When charlie was 5 days old, we went to MIL. Charlie had cold hands and feet but my MW had said as long as her body was warm she was fine. So MIL commented on how cold her hands and feet were and wrapped her in about 50 layers to the point where i took her and she was bright red and actually boiling! I took all the layers off and she told me that i hadnt learnt enough in 5 days and didnt know what i was doing! She still comments on the cold hands and feet now and tells me 'know wonder the poor childs always ill, you dont keep her warm'
FIL told me about 100000 times when charlie had chicken pox not to let her scratch them! (i heard him the first time), then he said at night i should tie her hands to the bars on her cot so she didnt scratch the ones on her face or they would scar!! i couldnt help but actually laugh out loud, think i would rather a scar than to tie my child down to sleep!
' put honey on a dummy for him' - err no they cant have honey until over the age of 1- reply... well my daughter had it!
Midwife in the hospital when LO was 3 days old - ' Dont wear your baby, he already knows how to play you!! You have to let him cry'
Stupid me i believed her so sat next to him in the hospital while he cried, thinking he would stop as he apparently was doing it on purpose... after 2 mins i was hysterical in tears as i couldnt bare it.... i shortly picked him up and cried with him... To this day i have never let him cry since. SO F'in what, hes my son and i will do anything to comfort him.
Step Mom asking me if he is on solids yet at 3 months and why not? ' Give him some rusk!!!' - F OFF!!!!
Dont feed him in the night just offer water and he will stop waking up.......... You are joking? he would scream the house down!! he is hungry!!!!
Been told to put him in his pram in the garden as the fresh air will make him sleep... apparently they did this years ago... it was middle of december at the time.....
They do sleep better out in the fresh air, always knocks Maria right out! She naps outside all year round.
"you need to top up with a bottle as she's not getting enough from your breasts" - she was just cluster feeding!
I got the one about standing up with give her bow legs as well.
"Leave the baby alone, you're holding him too much, he needs his rest." (from my mother when LO was a newborn)
"Your milk isn't enough for him, he's starving." (mother again)
"Babies are not accessories" (weird lady at the market who saw me babywearing)
"Wow, why don't you put him down, he'll be more comfortable in his own seat?" (other weird lady who saw me babywearing)
"You should give him formula so that he gets some REAL food." (mil)
"You shouldn't kiss babies." (mother)
"He shouldn't be BF at night, let him cry." (from my mother, who sleeps with a full glass of water by her bedside which is empty by morning.)
"Are you still breastfeeding? For how long???" (everyone)
Oh wow, I feel bad putting all that stuff down about my Mother, but I guess things were just different back then. I don't think anyone intentionally wants to hurt our babies but I wonder why all the "advice" we are given goes directly against our intuition as mothers. It's all about put him down, leave him alone, let him cry, don't pick him up, deprive him of milk etc. He's a baby for goodness sake, not training at boot camp.
"always have 2 tins of milk in spare, as you never know holly a war could break out"
Lol!!!!!! Was a personal gave said to me yesterday by my dad on the way to asda to get some formula.
"put a drop of whiskey in her bottle and she'll sleep right through"
She already does.....without the whiskey lol,Mathis was by my 80 year old grandad though so I'll let him off bless him
I'm a,ways getting told shite tbh, and things like don't forget to strap her in she's a right wriggler now, ooooo will she be alright....... Dodgy advice I can take and laugh at most the time like the ones above.... But people just generally telling me what to do with Isabelle grates on me after a while and makes me feel like strangling them at times lol
There's plenty more but can't think off the top of my head at the moment I'm sure they'll come back to me lol
There's some right cracking ones so far on here lol
My parents also constantly comment that her hands and feet r cold. I can assure you I never let her torso become cold!
My mum insists I should leave her wrapped up in hat, mittens etc when we get in from the cold into a warm house to keep her sleeping. Erm, no, I don't think so!
Constantly asked by my dad when she's starting solids. When I say 6 months I get 'oh, poor thing!' grrrrrrr! Also told I should have some formula in the house in case I 'run out' of my own milk because my mum didn't have any milk apparently! I tried to explain that's not how it works .... Not sure why the older generation are so in love with formula, bizarre.
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