
nugget80 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: hertfordshire Posts: 1,801	my oh only did night feeds when he did not have to be up next day which seemed fair to me...

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Mar 16th, 2012, 11:04 AM	#8
fannyadams Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Posts: 949	It's more or less 50/50 in my house. OH has to be up for work but it's not like I dont have to be up all day too! We take it in turns to do night feeds (a night each) but if lo wakes up more than twice I would get up so oh has had a few hours sleep. He does the same for me if I have a bad night. It works well for us but I do get the impression that we're unusual. I obviously do as much housework as I can while oh is at work but other than that everything is split pretty much equally.

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Mar 16th, 2012, 11:10 AM	#9
ellie27 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: uk Posts: 10,560	I breastfeed so do nightfeeds. When OH comes home afterwork each day, he changes both the 4 month old and 2 year olds nappies and gets them into their pjs and does most of the baths at night. When he is there, he easily does 50%

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Mar 16th, 2012, 11:18 AM	#10
aliss AutoSignup (SAAB) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Québec Posts: 24,400	50/50 in the early months for us too (he doesn't have boobs but he can change diapers, help settle, bring me a drink, let me nap on weekends to catch up, cook meals, clean the house etc). I don't care if he's working, us working mothers never got permission to ignore the baby and sleep at night because we work?

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