To pacify or not to pacify.... That is my question!!

Jims_Girl · Apr 6th, 2012, 14:16 PM

I am well and truly in the "no dummy" camp.... It's just my personal view, I don't like them... Eldest daughter never had one....

BUT!!!!!

My 7 week old wants to suckle all the time.... Comfort feeding whenever we go out even though he's not hungry... Desperately trying to find his fingers and is instantly settled by sucking my finger when out (also not a fan but needs must!)

So I'm starting to think maybe this baby just needs to suck... So maybe a dummy would be right for him? At least I can keep a dummy clean, I can wean him off a dummy (my sister was still sucking her thumb at 16!!) and we can restrict a dummy use....

I'm so morally torn.... I really don't like dummies.... I would be scared that he would end up with a dummy in his mouth all day and night.... I know all our families would make several comments as nobody in both our families like them....

What are your views ladies?? Really not sure what to do on this one?! Help

(no offence intended to anyone

x)

Michelle773 · Apr 6th, 2012, 14:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Jims_Girl

At least I can keep a dummy clean, I can wean him off a dummy (my sister was still sucking her thumb at 16!!) and we can restrict a dummy use....

That's exactly the reason LO has a dummy - but she's only allowed it at naptime and bedtime.

ImmysMom · Apr 6th, 2012, 14:20 PM

Personally I didn't really want LO to have one, but like yours she comfort sucked a lot and so I eventually gave in and tried her with one hoping it would settle her...she wasn't interested one bit! Lol!

If your LO is soothed by it maybe you should try one...if he likes it then maybe you could only give it to him when it's inconvenient for him to comfort suck.

Blah11 · Apr 6th, 2012, 14:23 PM

pacify!

my dasughter didnt have one but my son is such a sucky baby that he does and its made my life so much easier than it was with my daughter and i dont need to feed him to sleep, hurrah! He doesnt have it in 24/7 and is happy without it during awake time and when hes playing with his toys/on his mat etc but when he gets tired or in the car when im not beside him or holding him, he likes his dummy.

bigbetty · Apr 6th, 2012, 14:32 PM

Hey love. I wasn't going to give Fran a dummy either but right from birth she sucked on her fingers and her chin got so sore where she drooled and her fingers rubbed. So we made the decision to give her a dummy - and I've never regretted it. She only has it when she's settling down to sleep or is upset, if she's awake and playing she's not allowed it.

It was only when I read through all of the information I got from the hospital that I found out giving a dummy for naps and sleep time can help to reduce the risk of SIDS, so that gave me some peace of mind about our decision xx

hubblybubbly · Apr 6th, 2012, 14:40 PM

I was in the "no dummy" camp too....until willow was a couple of weeks old.

right from the get go she was trying to suck on everything but mainly the back of her hand, but couldn't quite master the thumb/fingers so just got frustrated and cried as she wasn't getting any suction.

So I gave in, and to be honest I havent regretted it one bit! She only has it for naps/bedtime or if she's in a pickle having to wait for food, it's taken away during awake "happy" time.

I'll deal with the consequences of taking it away when she's older, and probably curse myself then!

pupsicle · Apr 6th, 2012, 14:46 PM

To be honest, I would just try LO with one. Some babies just won't accept it. My LO had one from about 8 weeks until 5 months when she ditched it for her thumb. I was a thumb-sucker, her daddy was a thumb-sucker. I won't ever stop her sucking her thumb, if she wants to suck her thumb as an adult she can

(I don't, but I was forced to stop by my parents)

Honeymooner · Apr 6th, 2012, 14:49 PM

We said absolutely NO PACIFIERS! We gave in because LO just needs to suck sometimes and I didn't want my boob to be a giant pacifier. Like your LO she was looking at her fingers and we knew we could limit and wean off a pacifier but not fingers. We didn't give her a bulb shaped pacifier but rather a tube shaped nipple one that closely resembled my nipple so there was no nipple confusion. She hardly uses it but at least it's there is we need it....

queenlavera · Apr 6th, 2012, 14:55 PM

I was also on the no pacifier train, but I think your baby dictates how that goes and mine let me know LOUD and clear that he needed a paci. When he is agitated (after I have done all the things I can do to soothe), nap and sleep time.

xcharx · Apr 6th, 2012, 15:01 PM

I was against dummies, and ended up giving my LO one at around 3 weeks.. we've just got rid of them now

