hi ladies

well Kai is really being hard word, he moans or cries or grizzles literally all day unless he's sleeping. Even when he's feeding his moaning which stops him eating properly which is a nightmare. I cant work out wether its his teeth or something wrong with him or anything like that i give him medicine if he's really screaming encase its his teeth but i just cant be sure

I just dont know how to get through it, its so hard, so tiring and just plain exhausting having it from 7am-10pm everyday without a single break. There is no-one that will take him and i cant leave him to cry, i just cant do it and it annoys me that i cant but hearing him cry just breaks my heart. Thats another thing, i get so upset that i cant help him and i just dont know what to do.

Please if you have any suggestions, please leave them. Im with him all day, i gave up on the playpen idea as he just cant be left atm. My coursework is seriously suffering, my mental state is suffering and i just need some help

Any advice?

Go out, see people, have plans, have a purpose to every day..it'll help u keep ur sanity and babies love to be out and about, maybe it'll wear him out to the point you get home, he'll go to bed and nap and u can get on with coursework.

Oh bless you, you poor thing! Sending you loads of !

Babies go through stages like this - I'm sure my LO went through a similar thing around 6 months where he would refuse any milk and would just go stiff (planking!) and scream so that you couldn't get him into a good position to feed him. It passed eventually, and now he's going through a good stage (after a troublesome one a few weeks ago of refusing any daytime naps while desparately needing them - argh!!).

I understand that you can't bear to leave him cry, but it won't kill him (or you) if you just leave him to cry for 5/10 minutes to give you a quick rest. Put headphones in so you can't hear him and take some deep breaths. When you do go in to him you'll feel stronger and more ready to try and soothe him.

I would say that it is worth trying to leave him to cry as sometimes this does work. However if you don't know why he cries so much (and some babies just do, the little wotsits!!) then perhaps take him to the health visitor just to get some support and advice.

Lots of love xxxx

My lo is similar at the moment, I've started going for really long walks, this helps him sleep so when he does wake he's not as moody! Also maybe meeting up with friends or going to a baby group to keep him entertained! I know it easier said than done, hope he settles for u x

Charlie has been the same this week and today was at his worst. Looking closely at his gums I could see two small red lines where his teeth will break thru so I hope they come soon. I give him something for the teething then entertain him to take his mind off it. A walk always works wonders then he usually falls asleep. Could u take him for a walk, he may sleep from all the crying and at least u nay have an hours peace to refresh before he wakes. A visit to family sometimes works especially at their house so he can b nosey! Goodluck sounds like u have ur hands full xxx

HEY GIRLS THANKS FOR THE REPLIES

yeah i spend most of my day walking to keep him occupied and asleep loool its mainly the evenings from 4pm till 10pm which is the nightmare! I havent got family round here and i go to baby club once a week at my local youth centre which is a lovely thing to do !

thankyou xxx

Hey hun

My lo sounds like your baby !
If you've ever read any of my threads I have posted about having a very unsettled baby since day one, me feeling sad etc - she is getting better but I just think I have a high needs baby - anyway
Just a suggestion - I'm no expert at all but from what you say that it's worst from 4pm maybe he's over tired ? How much does he nap ?
I notice our lo are similar in age and if I've got anything down to a tee it's her naps and I have a more settled baby and less tired
I basically worked out she couldn't be up for more than a couple of hours at one time so for example she has her naps at set times of the day àbd I'm strict with them to the extent I don't go out evenings BUT it has worked so well for us it's amazing.
Our routine is
Wake around 7-8am
First nap 9:30 - 11am (ish - she has anything from 30 mins to hr and a half )
Second nap 1pm
Then this is the hard bit - nap at 4 regardless to whatever time she woke from 1pm nap in order for her to wake around 5 and agsin I'm really strict with her bedtime which is 7. Since doing it she knows its bedtime and goes down
Which then gives me my evening to give me some down time

I know every baby is different but I just realised with mine it's over tiredness
I mean along with everything else - teething - their development etc

Anyway just an idea

If you are on your own - my hat goes off to you
I struggle - I have a oh but he works long hours so I'm often on my own

Feel free to pm me - I'd be happy to provide any support I can
And would be nice to have someone to chat too as our lo sounds similar

X

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I know where you are coming from! my LO is definitely a high needs fussy baby and lately she screams whenever I put her down! is he crawling? if he is then is he onto his next milestone like pulling up on furniture as some babies get so so fussy when they are trying to do something new, my mum said every milestone I was frustrated and grumpy and angry until I'd mastered it!

Ebonyblaze my LO needs exactly the same naps as yours! she cant really be up for more than 2 hours without a meltdown and becoming so grumpy! she wont nap without me though and some days I just dont want to keep laying with her as I want to get on with something else. how do you manage to get your LO to take those naps?

I second the structured naps and early bedtime. Since putting isabelle to bed at 7 she is a changed baby. I used to dread the evening like you as she would get so overtired and grizzled for hours. Now she goes down like a dream most nights. She also has 2 naps a day, one at 11am and one at 2pm for an hour each. She still has her moments but she is a LOT better. And it gives me my evenings back which is a bonus.