No-Cry solution is NOT working!

Palestrina · Apr 3rd, 2012, 10:14 AM

We are trying various methods of No-Cry sleep solutions and they are not working for us. We are doing the nightly routine, putting him in his crib and the screaming starts. No amount of shushing, patting, or consoling works. I sit right next to him for what feels like hours and he won't stop crying unless I actually pick him up. But even after consoling him as soon as he goes in the crib it's back to crying.

I'm at my wits end!

milf2be · Apr 3rd, 2012, 11:02 AM

how long have you been doing it for? sometimes it can take a while.

im probably going to get shot for saying this, but have you tried CC?

IMO all the patting, shushing etc can just be overstimulating for some babies. i read in my magazine the other day a 'sleep expert' write "how would you like it if you were tossing and turning to get to sleep and someone kept patting your back or keep walking in and out every couple of minutes, some babies just moan to get to sleep" and iv got to say she has a point.

with LO we do our bed time routine and put him to bed. on the rare occasions he starts crying we pick him up (if its proper crying and not moaning) and give him the rest of the bottle if there is still some left, if not i just pick him up, calm him down and then put him back down. we never have to do anymore than that.

good luck x

feedindy · Apr 3rd, 2012, 11:06 AM

I agree with the PP. Maybe put him down and leave the room for a few minutes to see if he settles without you there?

Palestrina · Apr 3rd, 2012, 11:12 AM

I WISH he was just moaning. It's full on gut wrenching screaming. I've let it go on for about 9 or 10 minutes maximum but it doesn't lessen, it just keeps going on and on and I worry for his safety when he is going on like that. I don't like CIO, I expect there to be some resistance but full-throttle crying is too much for me to handle.

feedindy · Apr 3rd, 2012, 11:17 AM

Is he laying there crying, or crawling around while crying? It is so hard finding out what they want sometimes isn't it?

fifi-folle · Apr 3rd, 2012, 12:00 PM

have you tried cosleeping (safely)? Can you feed him to sleep and then put him down? Are you putting him in his crib when he's rubbing his eyes etc?

Palestrina · Apr 3rd, 2012, 12:38 PM

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Originally Posted by fifi-folle

have you tried cosleeping (safely)? Can you feed him to sleep and then put him down? Are you putting him in his crib when he's rubbing his eyes etc?

We end up cosleeping which used to be fine because we all got sleep this way. But now he crawls around so much and I'm afraid to even run to the bathroom for fear that he'll fall out of the bed. I naturally can't sleep past 7am so rather than risk leaving him alone in the bed I take him with me and he sleeps the rest of the morning in the swing. It's not ideal.

He's sleepy and drowsy, often asleep when I put him down but he jolts awake and screams the house down when he gets near his crib. Sometimes he lays there screaming, other times he stands up.

fifi-folle · Apr 3rd, 2012, 12:50 PM

Hugs x
We're lucky that DS isn't crawling yet. I'm looking at getting bed sides for our bed for when he does, although I have also thought about sidecar-ing his cotbed but to get it out the nursery we need to either take it apart or take the bedroom doors off, d'oh!

laurahilder · Apr 3rd, 2012, 13:04 PM

I have this with my LO. He went through a phase of going to sleep on me, then when I went to put him in his cot he would wake up again and start screaming. I had to do this about 10-15 times before he would stay asleep. It drove me mad as it was 2-3am before he actually stayed down.

He's now got into a habit of waking up screaming like he's being murdered at 3am every morning. He's been doing this for the last 2 months and I have no idea what to do. Someone said it was him having nightmares where his imaginations growing and I should let him 'scream it out' with minimal contact. Has anyone else had this? It seems a bit harsh and I've not heard of it before. I didn't know if anyone had tried it and if it had worked? I am out of ideas of what it could be and am willing to try anything if it helps him to sleep (and me!)

lozzy21 · Apr 3rd, 2012, 13:46 PM

I'd never leave Niamh to cry on her own but there have been a few occasions where i have had to just sit by her cot and let her scream because nothing works. She has eventually stoped crying and went to sleep.

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milf2be Active BnB Member Mum and WTT#2 Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: birmingham Country: Posts: 1,842 Thanked others: 672 Thanked 698 times in 500 posts Currently Feeling:	how long have you been doing it for? sometimes it can take a while. im probably going to get shot for saying this, but have you tried CC? IMO all the patting, shushing etc can just be overstimulating for some babies. i read in my magazine the other day a 'sleep expert' write "how would you like it if you were tossing and turning to get to sleep and someone kept patting your back or keep walking in and out every couple of minutes, some babies just moan to get to sleep" and iv got to say she has a point. with LO we do our bed time routine and put him to bed. on the rare occasions he starts crying we pick him up (if its proper crying and not moaning) and give him the rest of the bottle if there is still some left, if not i just pick him up, calm him down and then put him back down. we never have to do anymore than that. good luck x __________________
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