I don't regret it x

Apr 6th, 2012, 14:16 PM	#1
Jims_Girl Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Hampshire, UK Posts: 801	To pacify or not to pacify.... That is my question!! I am well and truly in the "no dummy" camp.... It's just my personal view, I don't like them... Eldest daughter never had one.... BUT!!!!! My 7 week old wants to suckle all the time.... Comfort feeding whenever we go out even though he's not hungry... Desperately trying to find his fingers and is instantly settled by sucking my finger when out (also not a fan but needs must!) So I'm starting to think maybe this baby just needs to suck... So maybe a dummy would be right for him? At least I can keep a dummy clean, I can wean him off a dummy (my sister was still sucking her thumb at 16!!) and we can restrict a dummy use.... I'm so morally torn.... I really don't like dummies.... I would be scared that he would end up with a dummy in his mouth all day and night.... I know all our families would make several comments as nobody in both our families like them.... What are your views ladies?? Really not sure what to do on this one?! Help (no offence intended to anyone x)

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ImmysMom Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: West Midlands Posts: 398	Personally I didn't really want LO to have one, but like yours she comfort sucked a lot and so I eventually gave in and tried her with one hoping it would settle her...she wasn't interested one bit! Lol! If your LO is soothed by it maybe you should try one...if he likes it then maybe you could only give it to him when it's inconvenient for him to comfort suck.

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Blah11 Mum (Mom) BnB Spammer Elite Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 38,244	pacify! my dasughter didnt have one but my son is such a sucky baby that he does and its made my life so much easier than it was with my daughter and i dont need to feed him to sleep, hurrah! He doesnt have it in 24/7 and is happy without it during awake time and when hes playing with his toys/on his mat etc but when he gets tired or in the car when im not beside him or holding him, he likes his dummy.

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bigbetty Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Burton-On-Trent, UK Posts: 8,726	Hey love. I wasn't going to give Fran a dummy either but right from birth she sucked on her fingers and her chin got so sore where she drooled and her fingers rubbed. So we made the decision to give her a dummy - and I've never regretted it. She only has it when she's settling down to sleep or is upset, if she's awake and playing she's not allowed it. It was only when I read through all of the information I got from the hospital that I found out giving a dummy for naps and sleep time can help to reduce the risk of SIDS, so that gave me some peace of mind about our decision xx
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Apr 6th, 2012, 14:40 PM	#6
hubblybubbly Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: South West, UK Posts: 2,218	I was in the "no dummy" camp too....until willow was a couple of weeks old. right from the get go she was trying to suck on everything but mainly the back of her hand, but couldn't quite master the thumb/fingers so just got frustrated and cried as she wasn't getting any suction. So I gave in, and to be honest I havent regretted it one bit! She only has it for naps/bedtime or if she's in a pickle having to wait for food, it's taken away during awake "happy" time. I'll deal with the consequences of taking it away when she's older, and probably curse myself then!

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Apr 6th, 2012, 14:46 PM	#7
pupsicle Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: UK Posts: 1,043	To be honest, I would just try LO with one. Some babies just won't accept it. My LO had one from about 8 weeks until 5 months when she ditched it for her thumb. I was a thumb-sucker, her daddy was a thumb-sucker. I won't ever stop her sucking her thumb, if she wants to suck her thumb as an adult she can (I don't, but I was forced to stop by my parents)

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Apr 6th, 2012, 14:49 PM	#8
Honeymooner Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Posts: 222	We said absolutely NO PACIFIERS! We gave in because LO just needs to suck sometimes and I didn't want my boob to be a giant pacifier. Like your LO she was looking at her fingers and we knew we could limit and wean off a pacifier but not fingers. We didn't give her a bulb shaped pacifier but rather a tube shaped nipple one that closely resembled my nipple so there was no nipple confusion. She hardly uses it but at least it's there is we need it....

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Apr 6th, 2012, 14:55 PM	#9
queenlavera Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: PA, USA Posts: 1,144	I was also on the no pacifier train, but I think your baby dictates how that goes and mine let me know LOUD and clear that he needed a paci. When he is agitated (after I have done all the things I can do to soothe), nap and sleep time.

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Apr 6th, 2012, 15:01 PM	#10
xcharx Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Bedfordshire - u.k Posts: 3,649	I was against dummies, and ended up giving my LO one at around 3 weeks.. we've just got rid of them now I don't regret it x

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