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Old Mar 30th, 2012, 16:06 PM   1
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scared to drive all of a sudden


I've been dealing with a bit of anxiety since giving birth...nothing major but more like I am completely overprotective and cautious/scared to the point where it is literally uncomfortable for me to drive, for a fear an accident (probably more so just fear of something I cannot control). It's like stuff I used to do with no problem, suddenly I am having anxiety over. I know it is because I love my baby so much and I am just trying to be careful, but I feel like my "fight or flight" response has gone into overdrive and I'm just scared of everything.

Problem is we have a road trip coming up. Me, FOB, my father and LO and it's supposed to be a great trip and we are all very excited about it and visiting lots of family along the way, but I can't stop thinking these awful thoughts My father will mostly be driving and I trust him completely, but I want to just relax and enjoy the trip, not think these bad thoughts. Is this normal after giving birth? Part of me thinks maybe this is my intuition telling me something bad is going to happen and that makes me even more terrified. But it's not just about the road trip - it's all the time lately. But I can't just sit at home and not live my life either



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What you are feeling is 110% normal. It's called being a Mom. We worry, and that worry never goes away. I too have been having a heightened fear of driving. So to help it a bit because I have no choice but to drive with LO is I am the one to get behind the wheel and not hubby or anyone else. It helps me feel like I have a bit of control as to what is happening. I still fret but not as badly.



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That is funny - I won't let FOB drive with us in the car either. I only let my dad because I feel he is a better driver than I am! I don't want to be a control freak but I am a little bit right now.



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You are aloud to be a control freak. You have a newborn. Nothing else matters but your LO.



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Old Mar 30th, 2012, 16:40 PM   5
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I just gotta figure out how to make it through this roadtrip now without constant panic attacks



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Old Mar 30th, 2012, 17:27 PM   6
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I think it's a totally normal feeling.

Ever since we had our first dd I've been so much more aware of the dangers of driving and being in a car. My oh used to do all the driving as I hadn't passed my test and although he's a fantastic driver and I trust him 100% I was such a nervous passenger.

Now I can drive and often have to drive myself and both my dd's about, I'm absolutely petrified. I can't help all these awful thoughts that come into my head. Itjust think how everything that I love so much is in the car and I'm the one in control. It scares me.

But as someone else said I think it's called being a mum!

My parents often take my eldest out for a couple of hours and I panic when I know they're going out in the car, even though again i trust them totally, I can't help but think of what could happen.

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Old Mar 30th, 2012, 17:40 PM   7
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I've been dealing with a bit of anxiety since giving birth...nothing major but more like I am completely overprotective and cautious/scared to the point where it is literally uncomfortable for me to drive, for a fear an accident (probably more so just fear of something I cannot control). It's like stuff I used to do with no problem, suddenly I am having anxiety over. I know it is because I love my baby so much and I am just trying to be careful, but I feel like my "fight or flight" response has gone into overdrive and I'm just scared of everything.

Problem is we have a road trip coming up. Me, FOB, my father and LO and it's supposed to be a great trip and we are all very excited about it and visiting lots of family along the way, but I can't stop thinking these awful thoughts My father will mostly be driving and I trust him completely, but I want to just relax and enjoy the trip, not think these bad thoughts. Is this normal after giving birth? Part of me thinks maybe this is my intuition telling me something bad is going to happen and that makes me even more terrified. But it's not just about the road trip - it's all the time lately. But I can't just sit at home and not live my life either
Cognitive behavioral therapy can help with your anxiety re. driving. I'm sorry you're having these anxious thoughts. It can sometimes be difficult to overcome without help. JMO



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