LO out in public

Mummy_to_be87 · Apr 8th, 2012, 14:56 PM

How do you feel about taking your LO out in public?

My LO is usually taken to a mother/baby room and fed and changed before we leave town to go home on the bus because I worry about my LO waking up on the bus and screaming the place down. I worry what people will think and it upsets me!!

How do you react to your LO crying in public?

Have you any advice on how to deal with it?

onlyme101 · Apr 8th, 2012, 15:01 PM

I also worry about this. People stare and it really upsets me. I've learnt now to time trips just after feeding. He's going three hours now so I do get a good two hours in town. X

Jims_Girl · Apr 8th, 2012, 15:02 PM

I just deal with whatever e throws at me.., if he needs feeding I find somewhere nice to sit and feed him.. I tuck the corner a muslin in my bra strap, I refuse to use the baby rooms because the ones I have come across are foul! Either with toilets in them or stinky nappy bins... I wouldn't eat there so my baby isn't going to Either

hubblybubbly · Apr 8th, 2012, 15:04 PM

Willow normally cries on walks while in her pram....I generally just say "i apologise for my child disturbing the peace, I've applied for an asbo for her already" to passers by who stare.

Normally get a "I know how you feel" comment, or a chuckle out of most people which breaks my thought pattern of feeling like a terrible mother! If they don't then I know they're a mardy arse!

If I'm stuck at a queue/checkout and she kicks off I try and pick her up, as she normally stops instantly! X

Lil_Pixie · Apr 8th, 2012, 15:05 PM

I hate it when my son cries on public, he only cries if he's hungry but he goes from fine to starving in seconds!

I used to freak out about feeding him when we were out, when he was little I would literally panic every second we were out about where I can feed him. I'm still picky if I get the cance but yesterday I fed him on the bus - lol id rather someone tut at my bfing than tut at my screaming baby

lau86 · Apr 8th, 2012, 15:06 PM

I felt really anxious when he used to cry in public, especially in a quiet place like a restaurant. I never get the bus but i remember one time I did and he screamed the whole time (he was hungry), but there was no way I could've fed him on the bus. I just felt so helpless and like a total failure and that people were looking and judging. it's got alot easier though and i'm much more relaxed, It's alot easier to tell what's wrong with him so I don't get as het up about his crying. When he cries, ppl will say oh i think he's hungry or tired etc and I will think to myself... you're wrong actually! and it's a nice feeling knowing your baby so well. I think thats partly why the crying upset me so much, I made myself feel like a failure rather than other people who were looking and probably just enjoying the drama lol.

XJessicaX · Apr 8th, 2012, 15:08 PM

LO rarely cries so I guess I don't cope as well as I could when she does. It also depends on the cry and where we are, if its just moaning I just give her something to play with and she always quietens down, if its scream crying due to exhaustion then its harder to quieten her and I can feel myself getting stressed!
Generally though, I don't really worry about going out. As long as shes napped before we go then all is well.

Button# · Apr 8th, 2012, 15:09 PM

I'm fine feeding him wherever, I'll just find a handy bench. I did worry at first about what if he cried but I just take the sling with me and if he gets upset I pop him in and he goes to sleep or at least gets distracted by people watching.

lau86 · Apr 8th, 2012, 15:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Jims_Girl

I just deal with whatever e throws at me.., if he needs feeding I find somewhere nice to sit and feed him.. I tuck the corner a muslin in my bra strap, I refuse to use the baby rooms because the ones I have come across are foul! Either with toilets in them or stinky nappy bins... I wouldn't eat there so my baby isn't going to Either

eugh i totally agree about the feeding rooms... why put them in the same room as the toilets and baby changing facilities? they always STINK of poo.

Mummy_to_be87 · Apr 8th, 2012, 15:17 PM

Phew...I feel SOOOO much better knowing that Im not the only mother who worries about this subject, I constantly worry that when LO is crying on the bus that people think Im a bad mother, I love feeding, changing and then heading out so she sleeps the whole way, but the other day in the Health Centre she woke up and started crying, I felt so embarrassed that she was crying and people were looking!! Now when I see other mums out there with tiny babies that they are probably thinking Im judging them when their baby cries when really Im not, thank you for helping make me feel more relaxed about taking her out!!

