Anyone else live with their parents?

babycrazy1706 · Mar 17th, 2012, 17:58 PM

We do..... Its just not possible for us to move out yet. (money wise) We have a LO on the way but we are comfortable. My parents have a 5 bed house so LO will be able to have own room. We will move out eventually but for now my parents are happy for us to stay. We do all our own washing/cleaning and share cooking/bills etc. So although we're not being totally independant its not like we're being 'looked after'. Anyone else in similar situation? How do you find it with a LO?

Lillybloss · Mar 17th, 2012, 18:04 PM

Hi I currently live with my parents as my partner left when I found out I was pregnant. Like you say I do everything for my son as if I lived on my own I contribute to the house etc etc.. I have found it great so far. My mum is fab she gives me advice whenever I need it, without interfering and watches him for me if I want a night out with my friends. Coz we live a home heis getting to love his nanna and grandad and it's lovely seeing him with them. I couldnt manage without them.

Mummy2B21 · Mar 17th, 2012, 18:37 PM

Hi me and my OH and LO live with. my parents currently, my parents offered us to stay so we could save up a deposit for a house but then my great uncle passed away and left me half the money from the sale of his house so were looking to buy and move out in the summer.

Living with the parents has positives and negatives, my mum loves having LO here she dotes on him I do all our washing,cleaning, cooking ect and buy our own food, washing powders ect, but my parents insist on not giving them money for bills they just wont take our money so i tend to treat them to dinner and buy small gifts as a thank you.
For us we can't wait to move and have our own space sometimes it is hard to get into a. proper routine as its.not my house to do things when i want like cooking our meals certain.times or doing the washing, morning baths/showers ect as my younger brother still lives here.and his gf often stays over too. So its quite chaotic some days.

Kyliem87 · Mar 18th, 2012, 04:51 AM

I live at home with my LO and my OH stays over Mon-Fri then we stay at his parents house Fri-Mon which is an hour away from mine. At my house we pay a small amount towards 'board' but can't afford to give much as I have horrendous debts and we're currently trying to save towards a mortgage in order to have an asset and in the future maybe equity so for us this is the best solution. My mam buys all food, does all our washing but employs a cleaner so she does all the ironing, cleaning and makes the beds etc.

At my OH's we don't pay anything towards board but we buy our own food and only use the heating if it's on. We also have baths if the immersion is on. We buy most things we need for his except MIL has spoilt us and LO and bought us a Moses basket, bath, towels, muslin squares, clothes and is buying my OH a new tele cause his is old and the sound comes and goes.

We are very lucky and very privileged that our parents are helping us as much as they can so we can get ourselves out of the mess I created before I had LO or before I got with my OH

Cutieboy · Mar 18th, 2012, 08:33 AM

We live with my inlaws! We are also trying to save up to move out but they always want all the bills paid by us. At this rate we will be stuck here for 5 years. OH is comfortable obviously its all he knows. I am dying to move out! They always want to get involved in everything, its nice to an extent but you need your privacy and own time with LO. I can't get it with the MIL and FIL trying to overtake everything.

kazer395 · Mar 18th, 2012, 14:04 PM

im in the comletely same situation as cutieboy, from what i have noticed, its when living with mil that if gets difficult, im so desperate to move out

xcharx · Mar 18th, 2012, 14:11 PM

I lived with my mum til LO was 4 months old - was a nightmare!! She was constantly interfering, wouldn't let my OH stay over (I understand its her house so her rules). My OH refused to come over because of how she was,so I had to go to his dads everyday (he was out of work) which then led to his dad getting annoyed with us. We do now live together - thank god!! All I can say is from the beginning make it clear LO is your baby - not their x

B l i n k · Mar 18th, 2012, 18:36 PM

I live with my mum, partner stays over 3 nights and I stay at his once on the weekend.
My LO is 3 weeks old, and it's been okay-ish,
my mum does keep pestering to hold, feed, change LO ect which does get annoying!
which leads to my partner moaning so i'm always stuck in the middle

- If you're gunna live with parents i'd say more than anything you need to make rules for them too,
you can't let them take over & control.
you're the parent, you say what goes. Easier said than done though lol.
x

tommyg · Mar 18th, 2012, 18:58 PM

I was in the same postion as cuteboy and kazer. We sold our house and moved in with the ILs when LO was 3.5months (it was only meant to be for 4-6 weeks) and our new house was delayed for months so he was 10 months when we finally moved into our new house.
I found it really hard going trying to make sure that "I know best" MIL didn't take over. I am so glad I BFed or every other bottle would have been "I'll do it". Her constant coments and pushy-ness did lead to a fair few MIL rants on here!
The lack of privicy was also really hard to take esp when she would insist in putting LO outside and I was trying to express and ending up doing that in the kitchen when I'd rather he was in his cot upstairs and I could express in the bedroom.
By the end of the 7 months I was spending more time with DH in his digs away from home, Mon-Thur nights, and I was absoultly desprite to move out. We weren't even comming home every weekend meaning my family were missing out on LO too.

Jessy16 · Mar 18th, 2012, 19:01 PM

I'm only 16 so I still live at home with my family. I live near to Los Angeles where house prices are ridiculous, so even if I wanted to move out and start renting, I can't as there's no way on earth I can afford it. I'm happy at home though.

