Please help - waking in the night 8mos and I'm going mad : ( - Page 2

Ozzieshunni · Mar 31st, 2012, 06:52 AM

Alex still wakes about twice at night. You're right about the cosleeping as they get older! He likes to kick me in the stomach

. Is she teething at all? It might be that she's waking in pain or just waking because she's scared she's alone. If it's the alone bit, I don't know if going into her own room will solve anything. I know around eight months separation anxiety can set in. Alex woke more frequently with that. It's wearing off now though.

MrsPOP · Mar 31st, 2012, 07:09 AM

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Originally Posted by purapura

Mmmm, maybe she has too much sleep during day? Not enough naps? Hungry? Does she cries when waking up? What if you just sit with her in your arms untill she is totally asleep and then put her to cot?

She's definately not hungry. She has 2 naps of a day which can be 30-60 minutes each.

She cries when she wakes up and if I sit with her in my arms till she is asleep and put her back in the cot she immediately cries and won't go back to sleep.

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Originally Posted by Ozzieshunni

Alex still wakes about twice at night. You're right about the cosleeping as they get older! He likes to kick me in the stomach

. Is she teething at all? It might be that she's waking in pain or just waking because she's scared she's alone. If it's the alone bit, I don't know if going into her own room will solve anything. I know around eight months separation anxiety can set in. Alex woke more frequently with that. It's wearing off now though.

I don't think she is teething no. I don't think SA has hit her she isn't bothered when I'm not in the room (

).

I personally feel that we are disturbing her when she is asleep even though we are so quiet and also she is used to coming into the bed. And of course that isn't her fault because that's all she knows. We need to figure out a way of calming her down and settle in her cot in the middle of the night.

NewMummyx · Mar 31st, 2012, 08:28 AM

i would keep trying with shush/pat hun, it took 2 weeks to kick in for us but totally worth it!

Why is you OH against her in her own room? My LO slept so much better in his own room x

MrsPOP · Mar 31st, 2012, 08:43 AM

He says he will miss her and I will too of course but the quality of the sleep we're getting isnt good enough.

Plus I'm not ashamed to say I miss cuddling my husband in bed. We don't do anything without LO, both our lives revolve around her and caring for my ill mum so we don't have any help and don't get much chance to just be me and him IYKWIM?

If we had a bigger bed I think we would co-sleep for ages as we do love snuggling with her.

Ozzieshunni · Mar 31st, 2012, 09:03 AM

Do you think he's worried because of her heart? I know that has really put me off having Alex in his own room.

NewMummyx · Mar 31st, 2012, 09:24 AM

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Originally Posted by MrsPOP

He says he will miss her and I will too of course but the quality of the sleep we're getting isnt good enough.

Plus I'm not ashamed to say I miss cuddling my husband in bed. We don't do anything without LO, both our lives revolve around her and caring for my ill mum so we don't have any help and don't get much chance to just be me and him IYKWIM?

If we had a bigger bed I think we would co-sleep for ages as we do love snuggling with her.

I completely understand what you mean, i have no one to give me a break, my mum has relapsed onto drink after a detox my dad is dead... its hard. There's no shame in wanting to be just YOU for a while and not just "mum". Tell your OH she will be in the next room, she isnt going off to uni yet

Something is going to break if you continue with barely any sleep iykwm, give it a go, you can always move her back in with you

MrsPOP · Mar 31st, 2012, 11:24 AM

I don't know Ozzie, she's not even fazed her heart at all (yay!) and he's not a worrier anyway (that's me). He just loves her to pieces I think

I've taken it upon myself this afternoon to sort out her room, lower her behemoth cotbed in there (she's in a cheapie IKEA cot in our room right now) all by myself instead of waiting for him to do it. I've asked him to for ages but he hasn't done it so I dug out the screwdriver and did it myself

I don't need no man!

Tell you what though doing that and lugging round her chest of draws etc has made
Me realise I have no core strength anymore

bloody c section

New mummy you are totally right, something will break soon.

In good news she managed to nap in her cot both naps this afternoon which is great and she's now cruising around her cotbed getting used to it whilst I collapse in a heap

Ozzieshunni · Mar 31st, 2012, 11:33 AM

Guys sometimes keep that stuff buried inside.

I know my DH does.

I hope she does well in her own room!

patch2006uk · Mar 31st, 2012, 13:44 PM

There's an 8 month regression she might be going through, too. My LO was dreadful around the 8-10 month mark, but since then his sleep has just got better and better. Hopefully this is the start of some improvement for you guys. Sleep dep is the worst!

MrsPOP · Mar 31st, 2012, 14:34 PM

Yeah I thought it might be the dreaded regression

Well she is fast asleep in her own room now! She was exhausted but fought going to sleep for about 10 mins.

DH looks like he needs counselling to get over this, I feel like a massive weight is off my shoulders!

Mar 31st, 2012, 06:52 AM	#11
Ozzieshunni Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 19,288	Alex still wakes about twice at night. You're right about the cosleeping as they get older! He likes to kick me in the stomach . Is she teething at all? It might be that she's waking in pain or just waking because she's scared she's alone. If it's the alone bit, I don't know if going into her own room will solve anything. I know around eight months separation anxiety can set in. Alex woke more frequently with that. It's wearing off now though.

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NewMummyx Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Glasgow x Posts: 2,686	i would keep trying with shush/pat hun, it took 2 weeks to kick in for us but totally worth it! Why is you OH against her in her own room? My LO slept so much better in his own room x

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Mar 31st, 2012, 08:43 AM	#14
MrsPOP Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2010 Posts: 8,950	He says he will miss her and I will too of course but the quality of the sleep we're getting isnt good enough. Plus I'm not ashamed to say I miss cuddling my husband in bed. We don't do anything without LO, both our lives revolve around her and caring for my ill mum so we don't have any help and don't get much chance to just be me and him IYKWIM? If we had a bigger bed I think we would co-sleep for ages as we do love snuggling with her.

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Mar 31st, 2012, 09:03 AM	#15
Ozzieshunni Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 19,288	Do you think he's worried because of her heart? I know that has really put me off having Alex in his own room.

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Mar 31st, 2012, 11:24 AM	#17
MrsPOP Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2010 Posts: 8,950	I don't know Ozzie, she's not even fazed her heart at all (yay!) and he's not a worrier anyway (that's me). He just loves her to pieces I think I've taken it upon myself this afternoon to sort out her room, lower her behemoth cotbed in there (she's in a cheapie IKEA cot in our room right now) all by myself instead of waiting for him to do it. I've asked him to for ages but he hasn't done it so I dug out the screwdriver and did it myself I don't need no man! Tell you what though doing that and lugging round her chest of draws etc has made Me realise I have no core strength anymore bloody c section New mummy you are totally right, something will break soon. In good news she managed to nap in her cot both naps this afternoon which is great and she's now cruising around her cotbed getting used to it whilst I collapse in a heap

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Ozzieshunni Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 19,288	Guys sometimes keep that stuff buried inside. I know my DH does. I hope she does well in her own room!

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patch2006uk Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: West Mids, UK Posts: 5,277	There's an 8 month regression she might be going through, too. My LO was dreadful around the 8-10 month mark, but since then his sleep has just got better and better. Hopefully this is the start of some improvement for you guys. Sleep dep is the worst!

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MrsPOP Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2010 Posts: 8,950	Yeah I thought it might be the dreaded regression Well she is fast asleep in her own room now! She was exhausted but fought going to sleep for about 10 mins. DH looks like he needs counselling to get over this, I feel like a massive weight is off my shoulders!

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