Did having a baby bring you closer together? Be honest!!

babycrazy1706 · Mar 17th, 2012, 11:07 AM

We hear alot of women on here having problems with OH's after having children. Resentment/lack of support etc. Would be nice to hear some stories of a couple who have been brought closer? Is it possible? Is it realistic? Be honest.

Kasia · Mar 17th, 2012, 11:11 AM

Sadly after 11yrs it's ripping dh&i to pieces. He's a lazy ahole that claims I wanted this baby so it's all ME. Really hoping this passes soon. TODAY is our 11yr anniversary he went out last night & came home @7am

Hope the rest of you ladies are having a better time than I. Sorry to be a downer wish things were different.

babycrazy1706 · Mar 17th, 2012, 11:14 AM

Sorry to hear that hun. Hope things improve!!

Kasia · Mar 17th, 2012, 11:15 AM

Thanks

me tooooooo

leahsbabybump · Mar 17th, 2012, 11:17 AM

not really were pretty much the same :-/ he tries his best to help with lo hes had her pretty much all afternoon while i chill he often does this when hes off he does get up in the night and does most night feeds even when he is up early for work hes shit with housework though i dont even ask for help anymore cos i know he wont do owt round house lol

puddycats · Mar 17th, 2012, 15:45 PM

For us yes, my oh makes most of the bottles, he does his far share of everything, feedin, changin, cleanin the house, he takes lo out for a hour for a walk everyday so I can have a lil rest (he works in the evenings) or if I want to clean (I only like to clean wen no-one else is in the house) without my oh I wouldn't have had my son, and although he can b a pain I wouldn't change him.

purapura · Mar 17th, 2012, 16:01 PM

I think in the beginning we were fighting non stop, but as Liam grew, it became easier on us and now we are back to our old relationship, with less time for ourselves.

xdxxtx · Mar 17th, 2012, 16:03 PM

Having a baby certainly brought my OH and me closer together.

We had a LOT of problems, even throughout the first half of the pregnancy, but since then - and especially since our son was born - we've gotten through ALL of them and have a much better marriage.

Chocoholic123 · Mar 17th, 2012, 16:15 PM

I wouldn't say it brought us closer together but I dont mean that negatively. I mean that we had a great solid relationship before LO and I think that's important, having a baby is hard and it puts strain on your relationship - finding time to spend together, lack of sleep, etc it's not easy but I'm lucky that DH is very considerate and helps a lot and is very supportive. Yeah we've had tricky moments in the last 8 months of course but I think it's good that we have a solid relationship and even though things aren't the same as they were when it was just the 2 of us now we're a family and we will get through the hard times together.

george83 · Mar 17th, 2012, 16:25 PM

our baby is only 8months old and after months and months of my husband walking out and coming back he's now left me for good. He's been gone nearly 4 weeks and doesn't even ask about the baby anymore, i think he was the final nail in our coffin as far as my husband is concerned at least

Mar 17th, 2012, 11:07 AM	#1
babycrazy1706 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 2,507	Did having a baby bring you closer together? Be honest!! We hear alot of women on here having problems with OH's after having children. Resentment/lack of support etc. Would be nice to hear some stories of a couple who have been brought closer? Is it possible? Is it realistic? Be honest.

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Mar 17th, 2012, 11:11 AM	#2
Kasia Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Florida Posts: 1,520	Sadly after 11yrs it's ripping dh&i to pieces. He's a lazy ahole that claims I wanted this baby so it's all ME. Really hoping this passes soon. TODAY is our 11yr anniversary he went out last night & came home @7am Hope the rest of you ladies are having a better time than I. Sorry to be a downer wish things were different.

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babycrazy1706 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 2,507	Sorry to hear that hun. Hope things improve!!

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Kasia Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Florida Posts: 1,520	Thanks me tooooooo

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Mar 17th, 2012, 11:17 AM	#5
leahsbabybump Other BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: South Yorkshire - UK Posts: 9,760	not really were pretty much the same :-/ he tries his best to help with lo hes had her pretty much all afternoon while i chill he often does this when hes off he does get up in the night and does most night feeds even when he is up early for work hes shit with housework though i dont even ask for help anymore cos i know he wont do owt round house lol

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Mar 17th, 2012, 15:45 PM	#6
puddycats Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: oldham Posts: 1,516	For us yes, my oh makes most of the bottles, he does his far share of everything, feedin, changin, cleanin the house, he takes lo out for a hour for a walk everyday so I can have a lil rest (he works in the evenings) or if I want to clean (I only like to clean wen no-one else is in the house) without my oh I wouldn't have had my son, and although he can b a pain I wouldn't change him.

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Mar 17th, 2012, 16:01 PM	#7
purapura Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: West London Posts: 2,681	I think in the beginning we were fighting non stop, but as Liam grew, it became easier on us and now we are back to our old relationship, with less time for ourselves.

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xdxxtx Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: East Coast, USA Posts: 6,475	Having a baby certainly brought my OH and me closer together. We had a LOT of problems, even throughout the first half of the pregnancy, but since then - and especially since our son was born - we've gotten through ALL of them and have a much better marriage.

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Mar 17th, 2012, 16:15 PM	#9
Chocoholic123 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Kent Posts: 1,365	I wouldn't say it brought us closer together but I dont mean that negatively. I mean that we had a great solid relationship before LO and I think that's important, having a baby is hard and it puts strain on your relationship - finding time to spend together, lack of sleep, etc it's not easy but I'm lucky that DH is very considerate and helps a lot and is very supportive. Yeah we've had tricky moments in the last 8 months of course but I think it's good that we have a solid relationship and even though things aren't the same as they were when it was just the 2 of us now we're a family and we will get through the hard times together.

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Mar 17th, 2012, 16:25 PM	#10
george83 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Posts: 1,264	our baby is only 8months old and after months and months of my husband walking out and coming back he's now left me for good. He's been gone nearly 4 weeks and doesn't even ask about the baby anymore, i think he was the final nail in our coffin as far as my husband is concerned at least

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