Mar 17th, 2012, 17:58 PM	#1
babycrazy1706 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 2,651	Anyone else live with their parents? We do..... Its just not possible for us to move out yet. (money wise) We have a LO on the way but we are comfortable. My parents have a 5 bed house so LO will be able to have own room. We will move out eventually but for now my parents are happy for us to stay. We do all our own washing/cleaning and share cooking/bills etc. So although we're not being totally independant its not like we're being 'looked after'. Anyone else in similar situation? How do you find it with a LO?

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Mar 17th, 2012, 18:04 PM	#2
Lillybloss Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: North west uk Posts: 200	Hi I currently live with my parents as my partner left when I found out I was pregnant. Like you say I do everything for my son as if I lived on my own I contribute to the house etc etc.. I have found it great so far. My mum is fab she gives me advice whenever I need it, without interfering and watches him for me if I want a night out with my friends. Coz we live a home heis getting to love his nanna and grandad and it's lovely seeing him with them. I couldnt manage without them.

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Mar 17th, 2012, 18:37 PM	#3
Mummy2B21 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Essex, UK Posts: 10,080	Hi me and my OH and LO live with. my parents currently, my parents offered us to stay so we could save up a deposit for a house but then my great uncle passed away and left me half the money from the sale of his house so were looking to buy and move out in the summer. Living with the parents has positives and negatives, my mum loves having LO here she dotes on him I do all our washing,cleaning, cooking ect and buy our own food, washing powders ect, but my parents insist on not giving them money for bills they just wont take our money so i tend to treat them to dinner and buy small gifts as a thank you. For us we can't wait to move and have our own space sometimes it is hard to get into a. proper routine as its.not my house to do things when i want like cooking our meals certain.times or doing the washing, morning baths/showers ect as my younger brother still lives here.and his gf often stays over too. So its quite chaotic some days.

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Mar 18th, 2012, 04:51 AM	#4
Kyliem87 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: England - NE Posts: 2,251	I live at home with my LO and my OH stays over Mon-Fri then we stay at his parents house Fri-Mon which is an hour away from mine. At my house we pay a small amount towards 'board' but can't afford to give much as I have horrendous debts and we're currently trying to save towards a mortgage in order to have an asset and in the future maybe equity so for us this is the best solution. My mam buys all food, does all our washing but employs a cleaner so she does all the ironing, cleaning and makes the beds etc. At my OH's we don't pay anything towards board but we buy our own food and only use the heating if it's on. We also have baths if the immersion is on. We buy most things we need for his except MIL has spoilt us and LO and bought us a Moses basket, bath, towels, muslin squares, clothes and is buying my OH a new tele cause his is old and the sound comes and goes. We are very lucky and very privileged that our parents are helping us as much as they can so we can get ourselves out of the mess I created before I had LO or before I got with my OH

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Mar 18th, 2012, 08:33 AM	#5
Cutieboy Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: UK Posts: 240	We live with my inlaws! We are also trying to save up to move out but they always want all the bills paid by us. At this rate we will be stuck here for 5 years. OH is comfortable obviously its all he knows. I am dying to move out! They always want to get involved in everything, its nice to an extent but you need your privacy and own time with LO. I can't get it with the MIL and FIL trying to overtake everything.

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Mar 18th, 2012, 14:04 PM	#6
kazer395 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: coventry Posts: 337	im in the comletely same situation as cutieboy, from what i have noticed, its when living with mil that if gets difficult, im so desperate to move out

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Mar 18th, 2012, 14:11 PM	#7
xcharx Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Bedfordshire - u.k Posts: 3,649	I lived with my mum til LO was 4 months old - was a nightmare!! She was constantly interfering, wouldn't let my OH stay over (I understand its her house so her rules). My OH refused to come over because of how she was,so I had to go to his dads everyday (he was out of work) which then led to his dad getting annoyed with us. We do now live together - thank god!! All I can say is from the beginning make it clear LO is your baby - not their x

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Mar 18th, 2012, 18:36 PM	#8
B l i n k Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Kent - UK Posts: 794	I live with my mum, partner stays over 3 nights and I stay at his once on the weekend. My LO is 3 weeks old, and it's been okay-ish, my mum does keep pestering to hold, feed, change LO ect which does get annoying! which leads to my partner moaning so i'm always stuck in the middle - If you're gunna live with parents i'd say more than anything you need to make rules for them too, you can't let them take over & control. you're the parent, you say what goes. Easier said than done though lol. x

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Mar 18th, 2012, 18:58 PM	#9
tommyg Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Scotland Posts: 4,343	I was in the same postion as cuteboy and kazer. We sold our house and moved in with the ILs when LO was 3.5months (it was only meant to be for 4-6 weeks) and our new house was delayed for months so he was 10 months when we finally moved into our new house. I found it really hard going trying to make sure that "I know best" MIL didn't take over. I am so glad I BFed or every other bottle would have been "I'll do it". Her constant coments and pushy-ness did lead to a fair few MIL rants on here! The lack of privicy was also really hard to take esp when she would insist in putting LO outside and I was trying to express and ending up doing that in the kitchen when I'd rather he was in his cot upstairs and I could express in the bedroom. By the end of the 7 months I was spending more time with DH in his digs away from home, Mon-Thur nights, and I was absoultly desprite to move out. We weren't even comming home every weekend meaning my family were missing out on LO too.

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Mar 18th, 2012, 19:01 PM	#10
Jessy16 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: California Posts: 385	I'm only 16 so I still live at home with my family. I live near to Los Angeles where house prices are ridiculous, so even if I wanted to move out and start renting, I can't as there's no way on earth I can afford it. I'm happy at home though.

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