Apparently, I don't trust people with LO!

Ozzieshunni · Mar 26th, 2012, 03:39 AM

Something Alex's godmother said has really gotten to me. She said that I don't trust people with Alex

She was one of the ones that I do trust too and now I'm just irritated. I don't think she's realized how much this has gotten to me.

So I asked DH, "Do you think I don't trust people?" And he said, "Well, yeah, he's only been with my sister." ARGH! This is because he told me SIL told him that she felt left out cause Alex's godmother took us to all the scans during my pregnancy so we always offer SIL to take Alex first and she always says yes!

So what if I don't want to leave Alex overnight anywhere just now? He has a heart condition and he's nine months old! Who wants a nine month old overnight? Maybe I don't want a break at night! Besides, I kinda want my parents to have him overnight first and that won't be until June when we go to Cali!

Am I so unreasonable and untrusting?

Loui1001 · Mar 26th, 2012, 03:54 AM

I don't think you're being unreasonable at all!!!!!

I'm back at work next week as my maternity leave is ending so since LO has been born I've been conscious that he'll be with other people soon enough and this is my unlimited time with him. My parents and in-laws have looked after him on occasions but we rarely go out and if I go somewhere through the day he's usually with me (with some exceptions!)

Easier said than done but don't let them stress you out xx

xxxjessxxx · Mar 26th, 2012, 03:57 AM

Your not unreasonable, I wouldn't let anyone have mine until 2-3 years old like if they wanted to take them out. Obviously when me and OH want time together and want someone to look after the baby then it will be my mum. Stick to your guns, he's your son hunny xx

ttcnewbie123 · Mar 26th, 2012, 04:00 AM

lol i wouldnt worry, i actually dont trust anyone other than hubby to look after our lo!x

mummyruston · Mar 26th, 2012, 04:00 AM

And you're his mother so naturally you can never 100% trust anyone with your LO as that's your Job!

Being a protective mother of a baby is normal - Alex isn't 12yrs old...

I think it's sad how parenting today means having a break and leaving LO whenever you can with whoever!

I think it's normal to want to be with your baby all the time... And not spend every 5mins with others. Hes your baby not sils or godmothers...

Do they have children??

Ozzieshunni · Mar 26th, 2012, 04:07 AM

SIL has children and child minds for another baby. She's never been pushy about it and I love Alex going there because his cousin loves to play with him.

His godmother couldn't have children, but she raised her husband's two children when his ex-wife passed away.

sam1984 · Mar 26th, 2012, 04:37 AM

my 5 year old has been away from both me and my hubby for 2 nights. the first time when i had my 2year old and my mum stayed in my house with her and the second time was in november when i had our son and she stayed at a good friends.
i was ill the beginning of last year and my dh rushed me to hospital and my 2year olds godmother watched them for a couple of hours as they were asleep while my mum came up and between her and my hubby they had them and even though they visited twice a day i hated it.

my mum wants to have them down south for a week in the holidays but afraid not, the are my kids and they will be with me

Belie · Mar 26th, 2012, 04:37 AM

You're not unreasonable or untrusting, really they shouldn't just assume such things when clearly there is an explanation behind why you don't leave your LO with just anyone. Honestly, I wouldn't either.. but I know for me it'd be because I'll be way too attached to LO and I can see myself getting jealous and I really don't trust others either.

mummyruston · Mar 26th, 2012, 04:38 AM

Maybe your sil understands that mother baby bOnd then? I dOnt know the godmother but as she hasn't had a baby, BFd a baby and had that connection she might not understand?

Bex84 · Mar 26th, 2012, 04:39 AM

your not being unreasonable. My LO is 8 months old and I have never left her with anyone including my husband (I trust DH 100%) I just dont want to be away from LO. My MIL has been going on about looking after LO, she is down on list of those I dont trust due to stuff she did when DH was younger such as dropping him quite a few times and losing him lots. I am in no way ready to be away from LO, and I wont be anytime soon. people seem obsessed with the fact that you want to be away from your baby, I have to say even before I had LO I was not outgoing and would rather be at home and spending time with DH, my DH still goes out but that was never me and to be honest I dont think I ever want to leave LO over night. My LO cant even play on the floor at either mine or DHs parents due to not being safe lol so how either think they can look after LO I dont know. I really dont think you come across as untrusting at all

