Wow meg I could have written ur post myself!! We too are struggling with the every 30-45 min wakeups.. At the mo lo falls asleep on me at about 7pm then wen I go up to bed I put her down (usually around 9-10) and then she may sleep there for 45 mins.. If I feel brave I will put we back down after feeding and then maybe again on the next wakeup but after that she just ends up in with us virtually attached to my boob the rest of the night. I don't mind thisi much, the only prob is I'm usually not terribly comfortable and wake up with pain in my side/back as I havent changed position all night and am led slightly awkwardly to ensure lo can reach boobie ok I don't tend to get a decent sleep even with her in my bed but it's better than getting up and down all night..
The prob I have is she still will get a bit upset during the night and I have to get up and sit up to feed her.. Perhaps wind? So she Isn't always so happy lying down feeding. Also if I don't immediately give her boob she will cry really really loud!! And I feel like, prob like you, that this Isn't what I shoul be doing, that lo should be I'm her own bed and she should be going longer between feeds and she shouldnt be given boob everyone she grumbles... But then I think ahh why not, she is my baby, I would neer let her CIO, dear god never, thinking of it breaks my heart.. I just try to think that one day this will have passed and she will be in her own big bed, I know it will pass eventually and as someone else said in a weird way I have just got used to do little sleep!! Only reason I think we put her down at the start of the night is so me and oh have time for at least a little cuddle before she comes in with us :wink:
I know exactly how u feel tho and I too have struggled with the bottle situation.. I wanted lo to take a bottle of expressed so oh could do the odd night but lo point blank refuses every single bottle/teat/cup I have bought!!
And i think You sound like a wonderful mum who just wants a happy baby and a bit of sleep
Anyway i have rambled on enough!! If u ever need to chat pm me... Xxx

we're in the exact same situation! Last night I got lo down for bed at 7pm as usual, she woke up 30 mis later, then I managed o resettle have some dinner and she slept til 9pm when she woke again, so I bought her in bed with me and tried co sleeping, she slept slightly better up to an hour and a half at one point but was still up from midnight to 4am screaming, like she was in pain. I gave her bm and formula to try and eliminate hunger so it wasn't that. Thinking perhaps teething?

Feel just like you about co sleeping and bfing to sleep, like it's something I "shouldn't" be doing but thought it was def worth a go because at this stage all we all need is sleep.

Poor lo keeps "waking up" - inverted quotes because she doesn't really sleep with such dark circles under her eyes, feel terrible for her.

and hope things improve for you also. At least we're not alone! X

Damned TV babies!! I've been noticing a lot lately that all TV babies sleep really well. Someone says "I'm just going to put the baby down" they disappear into the nursery and reappear seconds later saying something like "he went out like a light". Do any babies in real life actually behave this way? I think these TV shows are obviously written by people who have never actually looked after a baby. And then people have unrealistic expectations of what their baby should be like. We're ashamed to admit to others that we have to co-sleep etc. so when people ask if our babies STTN we lie and say yes so it seems like everyones baby is STTN in their own crib apart from our own. It would be nice to see babies portrayed in a more realistic way by the media.

I was watching glee a month or so ago and Rachel's mum puts quins baby down for the night and all I could think was how did she do it so quickly and then not have to tip toe out or whisper/use sign language to communicate through fear of waking baby up.

I've started to lie to people as well about lo sttn its all anyone asks! X

People ask me all the time if LO is a good sleeper and I mostly say yes! It's not so much a lie, I just don't usually like to complain (apart from on here lol!) It's like if someone says "How are you?" you always reply "fine thanks" no matter how you're feeling. Maybe I'll start being more honest i I'm speaking with other mum's so that if they're in the same situation as me they won't feel bad!

This is just rude I have a 9 month old who wakes every 30-45 mins and you will have no idea how hard this is when you have a baby that sleeps for even a few hours at a time. A couple of hours sleep is amazing and you get pretty desperate for sleep. This lady has done nothing wrong and is asking for advice not comments like this.

babies arent supposed to sttn, my first did and i was lucky in that but ds2 was having night feeds till 8 1/2 months then one night he just went to sleep and didnt wake up till morning, ds3 still is up at least once but often 4 times overnight he goes to bed at about 8.30/9pm and first wakes normally around 2am. all babies have growth spurts where they need more food and there is normal sleep regressions when a baby is doing so much developmentaily that they need to be awake those extra hours for their brains to process the extra stuff but they cant drop a daytime nap as then they would be awake too long in one stretch

just one point though overtiredness is a common reason why babies dont sleep, i know with AJ i have to watch his sleep cues carefully and get him down for a nap on time because being as much as 10 min late will caus me to have to rock or cradle him to sleep or wear him in the sling and put up with quite a while of crying.

X[/QUOTE] we're in the exact same situation! Last night I got lo down for bed at 7pm as usual, she woke up 30 mis later, then I managed o resettle have some dinner and she slept til 9pm when she woke again, so I bought her in bed with me and tried co sleeping, she slept slightly better up to an hour and a half at one point but was still up from midnight to 4am screaming, like she was in pain. I gave her bm and formula to try and eliminate hunger so it wasn't that. Thinking perhaps teething?

Feel just like you about co sleeping and bfing to sleep, like it's something I "shouldn't" be doing but thought it was def worth a go because at this stage all we all need is sleep.

Poor lo keeps "waking up" - inverted quotes because she doesn't really sleep with such dark circles under her eyes, feel terrible for her.

and hope things improve for you also. At least we're not alone! X[/QUOTE]



Well I had put lo down at about 10 when I went to bed and then sat up on my fone on b n b til 11 (should have been using this time to sleep but I hadn't expected her to be on there long!! Lol) but I thought I'd try n go to sleep and then she woke about midnight so did 2 hours, which is great for her then had a feed and I had actually intended to put her back down but I fell asleep with her!! Lol... I had propped myself up with loads of cushions and was all comfy nd snuggled with her.. Then she woke around 3 and we lay down and had another feed around 6 but she latches on and off during the night when she stirs... So she is prob waking more frequently but just finds boob and goes. Straight back off... So last night wasn't terrible for me.. Managed to get a reasonable amount of sleep
Thing is my lo did used to sleep great... She was feeding 2 times a night, sometimes once and would go straight back in the basket no probs and then one night she slept through and I couldn't believe it!! Lol... And then all of a sudden she started not wanting to go back down in the basket and wanting much more feeding at night... So i am thinking its the 4 month sleep regression.. Although she started it just after 3 months I'd say...
Thing is I would be over the moon with just feeding her twice a night til she's whatever age!! As long as she was sleeping well in between feeds!!
Ah well hopefully she will pass this and we will get SOME sleep soon

to u too xx