I live with my MIL and I feel the same. She's always trying to take my LO from me and sometimes it seems like LO like his grandma more than me which makes me upset. Once he was in my arms and MIL came into my room, my LO started to laugh and jump out of my arms into hers! I was devasted.
Other times I think he wants me more especially at night since we co-sleep. We should also be moving out soon and I am also thinking like you that a mothers bond should be the strongest.
Also, my mum told me when I was little I used to always go to other relatives more than my mum and then later when I got older my mummy was the favourite. So it could just be because our LO are so young they go to whoever is making the funny faces and making them laugh.
Obviously it does upset you in the meantime, but atleast your moving out soon.
at times with me back at work i have said jesse sees my mum sometimes mor ethan he sees me! this isnt the case now my shift requests have been granted and now he isnt as clingy to my mum, but he does love her and my dad to bits. we popped round yesterday before shopping to give him is tea en-route and as soon as we got there he stopped his moany noises and was sat playing with my mum and his toys quietly. my mum said he could stay whilst went shoppng as he was happy where he was. love that he loves them so much. there have been tmes when have felt a bit jealous. but really its a good thing he loves them and being with them, i know he loves me, he always wants his mummys cuddles now< when maybe even a month or two agan t was always nana. although nana still hs most used word! he says muma only when hes crying. thats my little way of knowing he loves his mummy!
(sorry if its hard to read! alot of my laptop keys are sticking!!!)
A few years ago I was working as a live in nanny for a little girl. Me & her mum became amazing friends (both English speaking in a foreign country) but she admitted that she sometimes felt sad seeing me & Emma cuddled up on the sofa as Emma wasn't really a cuddly child and didn't do that with her mum. I pointed out that I was just a novelty which is exactly the same as what your mum is.
You're the one catering to all of his needs & providing him with stability. I was (and your mum is) the little bit of extra excitement. You know how they say kids are always far better behaved for other people than they are for their parents, that's all it is!
You will be the lifelong reliable one in his life and that's amazing! Even now years later whenever I see Emma she acts as if I'm the only person in the world for those few moments. However her Mum gets to be with her all the time and influence her life.
I personally am looking forward to be the constant person in my babies life now like you are rather than just the novelty.
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