have you tried keeping her awake longer during the day

I have, that was my hv advice as well, but it seems to make her worse. When I get her to nap for longer in the day she seems to sleep better - weird isn't it! X

My LO is 9 months and has never slept through he wakes constantly sometimes every 20-40 mins but sometimes goes a couple of hours. We cosleep every night now he goes in his cot til we go to bed then comes in with us. He still wakes loads but means you don't have to get up sometimes he will wake and hold my arm and sleep again. Pu/pd worked well to get him to sleep and was easier to get back to sleep without being picked up but that went wrong when he got ill, we need to start that again.
After him being up for a couple of hours one night my oh insisted we leave him to cry and put him in his cot. After 5 mins I went and calmed him down but by 10 mins he was sick everywhere I couldn't do it after that.
I can't even remember what it's like to sleep more than a couple of hours in a row but there's not much I can do about it so just have to survive until the day he decides to sleep. Ive also stopped telling people how he doesn't sleep cause think they are sick of hearing it.
It's hard to cope in the day especially now I'm working some days too but hoping he will sleep someday soon!!

I would definitely bring her to bed if it meant I could sleep for 2 hours instead of 45 minutes! My LO sleeps in my bed when my boyfriend is out of town for work and when he's home she sleeps in her crib. We have no problem transitioning back and forth. I also co-sleep with her for naps on the weekends. I seriously love that we both get to take a nap!

When she's in bed with me and starts to fuss around and wake up, I give her a boob and let her nurse back to sleep, which seems to help extend the sleep cycles as well. I read that you'll be switching over to formula soon, but in the meantime you could certainly try letting her nurse back to sleep. (although, the boob is my answer to everything-baby's tired, baby's hungry, baby's teething, etc--so take that for what it's worth )

I know exactly how you feel, it's pretty much one of the first things people always ask - is she a good sleeper? And when you say no she wakes all he time, they make a face and proceed to tell me how great a sleeper their lo or grandchild is. There seems to be this perception that a great sleeper equals a good baby. My lo is such a good baby, really happy smiley, bright, developmentally doing well, but she's a TERRIBLE sleeper and that seems to make people think I'm doing something wrong. X

4 months is too young.

Your OH might want to do it and I bet he loves his sleep.

It will pass.



V xxx

honestly what do you think you signed up for having a baby? self sooth at 4 months old?! my baby is up all hours & I've never had more than a few hours sleep but I knew that's what I was signing up for. let your baby cry all night so it will eventually learn no one cares & will give up & sleep so you can get some sleep. but honestly what kind of person does that make you? letting your own child scream for help alone for sleep.
I think it's sick.

To be fair to the OP, she didn't say she wanted to do CIO, she said her OH wanted to do it but she didn't feel comfortable with it. I'm sure she knows what she was signing up for, and she sounds like a wonderful mum who wants the best for her daughter, including sleep!

to you Meg. Sleep deprivation is HORRIBLE and I can understand that in desperation CIO might seem like the only option, but as you've said yourself I think she's too little for it and it'll just upset you both.

My LO is a bad sleeper too and I have no advice other than to get help whenever you can and take it one day at a time

Gosh Nicky you really have a way with words, yes, we get it, you are the martyr mother that we should all aspire to be Meg does not wish to leave her baby to CIO, she's been struggling for months with a very difficult baby and others keep shaking her confidence despite her doing a GREAT job. I wonder, do you actually read people's threads before lashing out at them?

Our OP is no evil woman, did you read this part???
"I bring lo into our bed a lot of the time it of desperation and it does make her sleep longer, maybe 2 hours instead of 45 mins but never longer than that. Maybe I should try letting her fall asleep in the bed next to us and that will get her in the habit of sleeping longer than 45 min cycles"

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