I'm so annoyed at myself and can't stop crying!
We said we weren't having a party because our flat isn't big enough and we can't afford to go out and spend a fortune on food and things for everyone so decided we'd just take LO out on her birthday and hopefully relatives would come and visit in the days around her birthday.

So I have 35 cupcakes sitting here, her birthday is tomorrow and not a soul has visited tonight
We're going out tomorrow (her birthday) so if anyone comes over we will miss them and no one will actually see her.

OHs family are not good with communication, they can't phone and say 'oh what are you doing for LOs birthday? when can we see her?' they will just turn up tomorrow when we are out (if they decide to come at all) and not actually see her. And I feel funny about phoning and saying to come over when we're not actually having a party, for some reason it feels rude for me to do that so that's why I haven't done it. Now I just feel like I've messed everything up. OHs mum is just out of hospital so hasn't been to see her and they know we are out tomorrow, OHs brother and sister haven't bothered.

Sorry for such a long rant, I just needed to get it down, my OH isn't much of a talker. Off to eat 35 cupcakes now.

I think next time you'll have to tell people to visit, if I was told there wouldn't be a party/organized thing I probably wouldn't think to visit. I'm sure she'll have fun on her birthday and the next one will be even better.

Don't feel bad, she will have a lovley day tomorrow and she won't know whether anyone came to eat the cakes or not! Why not pop some of them in the freezer then if people come a few days after her birthday they can still have one to celebrate. It's a shame they didn't call to arrange something but fo us on having a lovely day tomorrow, as long as she has her mummy and daddy that is all she will care about x

They probably think you'll be in and turn up. Why not text his mum so she knows your planning to go out and when you plan to be back?
Let he contact the rest of the family.

Awww. It will be okay. I bet you'll have a great time tomorrow. Yeah, if I wasn't told when exactly to visit, I probably wouldn't just drop by. If someone told me they were not having a party, I would send a card/gift. People probably don't know you're expecting them.. So sorry. Massive

Why don't you just call the people that you were expecting, and say that they're welcome to come by tonight or the day after tomorrow? Your cupcakes will still be good in two days!

She will have a lovely 1st birthday tomorrow with her two favourite people, what more could a toddler possibly want!! You will have plenty more parties to plan so don't worry! It takes a lot less to please children then adults because we have way higher expectations that are most of the time not necessary.

I think if uve told people ur not avin a party they really shud av rang and asked wen.they can bring lo card etc, that way u cud of sed the day b4 her bday....

You will get to spend her 1st birthday just the 3 of you... sounds perfect to me! No interfering family Enjoy it! xx

Why not send everyone a quick text saying that you'll be out tomorrow but feel free to pop round the day after for some cake & so your LO can show off her presents? Sounds casual & gives them a specific day. Or make your OH do it.

Your LO will have a fantastic day anyway