Something Alex's godmother said has really gotten to me. She said that I don't trust people with Alex She was one of the ones that I do trust too and now I'm just irritated. I don't think she's realized how much this has gotten to me.
So I asked DH, "Do you think I don't trust people?" And he said, "Well, yeah, he's only been with my sister." ARGH! This is because he told me SIL told him that she felt left out cause Alex's godmother took us to all the scans during my pregnancy so we always offer SIL to take Alex first and she always says yes!
So what if I don't want to leave Alex overnight anywhere just now? He has a heart condition and he's nine months old! Who wants a nine month old overnight? Maybe I don't want a break at night! Besides, I kinda want my parents to have him overnight first and that won't be until June when we go to Cali!
I don't think you're being unreasonable at all!!!!!
I'm back at work next week as my maternity leave is ending so since LO has been born I've been conscious that he'll be with other people soon enough and this is my unlimited time with him. My parents and in-laws have looked after him on occasions but we rarely go out and if I go somewhere through the day he's usually with me (with some exceptions!)
Easier said than done but don't let them stress you out xx
Your not unreasonable, I wouldn't let anyone have mine until 2-3 years old like if they wanted to take them out. Obviously when me and OH want time together and want someone to look after the baby then it will be my mum. Stick to your guns, he's your son hunny xx
my 5 year old has been away from both me and my hubby for 2 nights. the first time when i had my 2year old and my mum stayed in my house with her and the second time was in november when i had our son and she stayed at a good friends.
i was ill the beginning of last year and my dh rushed me to hospital and my 2year olds godmother watched them for a couple of hours as they were asleep while my mum came up and between her and my hubby they had them and even though they visited twice a day i hated it.
my mum wants to have them down south for a week in the holidays but afraid not, the are my kids and they will be with me
You're not unreasonable or untrusting, really they shouldn't just assume such things when clearly there is an explanation behind why you don't leave your LO with just anyone. Honestly, I wouldn't either.. but I know for me it'd be because I'll be way too attached to LO and I can see myself getting jealous and I really don't trust others either.
your not being unreasonable. My LO is 8 months old and I have never left her with anyone including my husband (I trust DH 100%) I just dont want to be away from LO. My MIL has been going on about looking after LO, she is down on list of those I dont trust due to stuff she did when DH was younger such as dropping him quite a few times and losing him lots. I am in no way ready to be away from LO, and I wont be anytime soon. people seem obsessed with the fact that you want to be away from your baby, I have to say even before I had LO I was not outgoing and would rather be at home and spending time with DH, my DH still goes out but that was never me and to be honest I dont think I ever want to leave LO over night. My LO cant even play on the floor at either mine or DHs parents due to not being safe lol so how either think they can look after LO I dont know. I really dont think you come across as untrusting at all
Any opinions, advice, statements or other information expressed or made available on BabyandBump.Momtastic.com by users or third parties, including but not limited to bloggers, are solely those of the respective user or other third party. They do not reflect the opinions of BabyandBump.Momtastic.com and they have not been reviewed by a physician, psychologist or parenting expert or any member of the BabyandBump.Momtastic.com staff for accuracy, balance or objectivity. Content and other information presented on BabyandBump.Momtastic.com are not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice, counseling, diagnosis, or treatment. Never delay or disregard seeking professional medical or mental health advice from your physician or other qualified health provider because of something you have read on BabyandBump.Momtastic.com. BabyandBump.Momtastic.com does not endorse any opinion, advice, statement, product, service or treatment made available on the website. If you think you have a medical emergency, call your doctor or emergency services immediately.