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Old Apr 5th, 2012, 10:11 AM   #1
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Those that still live with parents or inlaws?


There probably isn't that many of you still living with your parents or your inlaws. But for those that do how do you live with them. I mean who looks after your LO and how long do they take your LO for? No matter where I go in my inlaws house I got either the MIL or FIL wanting to take my LO. It's like they got nothing else in their lives its irritating.


 
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Old Apr 5th, 2012, 10:57 AM   #2
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My situation isnt exactly the same but FIL and BIL live with OH and I. FIL got divorced and lost his job in the same month, and BIL wanted to go to university (where we live its really hard to live alone and go to uni because of housing costs).

Anyways, I look after LO 24/7, I DO NOT let anyone take care of my child other than OH. When I go and visit my parents though my mom/dad are immediately getting LO from me and spending time with her. However, I only spend 4-5 hours a week there at most. Otherwise I spend the rest at home with OH.

I wouldnt tolerate FIL/BIL taking LO from me and trying to 'parent' her. Luckily however, they are both very immature standoffish people who prefer to be left alone and want nothing to do with anybody else...

Which is sad because LO knows they are around all the time and smiles at them and they wont interact with her.

....inlaws - can wait to get rid of em!!! (at least live in seperate houses)


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Old Apr 5th, 2012, 11:19 AM   #3
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my and oh go between our parents houses, at in laws house there is the three of us, mil, her boyfriend, his son and bil, everybodys usually at work during the day or go out (most nights too) except bil but he usually keeps himslef to himself unless i've got something to do in the house and ask him to watch lo for 2 mins, at my house its only the three of us, my mum and her boyfriend. my mum only takes lo when i've got something to do/not feeling good. i make sure i do most things as i dont want lo thinking i'm passing her on to other people all the time, if mil wants to feed her etc i agree but only bcoz she works most of the time and even though we live in the same house she hardly gets to spend time with lo, its nice having people around though when we're struggling instead of being in a house on our own all the time


 
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Old Apr 5th, 2012, 11:40 AM   #4
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We live on one floor of my in-laws' house. MIL comes in regularly to see LO but I don't let her 'parent' her. I try to keep my distance as much as possible because I think it can get confusing for kids if there are too many people trying to be parents. It's hard getting people to understand boundaries. I do everything myself for LO with the help of DH and will only occasionally ask SIL to watch LO for a couple of minutes if it's really necessary.


 
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Old Apr 5th, 2012, 12:51 PM   #5
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I have lived in my mums for the last month (hopefully getting new flat in the next month) an there is my mum, my 2 sisters and my brother (stays here 1/2 the time) who are here also. Paige is a bit older than your LO so it probably isnt exactly the same, as I lived in a flat with just her and her daddy when she was little.
My mum and big sister both work as teachers, and my little sister works part time and is away 4 days or so, therefore Im in alone with Paige most days. (her dad has her 2 full days a week too).
I get up with her in the morning and do all the general care, and even in the evenings when the rest of the family are in, I provide the care for Paige. Nobody offers to do it, but I know they would if I asked. They just leave me to it as if theyre not even there! My mum will play with her for 15 minutes or so here and there, and my big sister sometimes takes her into her room and reads for 15 minutes etc, but they dont look after her as such. Paige runs around anyway and if she wants to have a babble with them then they will talk back and have a giggle with her, but generally they respect that I am her mum and I make the decisions etc
I went out last weekend (only the 3rd time since shes been born!) for dinner and to the pub hehe, and my mum got up with Paige the next morning and changed her/gave her breakfast... Although Paige came in and woke me up at 7.30am, doh!


 
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Old Apr 5th, 2012, 14:17 PM   #6
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I'm staying with my inlaws temporarily, step-MIL works long hours but she likes to take Maria out for a walk in the evenings when she gets back and FIL is home all day so he spends a lot of time playing with Maria. Its only temporary so I don't mind but she does seem to prefer him to me now! She actually cried today when he handed her over to me and left the room after he had been looking after her for a few hours while I was cleaning my new flat


 
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Old Apr 5th, 2012, 14:21 PM   #7
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Forgot to add that Paige doesnt like me leaving her with anyone... I have to sneak away! Then if she sees me, she has to get me... or else she cries! My sister often gets annoyed because she wont stay with her for longer than 15 minutes!


 
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Old Apr 6th, 2012, 11:21 AM   #8
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Quote:
Originally Posted by MrsMurphy2Be View Post
Forgot to add that Paige doesnt like me leaving her with anyone... I have to sneak away! Then if she sees me, she has to get me... or else she cries! My sister often gets annoyed because she wont stay with her for longer than 15 minutes!
When did you notice that she had the strongest bond with you? At what age?


 
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Old Apr 6th, 2012, 11:45 AM   #9
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Our situation is everyone living with us! Our house, but we couldn't tell people to go live on the streets, so we have my MIL, BIL, and my little sister all living here. Oy.

I want to move someplace smaller so we can tell them all to go away sometimes.

But I don't let anyone else parent. I've let my sister (who I trust!) take her for 2 hours once, so I could get some sleep. Otherwise, I watch her.


 
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Old Apr 6th, 2012, 11:57 AM   #10
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We moved in with my Mum when i was pregnant as our flat was only 1 bed so wanted to save and pay off debts etc and we are still here.

We have seperate living areas and LO has his own nursery etc so we are rarely in the same room as each other tbh and my Mum doesnt really have LO much unless i ask her and even then its rarely for more than 15 minutes!


 
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