I want to add...I'm usually not for never seeing a family member again, but IMO this is MUCH different. Can you talk to your DH about not seeing her anymore?

You said that you have some issues with her husband. Is he messed up as well?

Oooh just reading that makes me think of The Hand That Rocks the Cradle.

Too much, I would be staying away.

V xxx

I know others have said they don't see much wrong with it but if it were me if be totally creeped out by it.

Wanting skin to skin contact with someone elses baby and wanting to take that baby to bed with you for a nap is just plain odd. Whether she craves that mother baby bond or not you don't go placing someone else's baby's hand on your breast and down your top, that is just so inappropriate and could also confuse your lo.

I can't ever imagine a situation where those things would be ok for anyone to do other than the mum and dad.

Trust your instincts and keep that close bond for you and your oh. If you can find a way to say no next time then do. If she tries to cuddle her in too close and your lo starts crying I'd just nicely take lo off of her and hold lo in a way she does like and say 'there we go, that's better isn't it', then you can always hand her back and say 'there, if you keep her in that position she won't cry'.

If she keeps trying to get her in the 'feeding' position and upsetting lo then I'd have to stop letting her hold her until she realises. I wouldn't have my lo upset unnessessarily.

Good luck!

X

I agree with v2007, it totally reminds me of 'The Hand That Rocks The Cradle'!

Very creepy.

X

Sounds odd, but I think she sounds lonely and brood and probably wishes she had a baby/ family of her own

Didn't read all of the replies, but reading that creeped ME out.

Oh dear lord... I actually shuddered and cringed reading that... I'm sorry but that's too creepy and I would be terribly uncomfortable with that.. Just because she has missed out on that bond doesn't mean it's ok.. That's not your fault (problem) and its no excuse to put u in awkward situations.
It sounds to me like she would absolutely try to get lo to suckle if she got the chance, she is almost grooming baby towards her boobs!! It's so wrong on so many levels and I would NOT let it continue!! If any of my family members hold my lo and she starts crying for whatever reason I take her back, I don't care what anyone says or thinks she is crying because she is unhappy with the situation and wants to feel safe.
As another lady has said your mothers instinct is there for a reason and mine would be going into overdrive in this situation and you should stop it before it gets to a much more sinister place... Sorry if anyone thinks in harsh or dramatic but that's what I think!!
Hand that rocks the cradle absolutely!!!

WSS.... I totally agree with MummytoSummer! That REALLY creeped me out! Putting the babies hand down her shirt, did I really read that right? And some people think this is normal? It certainly is not. I agree with everything MummytoSummer said.

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I am pretty tolerant of people, but reading this creaped me out. It is WAY too much, I really feel for you because it is a very uncomfortable situation for you to be in. Like a pp said, we have mothers instinct for a reason so if you don't feel right about something, then its not right. In her defence, I don't think she means anything sinister in her actions, I think she is just a lonely woman, desperate to feel that mother/baby bond, but that doesn't mean its ok to use your LO to fulfil these needs.

That wouldnt really sit well.with.me either hun, those actions arnt exactly normal I find it quite odd.