I know it has been a while since I have been on here....things have just been crazy. Now I have a different situation I am dealing with and I'm not sure why I am feeling this way. After I had my son back in October I had a post partum tubal ligation. Well now I'm really mad about it...it was my husbands idea at the time and I wanted to do what he wanted but now we are officially divorced and I'm only 23. Now I'm really upset that I got the tubal and been having dreams about being pregnant and I guess its just bc I am mad about the surgery and now I know I can't have anymore but I was fine with it before he divorced me so why do I feel differently now??

I've had a few friends that did this when they felt they were down having kids. They are both still married- but have for sure had moments of regret over it. I think it's normal hun. Even if you are 100% sure you don't want more kids, it's different when the option is no longer there (least from what my friends have told me).

For me, this was my first pregnancy (although I've been a Mom to my Step-daughter for almost 6yrs). And I wasn't ready to say 100% that I wouln't want more kids... but when LO was a newborn, I was actually regretting that I didn't get my tubes tied (as I had her via scheduled c-section, so it was an option). But then I went through a phase were I was glad we still had the option- even though conceiving her was a long road. But now, LOL, I'm kinda wishing I had again!!!! Geesh. Can we say I'm a bit crazy!?

I truly think it's normal to have some regret aftering making such a permanent decision. Especially since your still so young. I'm 38 now- so realistically, for me, having more children (especially since I have a very low egg reserve) may not even be an option- whether I decide I want it or not????

These feelings might just be passing... but if not, remind yourself there are many many ways to have children. And even though you were "fixed"- that doesn't necessarily mean it's not reversible. My hubby went through TWO reversals in our journey to conceive!

No matter what the future holds for you hun... you never know what may or may not happen, and just know- if it comes down to it- you do have options.

I'm surprised they even let you do it. My friend had 4 kids by the time she was 23 and asked for it, and they told her no because she was too young. They gave her the implant instead... She had another kid at 25 and then they let her.

In all honesty I'm wondering how you got a doctor to do this at such a young age. I don't know of a single doctor who would agree to this. And they don't do it due to this reason. The only time they will at such a young age is for medical purposes. But I'm sure there is a procedure to have it reversed.

They agreed to do it bc I have had for kids and two miscarriages and when I was pregnant with my second to last son I went in to labor at 28 weeks and had him at 35 weeks and with my youngest there was also an issue with premature labor but he was on time but I was so sick the whole time and had tons of contractions and it was just pure misery for me. The doctors in my medical group and my husband at the time were all Pushy about me getting it done since my Medicaid would pay for it but Medicaid would never pay for a reversal or anything. I guess it was just meant to be and hopefully this feeling will pass soon. I literally had back to back dreams all night last night about being pregnant and then I woke to and realized it was a dream, kind of disturbing

i don't know what to say
is tubal ligation different than getting your tubes tied?
I know that can be reversed.

i'm sorry love! feel better!

Tubal ligation is a more medical term for getting your tubes tied