Lo's now at spoilt brat phase :( when will it pass?

blondebabe · Apr 6th, 2012, 10:04 AM

I am currently very fed up with lo and this phase he is going through, we have never let him play with the fire or DVD player yet every day 100 times a day he has to touch it and press buttons I am fed up when I drag him away and say no he just goes back there crying then I take him away again and he throws himself on the floor (he's 10 months btw) and has a baby tantrum then runs back to the DVD player, I've tried smack bum and putting pillows there nothing works if he grabs the remote I take it off him and give him his light up one but he still gets cross and crys I don't know what to do anymore

Xx

Ozzieshunni · Apr 6th, 2012, 10:19 AM

They don't understand the concept of right and wrong at ten months, so a smacked bum is just pain to them.

Keep redirecting. It does pay off in the end.

Neko · Apr 6th, 2012, 10:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Ozzieshunni

Keep redirecting. It does pay off in the end.

When?? I can't redirect my 12 year old most of the time.

Can you rearrange things to put the DVD player up higher somewhere or in a cabinet he can't open? Buttons on electronics are very attractive to babies/toddlers, it's hard to keep them away. Either keep redirecting or find a way to move the object out of his reach.

Ozzieshunni · Apr 6th, 2012, 10:26 AM

Ten month olds are different than twelve year olds. Redirection is a tool that works for younger children.

ahcigar1 · Apr 6th, 2012, 10:29 AM

It is a very tough stage to get through. I agree with ozzie at only 10 months they don't understand right and wrong yet. So doing a smack on bum or hand is not going to do anything for them at that age. And I am someone who doesn't have an issue with a (light) smack on thier bum where diaper is. I wouldn't start that till minimum age 2. My best advice would be to continue what you are doing of redirecting the attention on something else. Also you can give them a 'no' in a short low firm voice. They won't understand the word per say but they will understand the tone. It is a very difficult time to get through. I hated the stage with my nieces and nephews. But they do pass, just takes a lot of patience and persistence. And if you get too stressed out put them in thier crib or play pen with a couple toys and leave them be for a few min and regroup yourself.

Neko · Apr 6th, 2012, 10:32 AM

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Originally Posted by Ozzieshunni

Ten month olds are different than twelve year olds. Redirection is a tool that works for younger children.

I do know that. That's why I smack him on the bum.

kidding. He's bigger than me.

Redirection works sometimes, not all the time. If I take something out of Avery's hands that she wants (like her brother's stuff he leaves around) and give her one of her toys. She screams, there's really no way to avoid the screaming in some children. My son I could redirect when he was younger. Her... not so much. She has a more determined personality.

I do my best to keep things out of her reach. The 2 upper shelves in the bookcase are full of everything I don't want her touching.

ahcigar1 · Apr 6th, 2012, 10:32 AM

Also wanted to add that when you tell them no be sure to talk to them sweet again when they are playing with something that they can play with right afterward. They will start to associate the player with something that isn't so pleasant and the toy that is ok with something they like.

Ozzieshunni · Apr 6th, 2012, 10:33 AM

I agree with Neko, lol! Not the smack bum bit.

We keep things out of reach. Alex screams too, but he gets over it. Just be firm and don't react.

Ozzieshunni · Apr 6th, 2012, 10:33 AM

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Originally Posted by ahcigar1

Also wanted to add that when you tell them no be sure to talk to them sweet again when they are playing with something that they can play with right afterward. They will start to associate the player with something that isn't so pleasant and the toy that is ok with something they like.

Totally agree with this too!

ahcigar1 · Apr 6th, 2012, 10:38 AM

Neko. You shouldn't have to move everything out of reach of your LO. They do need to learn right from wrong. Yes they will scream and cry at first but they get over it very quickly and you will get to a point that you won't be able to put everything out of thier reach because they will start climbing to get to them, then what will you do? Pack everything up? It is much better and easier to teach them from the start what they can and cannot play with. My aunt used to be a babysitter out of her own home she would ahve anywhere from 3-6 kids ageing from 2 months - 4 years old in her care at one time. Do you think she rearanged and packed everything up? no. She taught them from the beginning what was allowed and what wasn't. It did take some time and lots of persistence, and lots of crying, but they learned. And when they reached the age of 2 she started them on the time out chair. But before then she had to continue to redirect them to different things, something they could play with, or she would play with them herself.

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blondebabe Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Hampshire Posts: 1,626	Lo's now at spoilt brat phase :( when will it pass? I am currently very fed up with lo and this phase he is going through, we have never let him play with the fire or DVD player yet every day 100 times a day he has to touch it and press buttons I am fed up when I drag him away and say no he just goes back there crying then I take him away again and he throws himself on the floor (he's 10 months btw) and has a baby tantrum then runs back to the DVD player, I've tried smack bum and putting pillows there nothing works if he grabs the remote I take it off him and give him his light up one but he still gets cross and crys I don't know what to do anymore Xx

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Ozzieshunni Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 19,286	They don't understand the concept of right and wrong at ten months, so a smacked bum is just pain to them. Keep redirecting. It does pay off in the end.

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Ozzieshunni Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 19,286	Ten month olds are different than twelve year olds. Redirection is a tool that works for younger children.

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ahcigar1 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: California Posts: 5,680	It is a very tough stage to get through. I agree with ozzie at only 10 months they don't understand right and wrong yet. So doing a smack on bum or hand is not going to do anything for them at that age. And I am someone who doesn't have an issue with a (light) smack on thier bum where diaper is. I wouldn't start that till minimum age 2. My best advice would be to continue what you are doing of redirecting the attention on something else. Also you can give them a 'no' in a short low firm voice. They won't understand the word per say but they will understand the tone. It is a very difficult time to get through. I hated the stage with my nieces and nephews. But they do pass, just takes a lot of patience and persistence. And if you get too stressed out put them in thier crib or play pen with a couple toys and leave them be for a few min and regroup yourself.

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ahcigar1 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: California Posts: 5,680	Also wanted to add that when you tell them no be sure to talk to them sweet again when they are playing with something that they can play with right afterward. They will start to associate the player with something that isn't so pleasant and the toy that is ok with something they like.

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Ozzieshunni Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 19,286	I agree with Neko, lol! Not the smack bum bit. We keep things out of reach. Alex screams too, but he gets over it. Just be firm and don't react.

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Apr 6th, 2012, 10:38 AM	#10
ahcigar1 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: California Posts: 5,680	Neko. You shouldn't have to move everything out of reach of your LO. They do need to learn right from wrong. Yes they will scream and cry at first but they get over it very quickly and you will get to a point that you won't be able to put everything out of thier reach because they will start climbing to get to them, then what will you do? Pack everything up? It is much better and easier to teach them from the start what they can and cannot play with. My aunt used to be a babysitter out of her own home she would ahve anywhere from 3-6 kids ageing from 2 months - 4 years old in her care at one time. Do you think she rearanged and packed everything up? no. She taught them from the beginning what was allowed and what wasn't. It did take some time and lots of persistence, and lots of crying, but they learned. And when they reached the age of 2 she started them on the time out chair. But before then she had to continue to redirect them to different things, something they could play with, or she would play with them herself.

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