Well I have my doctors appointment this afternoon for my yearly checkup and I'm really nervous about it. Not cause for the checkup itself but I plan on bringing up to my doctor about the issues have been having about my LO's birth. I have been really struggling to come to terms with it. And so I thought would ask her to view my records and for a referal to a therapist.
I'm really nervous about it mainly because I don't want them to think bad of me I really do work hard on being the best mother that I can be. But at the same time I feel like I haven't been able to fully enjoy the experience because I always have the memories hanging over me. I don't want them to think that I don't love my daughter because I do. She means the world to me. And worse off I don't want them to think that I would ever do something to her because I wouldn't
How should I bring something up like this so they don't get suspicious of me? I don't want them to take my LO away from me because my issues aren't to that extreme. I have just come to the realization that I need some help getting past this. I have tried for over 5 months now to do it on my own and have failed
Any ideas of how to handle this would really be greatly appreciated. Especially from others who have been in same situation as I have.
I'm a doctor..in the uk though, so a bit different. I would just say it how it is, I appreciate honesty from my patients and them telling me what the main issues are, as well as what they think I can do for them.
From what you've said the thought of taking your lo away etc, wouldn't have even crossed my mind. It sounds like you've got post traumatic stress disorder, which is something all doctors should know about and have compassion for.
Advice for the actual discussion, try not to get angry even if you are (as the natural response is defensive) and try not to get too upset so you can get your point across without missing stuff. Would it help to write down what you're going to say? Maybe even just a few key words so you can remember what you're going to say?
Good luck, and I hope that you find the thought of this conversation more worrying than the reality, as your doctor should have come across situations similar to this and be adept at dealing with them.
Ah hun, there is no reason they should be suspecious of you as a parent because you are struggling with issues. We ALL have things from time to time that we may need outside help with... if only to help us work through it all. We can't always do it all on our own- and admitting you need some help takes a lot of strength.
Out of curiosity- do you NEED a referral to a therapist? With my insurance, we have coverage, so I just need to find one in my area (who takes my insurance) and I can make the appt on my own. If your nervous about talking to your doctor about all this- see what you can do outside of your appt maybe? If you do need the referral, then just say you have some personal things you'd like help working through- and if they push, which they shouldn't- then only say what you are comfy with. If you trust your doctor and feel comfortable telling her what's going on- there shouldn't be any reason for them to be alarmed. You are a good parent. And truly, can only be a better one once this weight is lifted off your shoulders.
A happy Mom= happy baby... and family. So do what is best for you and in turn that will be what's best for your LO.
Thank you for the tips everyone. I guess I am worrying over nothing. I just get very weary with these things. I just don't want her to get the wrong idea about this.
seoj my insurance doesn't require a referal but I'm asking for a referal because I've had some trouble finding someone who could help me with this. Everything that I keep finding is for differant issues than mine. So hoping that doctor will know of some names that I could try. I figured she would be the best avenue.
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