Mar 26th, 2012, 03:39 AM	#1
Ozzieshunni Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 19,286	Apparently, I don't trust people with LO! Something Alex's godmother said has really gotten to me. She said that I don't trust people with Alex She was one of the ones that I do trust too and now I'm just irritated. I don't think she's realized how much this has gotten to me. So I asked DH, "Do you think I don't trust people?" And he said, "Well, yeah, he's only been with my sister." ARGH! This is because he told me SIL told him that she felt left out cause Alex's godmother took us to all the scans during my pregnancy so we always offer SIL to take Alex first and she always says yes! So what if I don't want to leave Alex overnight anywhere just now? He has a heart condition and he's nine months old! Who wants a nine month old overnight? Maybe I don't want a break at night! Besides, I kinda want my parents to have him overnight first and that won't be until June when we go to Cali! Am I so unreasonable and untrusting?

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Mar 26th, 2012, 03:54 AM	#2
Loui1001 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: UK Posts: 2,775	I don't think you're being unreasonable at all!!!!! I'm back at work next week as my maternity leave is ending so since LO has been born I've been conscious that he'll be with other people soon enough and this is my unlimited time with him. My parents and in-laws have looked after him on occasions but we rarely go out and if I go somewhere through the day he's usually with me (with some exceptions!) Easier said than done but don't let them stress you out xx

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Mar 26th, 2012, 03:57 AM	#3
xxxjessxxx Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Essex Posts: 4,248	Your not unreasonable, I wouldn't let anyone have mine until 2-3 years old like if they wanted to take them out. Obviously when me and OH want time together and want someone to look after the baby then it will be my mum. Stick to your guns, he's your son hunny xx

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Mar 26th, 2012, 04:00 AM	#4
ttcnewbie123 Other BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2011 Posts: 2,542	lol i wouldnt worry, i actually dont trust anyone other than hubby to look after our lo!x

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Mar 26th, 2012, 04:00 AM	#5
mummyruston Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Posts: 1,189	And you're his mother so naturally you can never 100% trust anyone with your LO as that's your Job! Being a protective mother of a baby is normal - Alex isn't 12yrs old... I think it's sad how parenting today means having a break and leaving LO whenever you can with whoever! I think it's normal to want to be with your baby all the time... And not spend every 5mins with others. Hes your baby not sils or godmothers... Do they have children??

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Mar 26th, 2012, 04:07 AM	#6
Ozzieshunni Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 19,286	SIL has children and child minds for another baby. She's never been pushy about it and I love Alex going there because his cousin loves to play with him. His godmother couldn't have children, but she raised her husband's two children when his ex-wife passed away.

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Mar 26th, 2012, 04:37 AM	#7
sam1984 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2011 Posts: 631	my 5 year old has been away from both me and my hubby for 2 nights. the first time when i had my 2year old and my mum stayed in my house with her and the second time was in november when i had our son and she stayed at a good friends. i was ill the beginning of last year and my dh rushed me to hospital and my 2year olds godmother watched them for a couple of hours as they were asleep while my mum came up and between her and my hubby they had them and even though they visited twice a day i hated it. my mum wants to have them down south for a week in the holidays but afraid not, the are my kids and they will be with me

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Mar 26th, 2012, 04:37 AM	#8
Belie Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: New Zealand Posts: 381	You're not unreasonable or untrusting, really they shouldn't just assume such things when clearly there is an explanation behind why you don't leave your LO with just anyone. Honestly, I wouldn't either.. but I know for me it'd be because I'll be way too attached to LO and I can see myself getting jealous and I really don't trust others either.

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Mar 26th, 2012, 04:38 AM	#9
mummyruston Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Posts: 1,189	Maybe your sil understands that mother baby bOnd then? I dOnt know the godmother but as she hasn't had a baby, BFd a baby and had that connection she might not understand?

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Mar 26th, 2012, 04:39 AM	#10
Bex84 Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: England Posts: 1,584	your not being unreasonable. My LO is 8 months old and I have never left her with anyone including my husband (I trust DH 100%) I just dont want to be away from LO. My MIL has been going on about looking after LO, she is down on list of those I dont trust due to stuff she did when DH was younger such as dropping him quite a few times and losing him lots. I am in no way ready to be away from LO, and I wont be anytime soon. people seem obsessed with the fact that you want to be away from your baby, I have to say even before I had LO I was not outgoing and would rather be at home and spending time with DH, my DH still goes out but that was never me and to be honest I dont think I ever want to leave LO over night. My LO cant even play on the floor at either mine or DHs parents due to not being safe lol so how either think they can look after LO I dont know. I really dont think you come across as untrusting at all

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