My OH says that babies cry and not to worry about what people think, its easier said than done though

Apr 8th, 2012, 14:56 PM	#1
Mummy_to_be87 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2011 Posts: 2,910	LO out in public How do you feel about taking your LO out in public? My LO is usually taken to a mother/baby room and fed and changed before we leave town to go home on the bus because I worry about my LO waking up on the bus and screaming the place down. I worry what people will think and it upsets me!! How do you react to your LO crying in public? Have you any advice on how to deal with it?

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Apr 8th, 2012, 15:01 PM	#2
onlyme101 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Wiltshire, England Posts: 80	I also worry about this. People stare and it really upsets me. I've learnt now to time trips just after feeding. He's going three hours now so I do get a good two hours in town. X

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Apr 8th, 2012, 15:02 PM	#3
Jims_Girl Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Hampshire, UK Posts: 801	I just deal with whatever e throws at me.., if he needs feeding I find somewhere nice to sit and feed him.. I tuck the corner a muslin in my bra strap, I refuse to use the baby rooms because the ones I have come across are foul! Either with toilets in them or stinky nappy bins... I wouldn't eat there so my baby isn't going to Either

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Apr 8th, 2012, 15:04 PM	#4
hubblybubbly Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: South West, UK Posts: 2,108	Willow normally cries on walks while in her pram....I generally just say "i apologise for my child disturbing the peace, I've applied for an asbo for her already" to passers by who stare. Normally get a "I know how you feel" comment, or a chuckle out of most people which breaks my thought pattern of feeling like a terrible mother! If they don't then I know they're a mardy arse! If I'm stuck at a queue/checkout and she kicks off I try and pick her up, as she normally stops instantly! X

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Apr 8th, 2012, 15:05 PM	#5
Lil_Pixie Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 4,904	I hate it when my son cries on public, he only cries if he's hungry but he goes from fine to starving in seconds! I used to freak out about feeding him when we were out, when he was little I would literally panic every second we were out about where I can feed him. I'm still picky if I get the cance but yesterday I fed him on the bus - lol id rather someone tut at my bfing than tut at my screaming baby

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Apr 8th, 2012, 15:06 PM	#6
lau86 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Uk Posts: 3,122	I felt really anxious when he used to cry in public, especially in a quiet place like a restaurant. I never get the bus but i remember one time I did and he screamed the whole time (he was hungry), but there was no way I could've fed him on the bus. I just felt so helpless and like a total failure and that people were looking and judging. it's got alot easier though and i'm much more relaxed, It's alot easier to tell what's wrong with him so I don't get as het up about his crying. When he cries, ppl will say oh i think he's hungry or tired etc and I will think to myself... you're wrong actually! and it's a nice feeling knowing your baby so well. I think thats partly why the crying upset me so much, I made myself feel like a failure rather than other people who were looking and probably just enjoying the drama lol.

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Apr 8th, 2012, 15:08 PM	#7
XJessicaX Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Cambridgshire UK Posts: 8,977	LO rarely cries so I guess I don't cope as well as I could when she does. It also depends on the cry and where we are, if its just moaning I just give her something to play with and she always quietens down, if its scream crying due to exhaustion then its harder to quieten her and I can feel myself getting stressed! Generally though, I don't really worry about going out. As long as shes napped before we go then all is well.

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Apr 8th, 2012, 15:09 PM	#8
Button# Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2010 Location: London Posts: 3,713	I'm fine feeding him wherever, I'll just find a handy bench. I did worry at first about what if he cried but I just take the sling with me and if he gets upset I pop him in and he goes to sleep or at least gets distracted by people watching.

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Apr 8th, 2012, 15:17 PM	#10
Mummy_to_be87 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2011 Posts: 2,910	Phew...I feel SOOOO much better knowing that Im not the only mother who worries about this subject, I constantly worry that when LO is crying on the bus that people think Im a bad mother, I love feeding, changing and then heading out so she sleeps the whole way, but the other day in the Health Centre she woke up and started crying, I felt so embarrassed that she was crying and people were looking!! Now when I see other mums out there with tiny babies that they are probably thinking Im judging them when their baby cries when really Im not, thank you for helping make me feel more relaxed about taking her out!! My OH says that babies cry and not to worry about what people think, its easier said than done though

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