really cant be bothered with sex!

Lozzy_Loo · Apr 6th, 2012, 02:03 AM

Please tell me im not alone?

Me and OH struggle to dtd even once a week and when we do, its always him having to make the first moves and pretty much do everything.
I really don't like this but the fact is, i think i could happily live without it.
I hate saying that because its so not like me at all, but the only time we can really dtd is after 6pm when LO is in bed. Oh is a chef and works most nights till past 11pm so then im in bed.

I just always have LO on my mind and find it really hard to get in the mood.
I've told OH all of this but i feel paranoid he's going to want it somewhere else

tudorgirl1536 · Apr 6th, 2012, 02:24 AM

awww hun i no how you feel im 8 months pregnant with my first baby im due 21st of may and my sex drive has gone tottally i just cant be asked and then when i make an effort and try all i can think is im hurting my baby squashing him or summit silly i no but it puts me not in the mood : / i feel bad like i cant please my boyfreind and get paranoid too but he always reassures me so that helps a little

Audraia · Apr 6th, 2012, 02:24 AM

I feel the same way! I'm always thinking about Autumn and it makes me not in the mood to do anything! I wasn't the most intimate girl before her, now I'm not at all...I'm just so focused on her all the time!

Lozzy_Loo · Apr 6th, 2012, 02:26 AM

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Originally Posted by tudorgirl1536

awww hun i no how you feel im 8 months pregnant with my first baby im due 21st of may and my sex drive has gone tottally i just cant be asked and then when i make an effort and try all i can think is im hurting my baby squashing him or summit silly i no but it puts me not in the mood : / i feel bad like i cant please my boyfreind and get paranoid too but he always reassures me so that helps a little

hey my OH used to say the same when i was pregnant, but now i feel like i've not really got a reason why i don't want to dtd.

MrsHedgehog · Apr 6th, 2012, 03:12 AM

OH and I haven't DTD since before LO was born so over 6 months ago! We co-sleep so it's kind of hard and TBH I'm never in the mood anyway. Like a PP said, my mind is always on LO so I'm never in the mood. She's the best form of contraception!

NewMummyx · Apr 6th, 2012, 03:54 AM

Its hard to get in the mood when you are exhausted, men dont get it!

Sometimes tho i DTD and by the time we've gotten into it i feel more "into it" myself iykwim?

Lozzy_Loo · Apr 6th, 2012, 04:57 AM

i know what you mean x
Im so annoyed with OH, hes working literally ALL weekend so wont see us at all, hes still in bed when we could have gone out until hes at work at 3, but instead he shouted at me saying in crap and make no effort. So i said well go somewhere else then!

I feel like i don't even like him sometimes ( most of the time! )

plastic · Apr 6th, 2012, 05:04 AM

I think it's totally understandable! I was like it after my daughter, and just couldn't for the life of me find any excitement or interest in sex.

I think communication is the key, make sure your OH knows EXACTLY what's going on with you and don't do what I did which was make rejecting my OH a habit! It did terrible things for both of our self esteem's and it took about 6 years for our sec life to get back on track

cat lover · Apr 6th, 2012, 06:11 AM

Me too! But once I get into it, its OK.

1stimemomma · Apr 6th, 2012, 07:01 AM

GRRRRR!!!!!!!! Im not even three weeks out so we cant dtd and so he asks for bj's and at the WORST times ever!!! First of all I really don't like being asked, if im in the mood I'll be more than happy but he done even try to work me up. Ill come in with our son RIGHT after feeding before I get LO to sleep in his bassenet and he gets mad when he cries because "poor" OH has to work in the morning and needs his bi so he can relieve all his stress so he can go to bed. So he gets pissy and asks whats LG's problem and to make him quiet. And thats bout the time I want to tell him to go F**K himself!!!! Stupid jerkface guys!!!

Apr 6th, 2012, 02:03 AM	#1
Lozzy_Loo Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Derby Posts: 3,607	really cant be bothered with sex! Please tell me im not alone? Me and OH struggle to dtd even once a week and when we do, its always him having to make the first moves and pretty much do everything. I really don't like this but the fact is, i think i could happily live without it. I hate saying that because its so not like me at all, but the only time we can really dtd is after 6pm when LO is in bed. Oh is a chef and works most nights till past 11pm so then im in bed. I just always have LO on my mind and find it really hard to get in the mood. I've told OH all of this but i feel paranoid he's going to want it somewhere else

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Apr 6th, 2012, 02:24 AM	#2
tudorgirl1536 Pregnant (Expecting) New BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Posts: 8	awww hun i no how you feel im 8 months pregnant with my first baby im due 21st of may and my sex drive has gone tottally i just cant be asked and then when i make an effort and try all i can think is im hurting my baby squashing him or summit silly i no but it puts me not in the mood : / i feel bad like i cant please my boyfreind and get paranoid too but he always reassures me so that helps a little

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Apr 6th, 2012, 02:24 AM	#3
Audraia Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Clarksburg, WV Posts: 1,174	I feel the same way! I'm always thinking about Autumn and it makes me not in the mood to do anything! I wasn't the most intimate girl before her, now I'm not at all...I'm just so focused on her all the time!

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Apr 6th, 2012, 03:12 AM	#5
MrsHedgehog Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Italy but from UK Posts: 1,730	OH and I haven't DTD since before LO was born so over 6 months ago! We co-sleep so it's kind of hard and TBH I'm never in the mood anyway. Like a PP said, my mind is always on LO so I'm never in the mood. She's the best form of contraception!

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Apr 6th, 2012, 03:54 AM	#6
NewMummyx Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Glasgow x Posts: 2,686	Its hard to get in the mood when you are exhausted, men dont get it! Sometimes tho i DTD and by the time we've gotten into it i feel more "into it" myself iykwim?

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Apr 6th, 2012, 04:57 AM	#7
Lozzy_Loo Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Derby Posts: 3,607	i know what you mean x Im so annoyed with OH, hes working literally ALL weekend so wont see us at all, hes still in bed when we could have gone out until hes at work at 3, but instead he shouted at me saying in crap and make no effort. So i said well go somewhere else then! I feel like i don't even like him sometimes ( most of the time! )

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Apr 6th, 2012, 05:04 AM	#8
plastic Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Posts: 978	I think it's totally understandable! I was like it after my daughter, and just couldn't for the life of me find any excitement or interest in sex. I think communication is the key, make sure your OH knows EXACTLY what's going on with you and don't do what I did which was make rejecting my OH a habit! It did terrible things for both of our self esteem's and it took about 6 years for our sec life to get back on track

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Apr 6th, 2012, 06:11 AM	#9
cat lover Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: London Posts: 2,028	Me too! But once I get into it, its OK.

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Apr 6th, 2012, 07:01 AM	#10
1stimemomma Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Posts: 325	GRRRRR!!!!!!!! Im not even three weeks out so we cant dtd and so he asks for bj's and at the WORST times ever!!! First of all I really don't like being asked, if im in the mood I'll be more than happy but he done even try to work me up. Ill come in with our son RIGHT after feeding before I get LO to sleep in his bassenet and he gets mad when he cries because "poor" OH has to work in the morning and needs his bi so he can relieve all his stress so he can go to bed. So he gets pissy and asks whats LG's problem and to make him quiet. And thats bout the time I want to tell him to go F**K himself!!!! Stupid jerkface guys!!!

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